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...Homosexual?
Im straight, I dont have a problem with people who choose be different. My close female friend suggested I get my hair trimmed and styled by a real well known one (in my area) this week.
Is that ok. A good idea? Anyone have any experiences or advice?
I've always heard they are the best to go to. When im back in Orlando, i have this one guy who i like to go to, and he does a damn fine job, only cuts off what needs to be cut off. And im pretty sure hes gay heheh
Their sexuality isn't going to determine how bad or how good they are with hair. If he's a professional at salon.. then go! He ain't gonna mess up your hair just cause he is gay..
LOL, don't discriminate against gays. It is like others discriminating against you cause you have long hair, it is just irrational and stupid.
Sexuality has nothing to do with how competent or imcompetent a hairdresser is. If he listens to what you need and does a good job then that is all that matters, not his sexuality.
Good luck and keep an open mind.
I see absolutely no reason why it wouldn't be "ok." I mean really, a Human Being is a Human Being. Just "what" they are has nothing to do with their abilities.
Sadly, my own sister has an intence dislike of Gays. I have many a time asked her what she dislikes about them and I always get back a religious answer of some type. She sings in a church choir. Every year they present "Messiah" by Handel. (Handel was Gay and left to the world one of the greatest masterpieces ever composed.) I tell her of this and she plugs her ears. She only wants to hear what "she" wants to hear. And oh............how she loves singing "Messiah" as do all the other choir members. Their biggest event of the year! And even further, she will not get her hair done UNLESS it is done by someone who is gay. Reason? She says "they are more artistic and do the best job."
Alas, mentality such as this exists all over the place by the millions. A tragic commentary of the society in which we live today when we should be puting our minds to helping needy people in our own country, not to mention in the towns in which we live.
i dunno i think that the hairdreser profession attracts gay men more than straight, that said i think that good male hairdressers gay or straight do hair well becuase they understand fellow males better especially when descrubeing what i want done with my hair....women tend to just ignore me and do what they want becuase they think i dont know what im talking about.....thats just my experience tho and for the record i dont intend to get a haircut for at least 6 months becuase as ive already posted ive had 2-3cm trimmed off becuase that was really split bad hair from b4 i decided to grow it
as for the other stuff, from my expericence at school the gay (theres only like 3 at my school) kids get a hard time from some other guys is becuase for some reason they think that becuase they like men they must like all of them and so tihnk that they want to have relations with them......im straight but im friends with a gay and at my school thats unheard of for a male so they think that im going out with him or something and so when they tell me im gay i point out to them that im not and even if i where i would still think there ugly little pricks :p
btw has anyone seen a bbc comedy called little britain?? theres a really funny skit about "the only gay in the village" its rather funny(not im a cruel way)
If your friend suggested him, he's probably good, but just because someone's gay doesn't mean they're immune to being sucky haircutters and/or listeners. The normal "someone is cutting your hair" things apply.
That's ok. We don't have a problem with people who "choose" to be straight, either :)
LukeB
hi, sorry i just had to express my point, the way u said "choose" to be different, that is typical of somone who dosent understand homosexuality, no one choses to be gay, you just are,
and as for it being a good idea or not, well gay men are more femimin that straight heirdressers, obviously, so well just as long as you tell him exactly what u want there shouldent be any problem.
SITM **
Sorry to get at you, dude, but saying that gay men are more "feminine" than straight ones is also typical of someone that doesn't understand homosexuality. It's the same deal with people calling male longhairs gay. I'm straight, but for some reason I don't see why a guy that's attracted to another guy has to be feminine. That's more along the lines of a fetish of wanting a female in a male's body.
Well I think I know what Ben is trying to say here. Some gay men can be more feminine in their mannerisms etc. Here in the UK there has always been a stereo type that some male stylists are rather quite camp but not necessarily gay.
John.B
Well, some, of course. I'm just saying that a lot of people make sweeping generalizations about them, saying "gay people are this and that," never adding that only some of them are like this and that. I mean, they're just people, like anyone else. There's no reason for them to be different in anything but orientation.
But stereotypically, yeah. It's gone so far as that my friends point out people on TV that they seriously think are gay, and girls talk about having "gaydars" to scope out guys that went the other way. Crazy stuff, I tell ya.
I was under the impression that, at least today, gay men look for masculinity, and thus are turned off by men with long hair (and thus I postulate whether the gay hairdresser will cut off too much hair from a longhair guy).
Well i am gay so dont tell me i dont understand homosexuality, well all i was trying to say was that yes as the other peson said that most mail hairdressers are feminin, not all gay men are feminin but most have a feminin side, and i was just saying that is the hairdresser in this case was feminin he might be able to understand long hair better than a straight acting hairdresser !
SITM
Hi Ben,
Well said and that was the point I was trying to get over in my earlier post. At the end of the day if the person is professional and has a good reputation and trusted them should be no issue about getting them to trim a persons hair.
Take it easy,
John.B
Yeah, that's basically what I was saying. He MIGHT. Just saying not to make any big generalizations.
I agree it's got nothing to do with what side or who you share you bed with or anything. At the end of the day you are happy and trust the person that is cutting your hair that should be the end of it. I'm sure no professional would make a pass or anything like that.
John.B
Hi Bryan,
what applies in your situation are all the caveats concerning "trims" as such. I see potential issues that have nothing to do with the sexual orientation of the stylist.
Now, the "caveat"'s first
- How does your girlfriend like your long hair? Who took the initiative and decided that you'd go for a "trim"? Why do YOU think you need one? Was this your idea or hers? Has she been bugging you, or is she respectful towards your long hair choices?
- What kind of record does this hair stylist have in term of taking off ONLY as much as YOU want? - check with other male long-haired customers of his. Worst-case scenario: Could she possibly have tried to "prime" the hair stylist? A good stylist should resist that. Or is he known to take off a good chunk more than you'd want?
If YOU have decided that you want a trim, that's fine, but if she's been pushing you, think twice, my friend. Did she tell you that the hair stylist is gay in order to convince you that he doesn't have a "Christian" or other short-hair agenda?
Maybe I'm paranoid, thinking of some experiences of my own and of friends of mine. Sexual orientation per se seems pretty irrelevant.
That all said, I should note that for some reason the rate of homosexuality is above average in the male hair stylist population. Compared to most straight men, gay men tend to be more into short hair for themselves, but they may be more respectful of the choice of other men to wear their hair long. Thus, if YOU want the trim, the hair stylist's homosexual orientation is not a problem at all.
Good luck with your decision, and let us know what you decided, and how it worked out for you.
Hans-Uwe
Whaaaaaaaat?
Sometimes the suggestion for a trim is only a suggestion for trim and not a conspiracy. Assuming that the salon has not been infiltrated by a cabal of short hair fanatics, of course! Roundheads haven't been this dangerous since the English civil war.
Hans-Uwe, all joking aside, I respect your experiences. But I also think the majority of hair stylists want to make their customers happy. Going to the salon should be fun, not something to stress about.
I agree with that 110%
And Bryan, people are people. Enjoy your time at the salon!
xxxooo,
Lipstick
"I dont have a problem with people who choose be different."
leave troll.
good to hear that :) - i hate nothing more than intolerant ppl
i think it doesn't matter if the one who gives u a trim is homo-, hetero-, bi- or whatever -sexual ...
the only thing that counts is if he's good in his job or not ...
not going to him 'cos he's different than u, is the same like not hiring people in jobs because having long hair ...
my opinion: go to him if he's good in his job (also u have the luck to get a advice from your friend !) ...
greez,
ALH
I can't beleive you are even asking the question. You are only having your hair cut. Who cares if he's gay?
