I hereby resign from the "Male Longhair Hyper Board". It seems my presence has "extreamly ticked off" certain individual who shall remain nameless, and that according to another individual, my contribution is "null and void". Therefore I am resigning from this board, because obviously I have nothing to add of value to you guys. I had hoped that I could perhaps read about people's problem and give some advise to the best of my knowledge, but I guess that is null and void as well. Since I have nothing to add to this board, since you guys chose to focous on what happened way back in the day, than focous on the good,
Good bye!
Tai Fu, while I'm sure you would like it all to just go away, your behavior does have consequences here and elsewere in life. Your posts will likely fall off the board eventually like all the rest and go into the archive. I realize I am speaking to an unwell person and you are not hearing any of us now but I hope you are saving these messages and may look back on what people have said from a different perspective. Even if you can not see it now, you have many friends here wishing you well.
People here will remember your outbursts and when you are healthy enough to return, if you choose to, they will take that past into account. Yet, the great thing about this place though is that you are among a very special group of supportive people that I have never seen bettered anywhere online. The posters here will welcome you back as a healthy man when that day comes. Until then, I hope you find the help you need.
Elizabeth
Tai Fu, whatever other board you go to, or wherever else you go in life you will encounter the same problems. Some people were totally honest, and some other sugar coated the truth, but they're all right. No one hates you and if some people were irritated it was because this issue was covered- A LOT - in the past.
The world is not against you. Some of the gay-related posts you made were better suited for the gay hyperboard since some people are extremely uncomfortable with them. If you demand respect, so do they. Your tie dye shirts gave you a lot of positive responses and every time you posted hair progress you received several replies with very possitive comments. I never said anything about this issue because I thought it was covered, but I feel like I must let you know that:
- Leaving is not the real solution you need. Do it if you no longer feel happy here, but wherever you go you need a different attitude.
- No one had anything personal against you and if some negative feelings about your last post were widespread, the reason for that was well covered in those replies.
- Some people are more patient some others have a shorter fuse and don't necessarily take the time to explain things in a nicer way, but it doesn't mean they're wrong.
- Whatever disagreements you have with any individuals you can kindly send them a personal note regarding the issue, but don't make it a generalized feeling.
- If we never see you around again, I really hope you find things in your life that make you happy, and I also wish that you get past your depression.
Take Care
P.S. I'm in psychology and I have a way to find someone in your area who can help you for a low fee. If you wish you can e-mail me anytime for that or any other issue.
Nice to see you're still here Giacco! Your hair looks great!!
Nice to see you too. How are the fish doing?
Tai Fu, as per your private email, i have no issues with you at all. The only issues are the ones that YOU create in your head.
Let me justify what i said. When i said "your contributions are null, zero" that is a fact. You haven't given much in hair related discussion/content from my observations. This is in no way insinuating that you are not wanted here or that you are worthless. It's just my observation on your hair related posting history. Maybe you could get involved a little more?
Give compliments to others where due, help newbies out, answer questions that you can help with etc.
I am NOT homophobic, racist, or anything else you might conceive in your mind. I am not perfect, far from, but i would never disrespect someone, especially you, in this manner.
I'm sorry if i was harsh or rude. Maybe my approach is very direct and blunt, that's just how i interact with others.
Yes, i did block you via private chat. The reason being because you always seemed negative and angry and i don't have the time to listen to it.
I wouldn't suggest you leave the board. As what the others already said, when/if you have gotten help then come back here and start fresh on good terms with everyone and put the past behind. No one is out to get you.
As Elizabeth said, it is more than just this board, you probably have other issues in your life and mental health you need to take care of first.
And, sorry, to say it, but we cannot remove all trace of you. Whatever you have posted will be going down in the archives for history. Not that it makes much difference though.
I wish you the very best with your tie-dying projects and , more importantly, growing your hair long. Regardless of whether you decide to stay or leave. Jean.
I don't know who on this board is getting under your skin; but as long as you stay reasonably on topic and don't use dirty words, you're welcome here.
There is absolutely no way you can ever please everybody.
Tai Fu
We are here to HELP you we are not a linch mob out to get you. You should really consider your actions before you resigning from the MHLL board, I hope you have a good think about it first !
Take Care Axel
Your bitterness is great..
At a certain point in my Life I decided that I was just as 'good' as everyone else.
If you believe in yourself...the things others say to or about you will not matter.
By leaving, you are giving another human being more power than he deserves.
We are all equal here...All you have to do is to...
...BELIEVE it.
I certainly was not looking for power over Tai Fu nor were 80s or anybody here who answered honestly his question. I appreciate the sentiment that we are all equal here and I do believe it myself but it sounds like you think we are doing something deliberately and that I resented greatly. If I read that wrongly then I am sorry but "more power than he deserves" sounds offensive and belittling to me.
Once you make a dent, you're with us forever.
Request denied. You're stuck dude.
You have to comment on at least one post a day from now on, or we'll all show up at your house and flog you.
Quite ironic really - he covered this already in his previous post too...