Posted by Bob (other posts) on October 11, 2016 at 17:04:03 Previous Next
In Reply to: Need some encouragement brothers. posted by WadeGarret on September 19, 2016 at 03:14:03:
: I been a longhair for roughly 3 years now. Hair is down to about my upper chest region.
: Well brothers, I have to say this has been difficult. 90% of the time I keep my hair up, when I go around town and do my daily tasks. Go to work, etc.
: On the days I wear my hair down, I am treated 100% different. I get looks of scorn. People are afraid of me. People avoid eye contact. Now I usually keep my hair up most of the time, everyday, for the past several months.
: But on days I try to be "me" - Well; let the festivities stop. I'm treated more like a scoungrel, a bum, someone to avoid when the hair is down. Perhaps I should trim it. Not sure.
: When my hair is down, I look like a hells angels biker, or something. When it's up, I look like an Elvis presley, or Paul newman kinda guy.
: And now I'll talk about the ladies. With my hair up and tied back, I get significant positive response to them. When my hair is down. Forget it. I'm invisible and must be avoided. heh.
: So brothers, truth is, I havn't really been having my hair down now for a long time, and I am wondering if I really am a "Long hair" on the inside. Perhaps I am not. Perhaps on the inside, I'm really a clean cut guy.
: Anyway needless to say it's been pretty difficult to maintain that longhair persona that I beleive i am on the inside. Or do I believe I am that persona? It's hard to say. Lot of my idols are rock musicians fromt he 60's 70's and 80's. I had my hair long as a kid. The stigma wasn't that bad in the 90.s
: Being a male in my 30's, and walking through the store with my hair down, I'm treated like a complete outcast. A weirdo and a freak. Truth is I am kind of tired of feeling this way. It drains me energy to feel like a threat to people I'm around.
: Unfortunately I live in a city where alternative lifestyles aren't very encouraged. I live in an area where everyone are clean cut blue collar types. Lots of military. It's rough to be a long hair in this area.
: Need some words of encouragement and help. Some day I plan on moving to Los Angeles or another town where alternative lifestyles are more prevalent. But for now I keep my hair up. Any tips brothers?
Just wear it the way you want, never think about what others may say/think, you be the strong one, they are the weak ones.
I have had long hair 46 years now (since the ripe young age of 11 !!).
My hair is curly, hangs on my shoulders. I work in IT as Manager !! never any issues with hair as first impression ---- I'm clean, well groomed, dressed. When I have gone out on interviews, I pulled my hair in a ponytail, wear a suit/tie, and sharp. I have a moustache/goatee, hey are trimmed.
I live in USA - NJ, and anything here goes --- earrings, piercings, tattoos, shaved heads, facial hair...
I have always done what I wanted to do, and will always follow that until I'm placed in the ground dead.
Keep the hair ----- as long as that is what you like. You like it down, keep it down.