Posted by CarpeMors (other posts) on October 13, 2016 at 11:01:23 Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: I really wish I hadn't cut off my hair... posted by Anthony on October 11, 2016 at 03:35:24:
: This kind of pressure, especially from wives and partners, is like the Jehovah's Witnesses or salesmen at the door who then jam their foot in the door as you're closing it. My wife is more resigned now, but the hints still come through. A couple of days ago "You're losing a lot of hair" as she presents me with a couple of hairs from the floor. She is losing a lot more herself and is fighting the loss with pills from the doctor. The implication is that my hair would be healthier if it were regularly trimmed and presumably as she wants it, a kind of "pageboy" style. Each time this happens, I immediately change the subject as for any other obsessive issues. Don't give an inch - insist on Imperial!
: We have to be intransigent. It doesn't matter who the "other people" are, strangers or family, just clam up if they start. We just have to be ourselves and be confident. Then we won't commit this kind of error. Long hair surely builds up the will, character and personality in face of the corporate anthill "other people" represent.
: We can accept other people in our lives when they are concerned for us and not their "whatever". We count a lifetime's friends on the fingers of one hand!
: Good luck with the second growing...
Thanks for the kind words, Anthony
The pressure I have gotten from others has been manageable, and a learning experience, but the pressure from partners is a whole other level! He too says that he "doesn't care" and then later throws in an aside that I look better with short hair. Also lately, now that I've told him that I'm going to grow it back out, his attitude has been "well, you've cut it off before, it's just a matter of time 'til you cut it off again." Not very supportive, but that's okay, I don't need people's approval. Although, of course, being honest, I would love it if he was actively supportive instead of quietly pessimistic because he doesn't like it.