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I went to work yesterday with my hair tied back with a little gel to keep it from falling out of the pony tail. A co-worker walked up to me and said, "you look gay". My question is, how does your hair tied back make you "look gay"? What the hell does that mean? I'm not gay and was offended by this remark. I said, "At least I have hair". He is really young and going bald. If I wasn't in the office at work, I would've said alot worse things.
WELL! This just shows how little this guy know about gays. Gays are often pioneers and perhaps tended to have longer hair in the 50s, but now-a-days for most gays long hair is retro. If he lived in Western North Carolina he might with greater accuracy asked if you were a red neck. Try to find a way to suggest to your co-worker that the world is much more complex than he might imagine.
Your coworker is a retard. If he's smaller than you, be sure to punch him in the face out of the office.
Or be mature and ignore him.
You DON'T look gay with a gelled ponytail. I've been wearing a pony tail like that for over 4 months and the only comments I've heard were like "You look slick".
Your coworker is just jealous of your hair, because he's going bald. Or whatever. He is trying to insult you. This is nothing but insult.
Would you like to know what most gay people look like? They have the ultra-masculine look--after all, almost all gay people like "manliness" of buzz cut hair, not the "girliness" of long hair.
Just ignore the retard. There are plenty of morons in this world and we don't have to pay attention to all of them.
My response would have been: "Don't get your hopes up..." That usually shuts them up.
you shouldn't have dignified the comment with any reply. if your co-worker is that narrow-minded- it's his problem until you make it yours. people like him say things because they want to push your buttons. your reply told him that he hit the mark. saying alot more (had you been outside of work) would only have encouraged him all the more. are people like that worth the energy necessary to get pissed off? prove that you are the more mature person and don't engage in such petty stupidity.
I think it is a general problem that some people in a working area try to offend others. I heard from someone who liked it to give sarcastic comments and after an intelligent reply he really tried to beat the replier. It needed several people to stop him.
It can also be naivity. Young people often don't know the consequences of their behaviour. A possible strategy against such comments could be to request an answer: "why do you think so?" or "do you try to offend me?" or "please give a foundation". It could be necessary that you explain your doing in detail (depending from the stupidity of the co worker).
For some people it is a game to discover the weak points of others and to beat in it.
There only helps patience and observation. You need more insight about the personality of this co worker, why he react in this way, and also about your own prejudice. I hope there is at least one person in your working or personally environment who knows more about you and with you can discuss the problem.
I think it's the only reasonable way to solve such problems.
Besite that, I am not able to decide if someone is a gay or not, if I have no further information. I am quite sure that the two men with ponytails in my firm are heterosexual, but I don't know. I have seen a man with a very feminine hairstyle (it seems so that he really takes care with his hair) but I can not say anything about his sexual orientation.
maybe he is gay and wanted to find out if you were gay too so he could make a move on ya heh
i'm afraid i must disagree with your suggestion. the accuracy of your co-worker's observation is immaterial. the only reason he is making the comments at all is to get a reaction. the suggested response can only evoke more frequent and offensive comments. the best response by far is no response at all. if this jerk persists he will look foolish. maintain your composure and never give these types of people power to put you in a bad mood. i'm not saying this is easy... it isn't- it can take alot of effort, but life's alot easier if you don't let people push your buttons.