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What gender are you?
Before you answer, there are only two, it seems that in 2018
there are now many more than two genders.
Below is a list of all the genders.
Complete list of genders
I am a man. The only other possibilities are female and hermaphrodite. I feel bad for the people out there who have lost sanity and go beyond this.
Is it a sex difference or a gender difference?
According to the Publication Manual of the American Psychological Association, "Gender is cultural and is the term to use when referring to women and men as social groups. Sex is biological; use it when the biological distinction is predominant." And according to the World Health Organization, "Sex refers to the biological and physiological characteristics that define men and women. Gender refers to the socially constructed roles, behaviours, activities, and attributes that a given society considers appropriate for men and women."
I would mention that in science fiction fandom there are many who identify as different genders, so much so that they've started using ribbons with their chosen gender pro-nouns. And they will get all
bent out of shape if you address them with the wrong pro-noun.
I would also mention this is all very new, and i'm still coming to grips with it.
I agree that, physically, we are male and female, and a small percentage of people have genetic defects like Kleinfelter's Syndrome (XXY chromosome).
That being said, I utterly abhor the present day ideologies flying about encouraging children to have sex-change operations. However, there is no reason for us to fit into man and woman stereotypes. I think we can be quite "fluid" in our private lives, dress the way we want and experience life the way we want. We all have masculine and feminine elements in our non-material being, in our minds and souls, and it is for us to live that faithfully and do good around us.
As a philosophical Romantic, I live and let live, I try to tolerate people whose choices are difficult to understand. Just as long as people concerned by this subject tolerate those who are not on the same page as they.
Anthony
I have to strongly disagree on that. I know seven individuals who are transgender, in every case they've know for many years that they were born one sex and were trapped in the body of the opposite sex. They know this for many years before they act on it.
In some of the cases they've waited until they were in their 40s or older to finally act on it. Some sadly never act on it, and go through life as the wrong gender. Also suicide among the transgender
population is very high, as is assaults and murders. It's not something you act on at a moments notice.
Hi Anthony,
I always love your responses to subjects like this! Thanks for your input!
Ted
This is a topic that came to the forefront around the last few years at least as a mainstream issue.I feel it was turned political and has been used to drive a wedge between opposing viewpoints.In a way you can thank social media for this.Hopefully people will see though the smokescreen and not try and force issues down others throats.Cheers
Mârk
Hi Mark,
We can thank(?) social media for much of the negative news we hear nowadays. Heck I'm going through a divorce now because of it. So sad.
Ted
Hey Ted,
Wow,what a bombshell this is to hear and so sad at the same time!To be honest, I find most social media to be destructive and facebook tops that list in my opinion.Unlike here at MLHH where I made real friends that I actually met in person I can't say the same about FB. It was especially evident after this last presidential election cycle.Really, I'm so sorry to hear about this Ted.I don't know what gets into people anymore :(
Mârk
No it is not social media. People on social media are only echoing
what they hear their uncle say (at family gatherings), what Rush Limbaugh and others spew on right wing hate radio, and on Fox News. This hatred was spewed long before Facebook, twitter, and others. Heck alot of this hatred was spewed back in the 60s and 70s, long before the internet. (Very few of you are old enough to remember when Nixon was president during the Viet Nam war era.
Also much of this hatred can be traced back even earlier. Go back and read about World War 2 and earlier the hatred of various minorities. The US of A has a long history in this regard. And it predates when Mark Zuckerberg was born, much less when he created facebook at Harvard.
I would also mention that social media is great for keeping in touch with old friends from the past. (I've reconnected with a number of friends from college who I haven't seen 35 years. It also serves the purpose keeping up on friends who have died, news about what is going on with people, etc. (I've now heard about close to a dozen friends who have died through facebook. I also heard news like our (college) outing club lodge in New Hampshire which burned down
three years ago. ) And a number of friends on facebook now live thousands of miles away.
Well, I don't think you can dispute the fact that Facebook has been responsible for relationships failing. Facebook can be a good thing when people don't act like idiots.
Ted
Now I have disagree on that. A number of friends on facebook are
friends who I went to college with all those years ago. A number of other friends are people I met through our civil war group, and a number of friends are folks i've met through science fiction fandom.
But between these various groups i've met them all in person.
I would also mention that while I met some gay folks in college, it wasn't until the 1980s when I got involved in science fiction fandom that I met alot of LGBTQ folks of all kinds. It's very eye opening when you actually meet these folks and get to know them.
How many on this board have actually met a transgender person?
And gotten to know them? I find it very discouraging to see the reaction on this board.
There was a pub I used to go in years ago, and there used to be a conservatively dressed guy called John whose girlfriend was clearly a guy. None of our crowd ever spoke to them, and we all commented that the girlfriend had a five o'clock shadow. That was a long time ago and we were unenlightened. I'd hope if it happened today we would behave a lot nicer.
Hi Mark,
Thanks so much for your kind reply! I have been married 16 years. But when someone wants to walk away you can't make them stay. I just figure this must be what the man above wants for us. Thank goodness we are being civil about it and it should be a clean divorce. I am kind of looking forward to starting a new life for myself. It is a shame though.
I have about 4 months hair growing so far. Can't wait to get back to where I was! I sure do miss my long hair! Not sure if I will wait until 1 year to post an update. I'm trying to get all the hair back to one length again. Just have to be patient.
Please take care and thanks again!
Ted
Hi Ted,
I have to say it was a shocker when you mentioned the divorce as it is sad considering how long you two were together.Maybe its for the best but only you two will determine that.At least it will be civil as you mentioned.
I still assume your medical condition is the same from the last time you brought that up here.It would be a blessing if you could finally put that behind you as well.
On the hair front its basically patience,patience,patience as you know.I'll look forward to your update whenever you decide to post it my friend.Please keep the faith.Cheers
Mârk
Hi Mark,
Thanks for the reply! Yes, very sad. I may send you a private message if you don't mind. Your well wishes are truly appreciated my friend! Faith always prevails in troubled times! Please have a wonderful day!
Ted
Hi Ted,
Anytime you feel compelled to message me I would be glad to hear from you my friend.I feel bad your going through these issues but sometimes life throws you curve balls.We just hope better days are in our futures.Cheers
Mârk
Hi Mark,
Message sent. Thanks!
Ted
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Hey Ted,
If you sent a message I didn't receive it yet just so you know.Cheers
Mârk
Hi Mark,
It might have gone to your spam folder. Check for mnhoriginalgum@yahoo.com.
Ted
Dear Ted,
I'm sorry to hear you are going through this because your wife is indoctrinated with some ideology. Indeed, if she can't get past that and be a decent human being about things, then it is better that she should move on. I hope the divorce will be clean, simple and not too expensive.
I too hope you will soon get your new kidney and that you can enjoy life and do what you really want to do.
Keep the hair growing!!!
Anthony
Hi Anthony,
Thanks so much for your kindness! I am doing pretty good considering everything. I can send you a private message if you don't mind. Rather not clutter the board with this stuff:).
Please take care of yourself my friend!
Ted
Hi Anthony, Message sent my friend!
Ted
I will go to the end of the earth to defend a person's gender claim. However, I have much trouble believing we are created this way by the Lord above.
Ted
Hilarious. I'm a straight guy.
