Posted by Avi (other posts) on May 16, 2020 at 21:56:34 Previous Next
In Reply to: Re: Starting to feel discouraged... considering a haircut :( posted by Erik on May 11, 2020 at 07:36:31:
: I think what you're going through is perfectly normal, Avi! Every guy who grows his hair long has his doubts, even the ones who are ride-or-die longhairs (like me, lol). I've been growing my hair for a little over 2 and a half years, and my hair's only just grown past my shoulders. It can be EXTREMELY frustrating to play the waiting game. However, I have a friend whose hair has been waist length for over a decade at this point, and he told me the urgency to have long hair will go away around the 2-foot mark. He also told me to cherish what hair length you have, and try to live in the present. I know it's hard, but it definitely helps!
: Regarding dating life, you should ask yourself two questions: "Would I be happy being in a relationship with a woman who does not respect my desire to have long hair?" If the answer is no, then your choice is clear. You need to learn to love yourself before you learn to find someone who loves you, not the other way around. Women love a man who knows exactly who he is and what he wants. I must also add that there are tons of women out there who love men with long hair.
: Hope this helped!
Thanks so much! Hearing what your friend had to say really gave me hope and made me really want to wait it out till that point, because once I'm there I'll feel so much happier :) It's the journey not the destination, as they say :D
Thanks for that advice regarding dating. I definitely want to prioritize loving myself and my needs rather than what a potential partner would want, so you definitely made me realize that I'm the first priority, not women. Thanks :D In any case I'm going to stick at it and keep growing it out, and not make a brash decision. I think it'll be great :) Thanks a lot ^_^