Posted by Ken in SF (other posts) on September 26, 2020 at 04:47:58 Previous Next
In Reply to: 4 Years into my Journey posted by Steve on July 31, 2020 at 03:09:03:
When starting out in a brand new relationship (like engaged to be married, for example), it's easier to make things very clear: "Either you accept me as I am and want to be -- or we need to end this relationship."
However, if you've been married to the same person for a long time, -- and she/he first knew you as a short-haired person -- then it's understandable that this conflict might be a bit more challenging to work out. Still, you can keep this thought in mind: she is talking about YOUR hair! You always have the right to do as you please with the hair on your own head, which is attached to your own body. Period.
The "down" side to above way of thinking, however, is that she might want to leave you.
Only YOU can make these kind of difficult decisions. I know what I would do; but, I'm not married to your wife!
I vote for keeping your hair as long as you wish it to be; but again, I'm not standing in your shoes.
- Ken in "lib-tard" San Francisco, California