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About a month ago my dad made me hey a hair cut. I asked if I could just get a trim and he said ok. I go to get my hair cut and I ask the guy to just trim an inch or so off. He cuts about 5 inches off before I can tell him to stop! This really made me mad because my hair was only about 14 or 15 inches long and it always kinda shrunk or something , because when its wet its about 3 or 4 inches longer, its not that curly, its mostly straight.
So before I went in just thinking it was going to be a normal trim, and it ending up being a full hair cut, I had really long awsome reddish/brown hair.
It does kinda feel like its geting back to normal. But the guy who cut it also put layers in it, so its really thin near the bottom and it gets pulled out easily. The guy gave me bangs too, the shortest part of my bangs is only about 3 or 4 inches long, and the rest of it is about 9 inches long.
I think in about 2 or 3 months itll be pretty long again and I can just even it about a bit.Myself, cause this is the 3 time I've went to get a trim and ending up being really mad because the guy cut too much off, but they're trained to cut hair to look good, and they think short hair looks good.
That's my introducing message, I'll be siging up soon.
This is the perfect example of why to never go in just for 'trims' when you don't know who is cutting your hair. MY parents have told me to get my hair layered and trimmed so many times, this is one reason i refused - the fear of loosing all my hair. Your hair was over a foot long and you let some stupid jerk chop it all off in 5 minutes. The fact that he left bangs and some at chin length is quite disturbing. Sounds like an 'emo' haircut to me. If these scenerios have been repeated over and over again why wouldn't you learn from the first time and stop going to this wicked hairdresser ?! If you keep going back there you are almost saying to the hairdresser, "here i am, now chop off all my hard work of growth off".
It will be hard to resist against your parents force but you should atleast go to a better hairdresser(not this dodge) and explain in detail what you want. Are you going to a barber or a proper salon? Barbers are for short male cuts, please don't go there unless you want to walk out with 1/2 an inch of hair!
If this happened to me i would go hysterical and get depressed over it. Not worth it man.
My mother often goes on about layering whenever she sees me. I'm never going to do it. Even if I wanted one of those '70s layered cuts, hairdressers and barbers aren't used to doing them on men anymore.
You don't need any trims or things done to even-out your hair. It has to GROW! Unless your Dad is impossible and you have to live by his rules and have to get trims, you will never make it to Long Hair.
Don't go there no more man!
Hi,
sorry to hear that you've been duped. I hate to say it, but for most people, five inches (12.5 cm) is 10-12 months worth of growth. On the other hand, if you went from 15 to 10 inches, that's still a pretty good mane.
Did it occur to you that your dad might have called ahead to that barber to make sure that the trim would be a good one? Some parents who are into short hair on their sons have no hesitations about doing just that kind of thing.
What leverage do your parents have on you? Are you below legal age? Are you financially dependent upon them? Do you live with them? Or do they just make you feel guilty? (you certainly do NOT owe them a specific hair style.)
If all their leverage would be to nag you, then you simply could leave the room everytime they start nagging - or better tell them that you don't discuss this issue with them - and stick with it. Part of growing up as a man is setting firm borders for our parents.
Do they give you reasons why they want your hair shorter? That's not necessarily bad, because all these reasons can be refuted - there aren't any good reasons that truely hold water.
Or can they give no reasons at all? That's also good, because then you can point out just that fact. You don't have to give reasons on your part to grow your hair (if you give them reasons, you become vulnerable).
Just stay away from any "trims" for a year at least, and if you do decide to have one, don't even discuss it with your parents, and make sure you find a trustworthy stylist - ask other long-haired guys, they should know.
Still, there is no reason for despair, 10 inches is not bad, and your hair will grow back.
Best wishes,
Hans-Uwe
I went to Fantastic Sams for a "trim" and this guy who acted like a space cadet chopped off about seven inches or so with 3/4's of my ear showing afterwards and barely collar length. I had informed him previously that I wanted to "keep it long" , but I guess he had no clue what I meant. I was really ticked off and didn't tip him and even informed him that he didn't listen.
needless to say I never went back to the shop again after that.
wow, you should find someone that only cuts hair the way you want it, i hate getting haircuts by people that think they'll just cut it how they want: About a month ago my dad made me hey a hair cut. I asked if I could just get a trim and he said ok. I go to get my hair cut and I ask the guy to just trim an inch or so off. He cuts about 5 inches off before I can tell him to stop! This really made me mad because my hair was only about 14 or 15 inches long and it always kinda shrunk or something , because when its wet its about 3 or 4 inches longer, its not that curly, its mostly straight.
