Posted by Cameron (other posts) on May 31, 2020 at 19:10:23 Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Split ends- what do I do? posted by Long hair in Albany on May 31, 2020 at 10:49:52:
I am sorry you have been screwed over so many times by stylists, but I also think the problem is you do not have a long term or trusted stylist. The key to growing healthy long hair is to build a relationship with a stylist who knows your goals and desires, to ask questions, and be firm about what you want.
Now, if you wait a LOOOONG time between haircuts, cutting of a 1/2 inch is not really feasible if you want a cut that looks uniform and clean. This is especially true if growing out hair for the first time to new lengths... until the entirety of your crown has grown to the desired length, you will have to taper the back to get a uniform length. If the hair on top of your head and the nape of neck grow at the same rate, the hair on the top of the head has to grow that much longer to reach the same length as the nape of the neck.
This is why I think it's important to visit your trusted stylist every 3-4 months or so. Not only will they actively nip split ends in the bud and help keep a uniform length as the top of your head hair gains length, but it also builds a rapport with your stylist. They are working people too who want to build lasting relationships and repeat customers. If the house painter paints your hours orange when you asked for green, they won't do well with repeat business or word of mouth. The same is true with hairstylists.
It takes good, two-way, communication. I also suggest tipping well when you find a good stylist, as they will find time for you. I am quite fortunate myself as I have a stylist I see for cuts, he knows my long hair goals and is supportive. He even allows me to book appointments when the salon is closed so I am the only client in the shop. Funnily, I mentioned the idea of going short(er) and he was quite direct to me, saying: "I can cut your hair short or however you want, but if I do, you will be just like 98% of the all the guys that come through here..." and I knew he was encouraging me to be myself and keep-a-growin.