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I've been reading some of the old archives from this board on the topic of women finding men with longhair attractive. From what I can gather, some women do like it and some don't, with perhaps more on the don't side of the equation.
What I am curious to find out though is the women who do not like men with longhair, do they not like them purely because they have longhair or is it more of a issue of not liking them because the guys hair looks ugly, unkept and/or lacking style? I have seen many guys with longhair who don't look after it properly, have no style to it and it looks more like they are growing it for the sake of having longhair at any cost. I have also seen a minority of other guys with longhair who treat their hair just like a women does, keeping it nice and clean, well trimmed and most important of all 'styled'.
Now I'm not a woman (or gay either) but I would be more inclined to think that a man with well manicured, trimmed and styled hair would be more attractive then a man who just has longhair (even if it is well-looked after). Using a bit of reverse-thinking (if that is the correct terminlogoy) I find a woman who has longhair and keeps it well looked after, clean, shiney and styled much more attractive then a woman who has longhair which is rather unkept, frazzled looking and has a look about her that she just doesn't know what to do with it.
So getting back to my original question, is this more the reason why some women don't like men with longhair? Using Brad Pitt as an example (perhaps not the best subject of choice), when he was in the movie 'Legends of the Fall' he had longhair that looked well looked after and had a bit of style to it, did the fact he had this longhair deter women from liking him? I don't think so, but just say his hair looked rather dirty, damaged, coarse and frazzled, would the same women still of liked him or would most be turned off by his unkept look? Perhaps it might not of made any difference as women were just attracted to him because of his facial and physical looks but I'm curious to know.
What does everyone else think? Am I making sense and perhaps identifying the root cause? I'd be interested to know everyone else's opinions.
Gordo
Root cause .. punny
Anyway, I'm not a woman, but I think in today's style context unkempt hair can be acceptable. There is a shorthair style of unkemptness that is quite popular. What I imagine turns women off is dirty, or otherwise unhealthy hair. I am about a year into growing my hair out. I brush it every few days, but aside from that it's unstyled. Sometimes I wear a ponytail - pointed down - and the front sides can go behind the ears, or maybe some locks will come down. But my hair is clean, thick, blond and otherwise luxurious. I don't have much a problem getting women, so take that for what it's worth I guess. I'm sort of a neo-hippy, so maybe the norms of my community are a variable.
I May Be a Women But i Do Not Speak For All Of My Gender. Personally I Love Long Hair On A Man. i Think This Only Serves To Increase His Attractiveness. My Husband Had Long hair When I Met Him. I Thought He Was Gorgeous. Unfortunatly Because of His Job Had To Cut It. I hated Every Minute Of That Damn Haircut. But i Digress , I Know For Myself That My Friends And I Like Men Better With Long Hair Than Without.
Agree. As for style, as I see it, we should pick styles which are
either wholly masculine, or generally perceived as right for both
males and females. We'd relly have to try them - with attendant
social risks - to see what usually works.
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Ever since Adam, guys have been asking, "What do women *really* want?" Good question, but unfortunately for us, there are as many answers to that question as there are women. If a woman doesn't like long-haired men, even if it's clean, neat, and "stylish," there are zillions of possible reasons. Here are a few:
The men she has customarily viewed as desirable don't look like that.
It looks foreign to her, and she doesn't like foreigners.
She takes hair length as a gender cue, and she's not interested in feminine men.
It may indicate poverty (can't afford a haircut).
In her mind, it signifies protest of some kind, and she's a conformist.
Reminds her of Che Guevara, and she's a Little Havana resident.
She associates it with certain Eastern religions, and she's a Pat Roberston adherent.
The only longhairs she's used to seeing are either movie bad guys, or the weekly "guest stars" of America's Most Wanted.
Your hair is prettier than hers, and she doesn't want to compete.
Maybe her name is Delilah?
. . . or any of a thousand other reasons. One thing I have noticed, however: A certain number of women who say they don't like long-haired men are often willing to take a second look if the longhair is rich and/or famous.
But why worry about anyone -- man or woman -- who would reject you solely because of your hair length? Seems to me, that one of the benefits of being a longhair in the Kingdom of the Buzzed is that you are blessed with a built-in jerk-alert radar system, right on top of your head. Happy Fourth of July.
. . . JP in san diego.
bingo... it sure saves time finding out the hard way.
Jaypeeee....I second your comment. What a well thought out, funny, totally cOoL comment. Well done mannnnnnnnnnn.....
Russ: Thanks, man. Kind words are always appreciated. Best Regards.
. . . JP in san diego.
I just discovered your website and am very excited. With the trend going towards short to ultra short hair for men, I feel kind of isollated
with my preference for men with long hair.
I like well-groomed long hair on a man, it has feel and taste
good. I want to see that he has long hair not just because he is too lazy to get it cut, but that he cares about it and takes care of it. That to me is extremely sexy.I like to caress it and love the feeling of it against my face and body when making love.
I think beautiful long hair is a sign of masculinity and virility.
Bald men look like they were neutered.
Is your long hair also connected in some way to your sexuality ?
And I don't mean that ignorant cliche of being gay. How does it play a role when you are with a lady ? Does it play a part in any fantasies you have ? Do you ever think about (with either pleasure
or fear) of your girlfriend cutting your hair ?
Why do you think that the "acceptable norm" for men today is short hair, while long hair styles were popular in many historical eras ?