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Hi, I seem to have some problems, I have long hair and some people dont like it, and they keep saying I look like a girl and tells me I should cut my hair. Then everyone else says like longhair are for losers.... I dont know what to do, cause I like growing out hair but then people just dont like that....
Not at all short is for losers!!! I'd just ignore their comments and remember your doing it for yourself and on one else. Too bad if they don't like it and it's not their choice and perhaps their not your friends if they can't appreciate it and perhaps might be shallow.
Keep it growing and you have a good support network here.
John.B
Men can have hair like this.
As you can see, longhair is not only cool, but masculine as well.
You must grow your hair out for you however. If you don;t like it, or if you think it looks bad on you and decide to cut or whatever, then that is your decision!
Don't let others comments affect you, as hard as that may be sometimes.
And as John said, you have a great support (and helpful) network here with us.
Yupp just keeping a good friendly and helpful networking going here. Great band to and nice to see good music coming out of NYC. Woops sorry that was off topic!!!
John.B
...and in the long term...were are all unhappy, doomed death metal heads, lol. oh , and with long hair :)
I really like some of these medium length styles.
I think Johhny Depp is my favourite medium length, part-time longhaired man. He's long haired when he feels like it and depending on the role he is playing at the time. He's the coolest aswell.
Nice sample of pictures. The lengths of Tom Cruise and Brad Pitt are what I consider ideal length for my short term goals. Anyone based on their experience, know how long those lengths take to achieve from conventional short hair "haircut" lengths...ugh...haircut I despise that word.
...because as soon as you can, those comments may begin to drop off dramatically.
Good Luck and don't let things get to you.
If the cooments do not stop you may have to decide if it's really worth it to you to have long hair.
It is so easy to tell others to 'hang in there' but only you know for sure how much long hair means to you.
Life is full of decisions and this is just one of many.
Hi Strider,
figuratively speaking, just puke up that toxic line "... is for losers", and replace it with the more truthful and wholesome line "Long Hair Is For WINNERS" - people who advance towards their goals and, usually, end up getting what they need. Even without having seen you, I'm absolutely certain that you do look perfectly masculine and manly with your mane - keep it up and be who you are meant to be by your Creator. Please disregard the "false self" offered to you by certain neighbors - it's unhealthy at best.
Hope you meet true friends in real life who compliment you for your hair. Grow out your great hair and your great personality forever!
Best wishes,
Hans-Uwe
NT
This is just one of those stupid things about human nature. Some people like to hassle anyone who is different to them, either because it's not to their liking or they are jealous.
When you think about it, long hair is not for losers (and I really hate it when people use the term "loser") because most guys don't have the guts to deviate from today's norm, that being that guys have short hair. Nor do they have the patience and persistence required to grow long hair. They are the real losers: the ones who need to fit in with the rest of the crowd. But the guys on this board are independant thinkers who won't let society dictate what they can and cannot do.
So in actual fact, we are the winners!
If you like your hair long, that is for your own pleasure so it's none of anyone else's business. They can't tell you what to do.
LukeB
First off, you will only have problems if you make them that way to yourself when others mock and ridicule you. This is the "usual" for guys growing-out their hair.
Here is what to do.
1.) Do not reply to their remarks and ignor.
2.) If you "have to reply" kind of agree with them and it will render them helpless as all they want is a nice fight. ie: Let's say someone says "you look like a girl." Give them this retort: "Oh yes I know."
The main thing is to not allow them to get to you. As soon as they realize this they will choose another victum to verbally abuse.
Funny thing..........but it ALWAYS happens. Once your hair is long enough all of this ridicule stops and compliments actually start coming your way. :-)
Pity these people, for they have nothing to offer in life except to try and make anothers persons life miserable. And, it can ONLY be made that way if the person allows it to happen.
Just throw them all over your shoulder and forget about them. Life is such a fragile gift and there are just too many more things to be concerned about in the world of today than how long someones hair is.
Like others have said, it's not really any of their business! When they say you look like a girl, or say they don't like long hair, tell them you don't like close-minded bigots, as they have always been the source of repression throughout history.It's your hair, and as long as you like it, no one else's opinion matters.That "Ball" Guy
www.thatballguy.comP.S. and if you think you catch lots of flak now, imagine what it's like with dreadlocks, lol!
It's your hair, and as long as you like it, no one else's opinion matters.
That "Ball" Guy
www.thatballguy.com
P.S. and if you think you catch lots of flak now, imagine what it's like with dreadlocks, lol!
strider,Be yourself! I know that peer pressure is tough, you will be a better and stronger person in the long run for standing your ground. I bowed to pressure from bosses, peers, and famly many times. Finally I just wanted to be me. I have never been happier with my self. Hang in there and remember there are lots of folks here to support you. Peace! Keep it growin and flowin! Eat A Peach For Peace! RedTail Wolf
Hair length has nothing to do with whether one becomes a "winner" or a "loser" in life, --- any more than the length of your nose does! Whatever hair length feels the most natural to YOU is bound to give you a more winning attitude & inner-confidence to succeed, than if you live your life forever complying to others telling you what to do with your own hair!
- Ken
