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Hey guys :)
So I've been growing for about 8 months now, and as such my hair is the longest its been in my life. I'm still 17, and I live with my parents. My mom has been very supportive, telling me that I get to choose what to do with my hair. My dad on the other hand hates it. He constantly tells me to cut my hair and says it looks ugly. I'm not sure how to deal with him. It's not like he can force me to cut it, but at the same time it's kind of annoying and hurtful to hear these things coming from him :( I'm going to college in a year anyways, but till then how can I handle this situation?
Thanks,
Avi :)
Hi Avi, welcome to the mlhh.Sounds like you are on your way to becoming a true longhair at 8 months of growth so I'm assuming you may be experiencing the awkward stage around now.That could be the reason your dad doesn't like it but trust me as your hair gets longer it will look fabulous :) Be thankful that your dad doesn't insist on a haircut being your still living under his roof at the moment.My advice is to ignore any negative remarks and just follow your heart.If possible please post a pic of your hair being its fun to see how hair progresses during the growing out process.Anyway be true to yourself as you are the only one that matters when it comes to your hair length.Unless its a compliment I wish people would keep negative opinions to themselves.Have a great weekend and Merry Christmas to ya if we don't hear from you before then my friend.Cheers
Mârk
Thank you Mark :) I did post a picture of my hair in my previous post, I think you can see it if you click on my username. I'll try my best to ignore him and keep growing. Thanks for the support ^_^
I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.
I've known too many guys over the years who have dealt with this and yes, he can force you to cut it. I've known guys whose parents actually did cut their hair for them or dragged them down to the barber shop or even threw them out of the house.
My suggestion is to accept what dad wants in the mean time.
Wait until a year later when you're at college and can then be free to grow your hair.
I would be respectful but I would keep growing my hair. Most parents give up eventually.
Darrin
Depends on the parent.
I grew up in the 1960s. I knew classmates and friends who grew their hair long and there were some parents who physically brought their kids to the barber shop to have their hair cut. And there were parents who took a pair scissors and did the dead themselves. Not all parents gave up eventually.
I don't think he's going to force me and drag me to the barber shop, he's not really that type of dad. But things might change so who knows, I just hope that it never comes to the point where he threatens to make me cut it or throw me out of the house.
Hey man! I've been growing for about 2 years and started almost the same age as you. I was also living at home and got a lot of push back from my family. Just stick it out and it will get better. Once I could tie all of it back things started to die down and eventually people let it go and some actually started to say it looked good. My mom hated my hair, but now she loves it.
After 5 years growing my hair, my family started to get more tolerant about it, I wouldn't say they like it, they just don't give a damn right now, but everytime a fight starts between us, my hair is the first subject that comes to the mouth...
I've found alot of it comes down to age. When I was younger i got lots of complaints about the hair. But once I reached the age of 45 it all stopped. After i reached the age of 45 all the complaints stopped. For family I was that eccentric uncle who had long hair For cmployers and friends I was that eccentric with long hair. The bottom line is people love to dump on those who are younger.
I'm now 64 years old and have now experienced two decades of complaint free long hair farming. So for me, at the age of 64, I love having long hair that is all grey now. Eccentricity is great.
Hey Avi! Quick note: if you get it pro-trimmed just a bit to keep Dad happy, and not enough to set you back 2far, you will be father ahead in being in accord with your father, AND you will gain new accord in letting it keep growing. And besides, hair keeps growing, for most of us that still have it!
