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I am sick and tired of the comments I am getting from my coworkers and peers regarding my growing hair! Not a day goes by when I don't get at *least* one comment like "when are you going to get your hair cut", "what's up with your mop?" or "you really need a hair cut". Thus far I have passivly shrugged off these comments, but it is starting to wear on my paitience at this point. My end goal is to have shoulder length hair. In the past I have worn my hair pretty short, getting a hair cut every 5 weeks or so on a regular basis. At this point I have gone 11 months with only 2 maintenance trims. My hair is about 5 inches long and is just below my ears, a little longer in the back. The two week rule has saved my several times, but I getting real sick and tired of the comments. I try real hard to keep my hair neat and professional during work hours, but it still has that growing out "need a hair cut" look. Any comments are welcome...
NY LONGHAIR -ALMOST!
All long haired men at one time or another get negative comments from their peers or co-workers. I don't know what kind of work you do, but if it's allowed, maybe you can wear a baseball cap. The hat has kept that awkward stage that I went through under control. It has also kept the hair underneath really healthy. Now my hair is almost one length and past the shoulders. I still wear the hat until it's long enough for all the hairs to fit in a ponytail. I once posted a question on this board about how to respond to negative comments and received alot of responses that helped me. Hang in there, they want you to get a haircut because they don't like the idea of you being independent and not conforming to their ideal of hair length.
my best advise is to simply continue to shrug it off. people will make comments from time to time. if they are trying to provoke you, then any response is udesirable as it gives them the satisfaction they are looking for. if it's out of some misguided concern for your well-being, then point out that their life must be pretty smooth sailing if all they have to worry about is the length of your hair. you gotta reconcile yourself with the given that if you choose to set yourself apart from the rest of the pathetic herd by looking different, then comments go with the territory. do not let the display of a character weakness of someone else deter you from doing something that makes you happy.
Two comments...
Many men find such comments slack off a lot once their hair grows out to the point they are a sheep hopelessly lost from the shorthaired fold, so better times probably lie ahead.
Make it clear their comments are not wanted, and remind them that persistent unwanted comments about your body, after receipt of such notice, constitute harassment.
Right! The key word is PERSISTENT.
ha-rass tr.v. ha-rassed, ha-rass-ing, ha-rass-es.
1. To irritate or torment PERSISTENTLY.
per-sist-ent adj.
1. Refusing to give up or let go; persevering obstinately.
2. Insistently repetitive or continuous.
3. Existing or remaining in the same state for an indefinitely long time; enduring.
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It'll pass. Right now you probably look like a short haired guy
in serious need of a haircut. As it grows out, you'll become a
longhair and the comments will stop for the most part.
Hang in there!
-Zorba
If you are the non-confrontational type, humor these butt-inskies by saying, "OK, I'm going to get a hair cut. (HOLD UP A SINGLE HAIR) How about this one right here?"
If you are the confrontational type and don't care about alienating people, you could try something along the lines of "bite me".