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I hope this is not offensive to anyone on the board, but I don't know who else to ask! I have long, straight, thick hair to the middle of my back. My boyfriend wants to experiment with light bondage, and wants to tie me to a chair and gag me. I'm not sure the best way to handle this with my long hair--do I have to put it up (which I hate) or leave it down and take my chances? I know this is a weird question but I really don't know how to proceed...
Antonio,
If you would like to discuss this further, drop me your email and we will take it off-line.
Madoc
is everyone here gay!???
Nah, some of us are straight. Is that okay? If that makes you uncomfortable, I can recommend some
sites that are pretty much exclusively gay. Best.
. . . JP in san diego.
nah, maybe recommend some sites that are exclusively straight though.
THERE IS NO PLACE IN THE WORLD THAT IS EXCLUSIVELY STRAIGHT. GET USED TO IT -- NO NEED TO BE THREATENED. JIM.
Well, Madoc sure isn't. Just check out his site (which he advertises in every post).
Well, no, not in EVERY post. Just check the one on Bondage and Safety up above. See, it's not in that one. So there! ;P
Yes, this IS another link to my site. But I thought that is what you are supposed to do put here!
Who said you had to put a link to your site in every post? It's a little too self-promoting, not to mention distracting. Makes it look like every one of your posts is about your site, even when you may be talking with/about someone else. Kinda cheesy, that's all.
"Kinda cheesy?" Well, damn me for filling in every line! I thought this board was all about being open and honest with each other. That is why I ALWAYS include my email address with each post so that people here have a way of getting in touch with me privately. I think it also is indicative that I am willing to stand behind my words. No, that is not conclusive proof but I think it more so than not including your real email address in your postings.
"Self-promoting, not to mention distracting?" Who are you kidding? This board is all about the hair. The Longhair. We can describe it with words but it is much more effective to show pictures of it. We could include pictures of ourselves with every post, and there is an option below to do just that. However, if we already have our pictures up on our own site then there is no need to post them here as well. That is why there is also the option to put in a link to your own site. I hardly find that distracting. As to it being self-promoting, well, yeah. That is what it is supposed to be for.
I know when I am responding to someone on this board I like to have some idea of what they look like. It helps make it more real for me. This ties in with including your email address in your posts. It better establishes that you are a real person who is willing to stand behind what you post and are not just here to flame others or troll for the consternation it causes.
So far, "another one," you are the only person to object to my making use of the standard features of this board. I tell you what, why don't you get some photos of yourself scanned in and then set them up on a geocities site like I did with mine. Then you too can put your real email address on your posts and you too can put a link to your site on your messages like I do mine. That way there will no longer be any URL envy. (g)
Madoc
Nope. Not everyone. Some of us are bi. Some of us (gasp!) are even women! (perish the thought)
We are all here for the Longhair though and that is what keeps us here.
There are other resources out on the Web for Gay Longhairs, most notably Bill Choisser's site. If you would like, either JP (who is straight) or I (who is bi) can send you a whole list of them if you are so inclined. Just let me know. Off-line even, if you would like.
Madoc
Very well said, Madoc. We are all here for each other.
Victor has always requested that "personal ads" - ads to meet other people for relationships - not be posted here on this board. There was originally no outlet for those posts so they were still ending up here. About two years ago, a site visitor named Greg and I each offered to create boards for straights and gays, respectively, to meet that need, and Victor said "go for it" and gave us his blessing. Greg never got his board on line, and eventually Victor put the "relationships" board up that you see mentioned on this site. These boards have served their purpose - personal ads now tend to end up there and not here.
In the FAQ for my board for gays, I encourage people to post things that do not have to do with relationships, or in-house politics of the gay longhair community, HERE. Our overall longhair community is small and should not be diluted.
Someone asked, in another post in this thread, why there aren't separate boards like this one for straights and gays. One could carry that further and ask why their aren't separate boards for blacks and whites. After all, our hair at least is different, which is what really matters, if anything. ((grin)) The answer is, of course, that longhairs are a small minority as it is, and we need each other. Also, we do have similar problems - if a young white straight man is being hassled about his hair by the hair bigots, an old black gay guy on here may just be the one who has the words of encouragement he needs. I'll add that minorities such as gays and blacks are accustomed to dealing with bigots and can offer a lot of strength to others who might be confronting them for the first time in their lives.
So why separate the "relationships" posts then? Three reasons. One is that those posts need to hang around for a while, so the process for removing old posts is different. Another is that the activity attracts, to some extent, a different audience -- a lot of people are in a relationship and aren't looking. The third reason is that they are essentially an adult activity and Victor wants this to be a family-oriented board.
That is not to say that everything you read on here will be candy-coated and pretty. Discrimination is ugly, and it is a reality that most of us have to face, and younger longhairs, the most vulnerable, catch far more than their share of it. Violence is even uglier, and younger longhairs catch more than their share of that, too. And sadly, some of this stuff, the worst of it, comes from within families. So young people, more than anyone, need access to a place those issues are dealt with.
Those who hate us, as part of their arsenal, will tell us we're ugly. So part of the support that goes on here is that we compliment one another and let other longhairs know when they are attractive. This means a lot to some of us. We also comment on the attractiveness of public figures who are longhairs. This is all a mild flirting at its strongest, and is an activity of support. As I see it, that's a very different activity than coming onto people heavily, which most of us would agree is inappropriate in a venue such as this, one not set aside for that purpose.
My two cents worth on why our community is segregated or not, in the way that it is....
Who cares? I never even thought about sexuality when I first came across this board. This is about long hair. Grow a clue.
Some may say, "don't do anything that might jeopardize
strands of your luxurious hair," but I say, "getting tied
up on a regular basis is better than having long hair anyway."
My advice: I would say put it up in a high pony.
Once the head apparatus is in place,
you're tied securely or whatever,
you might want to let it down.
I always put mine up, keeping it out of the way
(except for a few dangly strands),
during activities which involve straps and restraints.
YMMV
~bliz0wn