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I was browsing posts the other day and my dad looked at the screen and responded by saying "Is that longhair site more important than you're homework?" I didn't have any homework. I think he finds it aggravating that there is a "support/information group" out there for longhaired guys. He would prefer me buzzed of course and is very vocal about how he dislikes my hair. This is only the 2nd or 3rd time he's mentioned the board. My mom has said "I think it's kind of odd that you look at other guys hair." Yet I see her with magazines with all types of product drenched hair styles for women. I was wondering if anyone has parents that know they browes the board and what their parents thought of it?
Well i wouldn't know how it feels because i live with my grandparents and they really don't care about anything...all they do is sleep really. But if my parents were strict i know that they can't force me to do anything i don't want to(cut my hair, etc...). Everyone's free to express themselves but not force anything.
wen my dad comes i just close cuz i know hes ganna start telling stuff.and i really dont wanna start arguing cuz that what we do most of the time.
When this happens to me, I just smile and laugh. Why? I because I could care less. But if this made me angry, I would tell them.
Both of my parents know that I browse about long hair everytime, because I tell them... They even know I've got a colection of long hair pictures, and my mom has seen them already. I don't get any troubles from this, but my mother uses to tell me that all the information I get from here is wrong wrong wrong, and that all the hair that's grown without trims is savage and unhealthy... anyways, I do experiment and figure out what's best for my hair, and also I do explain why the ideas here work (like aplying oil to the hair, my mom just can't undertand this). But, in the other hand, she can't explain me how could trim hair regularly can make it grow faster (if it would, everyone who keeps on buzzying their heads would have hiper duper ultra fast growth... duh =S )Anyways, long hair has been a great problem with my parents in the past... it isn't anymore, tough they truely believe that I'm gonna get tired of it before I reach my goal... they're gonna be surprised =P
So, i remember a day, my stepfather said that i should have an haircut. I respond that i prefer my head like this than with a shorthair. And he said that people who see me finds that i look sad with longhair, that it's ugly... I correct his affirmation by saying that i never mind what people can think about me or about what i think and consequently i never mind what HE think about me. At this moment i said too that i will let my hair grow, like it always been from the start of my life.
Think about it !
Good luck
Hi, dont be offended by this but whenever i see the photo you have in your avatar i just think "Edward Elric".
FMA <3!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't tell my parents about this board... But I talk a lot about long hair with them, hehe.
Just earlier today I asked my brother if he didn't want to grow his hair. He didn't. Oh well.
Hi Katamah,
There was no MLHH when I was young and my parents were difficult. Fortunately, hair is a non-issue with them today.
Your parents (are they in my age group, i.e. in their 40's?) don't seem to know that there are support sites for just about every preference, every hobby, everything, on the internet these days. By the way, how did your dad wear his hair when he was 16 or 18?
You could say (or at least keep a clear mind about this) that you wouldn't have to look at this site if they really accepted you as the person you are, and if they really gave you the emotional support that young people should receive from their parents.
Then again, this site has no "explicit" or restricted content, it's all in good taste (Moderators, take this as positive feedback). If they get worried about possible "homosexual" tendencies, they should know that, statistically speaking, for a man, to grow his hair long, is a very "heterosexual" thing. Implying that looking at MLHH posts furthers gay tendencies is absolutely preposterous.
(Of course, if you want to shock them by playing on their anxieties, you might just let them catch you while looking a "gay long hair site", just kidding, lol. In reality, I do NOT advise that kind of action)
They certainly won't be able to stop you from accessing the MLHH site, internet access is just too common in this world, and the URL is too easy to remember.
In any case, stay cool, continue to do your school work well, and to stay out of trouble.
- - - A word to your parents if they read this: The best way to encourage our children on the path of virtue is to accept and to support them fully as the persons they are. By lording unnecessary rules over them, we encourage them to eschew necessary guidance as well, i.e. to "throw out the child with the bath water". I even know of an instance when a long-haired kid back in the 70's left the church after that particular pastor gave him a hard time over his long hair. My grandfather (certainly a short-haired guy) was rather cross about this - towards the pastor, to make that clear.
--- Katamah, I wish you all the best, and happy growth in every respect. You are a great guy, being just the guy you are.
Hans-Uwe
If I were you, I would've responded to her comment with that very observation. Something along the lines of, "It's no stranger than you leafing through pages full of pictures of hairstyles for women."
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My Dad thinks the idea of a support site for longhaired men is funny, but not surprising, given the number of topics the Internet caters to.
Gotta love the net man. There a place for every taste. Thats the way it should be everywhere outside the virtual world. Provided the taste in question isn't harmful to others of course. Cyberspace is the shizz yo.
my parents know that i visit the board, because i've talked to them about it before. they have no issues with it at all.
heck, my mom is even starting to adopt some of my hair care methods that i learned from here =)
whatever you do,don't let your parents discourage you from visiting here. cheers
SOAD
...to look at other men who also have long hair because they are comparing hair length, textures, colors, how the hair is worn and most importantly: how people react to their hair.
A man is certainly not going to get this information by looking at women's hair.
I am a parent of high schoolers (and one college freshman). I tell my 16 year old son that if he wants his hair longer, he has to keep it neat and clean. My feeling is that if this is the biggest problem I have with him, I have it made.
BTW, I am in the process of growing my hair out to ponytail length also; it is about 3" longer than his at this very moment.
Do your homework; keep your hair clean and tidy; show some responsibility, and ask for the freedom to grow your hair.
Big George
Hi George,
you got it absolutely right, and I wish more kids had parents who look at it that way.
Many years ago, someone said to my parents "Look, he's finished his education, he holds a steady job, he's never done drugs, he's not in an immoral relationship (whatever that is), he still hasn't left church, so --- what are you worried about??"
After that, my parents worried about hair never again :-)
Best wishes, and happy (hair) growth, to you and your sons as well.
Hans-Uwe
Define neat and clean. I was my hair every few days. I perfer healthy hair to neatness, fashionability, or whatever.
Define neat and clean.
Just as I would expect one to bathe when necessary so that they don't carry an offensive body odor, I also expect hair to be reasonably clean and groomed. I have seen some of the students at the high school who look like their hair hasn't been combed or washed for days if not weeks. It is dirty, stringy, and messy. My issue is not with the length of the hair, but with the personal grooming, which includes the hair as well as the rest of the body.
Big George
Eh, both my parents think it's weird; indeed, my Dad beleives the board is an unsubtle gay "meet-your-future-partner" love forum. He has no problems with me going once in a while (a very long while, that is), but checking it every day is of great concern to my Pop, along the lines of OCD or brainwashing, even.
I don't really care, though. They're not really supportive of my hair anyway, and the board is addictive, lol. It's just a nice place to be, and if they would actually sit down and read a few posts with a non-judgmental eye, then they'd realize what a harmless, potentially fun place this is. But each to their own, I guess.
Well said, i totally agree with you. My parents don't know i use this board, heck, they don't even know about it!
My parents know that i am obsessive about my hair and i talk with my mum alot about hair care and stuff. Sometimes she tells me to stop worrying about my hair if i keep fixing it in the mirror or talking about it, kinda vein of me.
If they knew about the board? well they would be a bit concerned. Especially my dad, he would think i am sexually attracted to other long haired men, which is definately NOT the case. I just love long hair and it is a hobby of mine, the MLHH is a great support network and medium of exchange for all of us worldwide long hairs to unite!
You should have repplied by saying Dad do you have any interests of your own to be getting on with as i dont have No homework so I can browse on here when i dont have any homework ok !
I've referenced the board many times before (when talking about my haircare routine) but never directly mentioned it. They wouldn't find it odd, though. My dad used to have long hair (and has always had sorta floppy hair, well for the past 30 years anyway), so he wouldn't care. My mom wouldn't agree with what we say (she washes her hair every day, sometimes twice; blowdries it a lot, uses tons of hair products, etc.) but wouldn't really care. Would probably find it a bit odd though.
Nice point about the "women looking at women's hair ads", Katamah. I'll be sure to mention that if anyone asks!
