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Does anyone ever get insults because they have long hair? I went on a night out...now if I'd gone to a rock club I think I'd have fit right in, but it wasnt. I get such mixed reactions about my hair. Alot of girls like it, touch it and stuff and complement it. But I had loads of lads last night insulting it. One guy uttered 'shemale' I THINK, another drunk guy in the toilets said it was a 'f***ing mess', and another said, you need your hair cutting and one said it looked gay. I kinda just ignored/shrugged these comments off, because theres not really anything you can say back to something like that.
Personally, I think it looks cool. Maybe thats cos I like rock music and the Ramones, so maybe I'm biased. I'm not planning on having it cut despite the negative comments that get mixed in with the positive ones. I was just wondering if other people here ever get insults.
Or is it inevitable when you choose to do something only a minority do? All the guys that dished the insults DID have short hair.
People seemed to like my hair when I posted a pic a while back. I should post an update pic, see if its as bad as some say it is.
A.
I get insults all the time, but theyre always light hearted and usually from my mates with shaved heads who admit theyre jealous.
i find girls either love it or hate it which makes things really simple.
just ignore guys who insult it. theyre either jealous, insecure or just having a bit of fun.
cheers
ForceIsStrongWithThisOne
you will have to rise above it and ignore what is said to you about your hair being long besides must guys that are gay buzz there head & that they enjoy cutting there hair or they are jealous because they cant be bothered by growing there hair or they cant grow it long for some reason or another !
So go about what you have set out to do and ignore pathetic claims that its a mess or gay to have long hair as its far from the truth !
Axel
From time to time insults happen; but usually I get more compliments than insults, --- either that, or friends just teasing me in harmless ways (which I consider just acknowledging my difference).
As far as drunks go, i NEVER pay attention to what a drunk says, --- after all, they're in a chemicaaly-induced state of total stupidity!!
As far as gays go, I just so happen to be one. And I can reassure you with total confidence that long hair on gay men is so extremely rare that those sparse few of us that do prefer it long find it hands-down depressing what a tiny, tiny percentage of our population will even look at us, let alone consider being willing to grow their own hair out. I know this for a fact, because I live in the gayest city in the USA... which also happens to sport the greatest # of longhairs in the USA, --- 99% of which are all STRAIT!!!
Ignore the insults. Be proud of being different from the pack! And I'd bet they're just jealous of your hair, anyway.
- Ken in San Francisco
Everytime I meet someone from San Francisco, they seem to have the largest level of self-esteem and sense of self-identity, especially the older ones, than any people I've ever come into contact with. I think this comes from living in a city that allows you to be whatever you want, with much less pressurizing comparably. It's extremely bolstering to one's self. By the way, great bee-but bun. Thanks for sharing.
Not sure I can say I know why "for sure"; but I'll give it my best shot!... My guess is that because gay men are attracted to other MEN (including all things male-looking), and short hair is more commonly associated with maleness; this explains to me why more gay men like short, rather than long hair.
I personally have never thought of long hair on a guy as "fem" (unless the guy has other feminine physical aspects about them); but maybe that's because when I was a kid, all the "cool" guys in my high school all sported long hair...
Just some thoughts, anyway...
Thanks so much for your kind comments! Interesting thoughts especially about San Francisco... WOW! I've never heard anyone say that before!!
- Ken
I'm a new member here, and I've been growing my hair out for only about nine months, but so far I haven't really had any negative comments, just a couple of remarks implying that I "need" a haircut, to which I simply respond, "OK."
dino
Hi Force,
It's interesting, the girls love your hair, and many guys seem to hate you for pulling it off - see what it means? You're too hetero for them (lol)! The insults are not about long hair as such, but about your "unfair" advantage with girls.
This reminds me of a friend of mine, whoes (ex-) girl friend told him to cut off his long hair, because he had her already, and because other beautiful girls turned their heads for him. Needless to say, he still flies his flag...
The message? Enjoy it, and pick your girl at your leisure! You must look REALLY cool with your hair. (I'm sure you understand all that already)
Have fun, and grow it even longer,
Hans-Uwe
Insults are just part of growing your hair out (if you're a guy). Because it's different from the normal short hair styles of most men, people will react very differently to it. Some like it, usually women, and some say it looks stupid, feminine, etc. If you can just learn to shrug off these ignorant comments, you'll be able to make it to your long-haired goal.
Keep it growing dude!
Yeah, people are morons. . .they feel threatened when someone actually chooses for themselves.
In today's cultures, we're designed to not think for ourselves. . .to accept other people's ideas and thoughts, on everything from politics and the economy, to religion.
Because people are so trained to just run societie's programs, they feel threatened when a person breaks the norm, even in minor ways that are no longer viewed revolutionary and rebellious (long hair, afros, dreadlocks, etc.)
I used to get angry at them, but now I simply pity them.
Keep it up man, don't let the sheep get you down.
That "Ball" Guy
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Thats when you give them a look I love to give people.. Words can only describe it as 'looking at them in a way that shows obviously you think they are one of the most ignorant people youve met'
Usually after I give one of them they stop.
Matt
Ah, yes, "the look". It says far more than words ever can. I've used it on occasions. It conveys utter contempt without saying a thing. What's more, it is blatantly obvious that you are being contemptuous, yet have said nothing untoward.
I handle this a little differently. I simply say that I don't know, and will defer to you, since you seem to be the authority on gay/shemale/real mess/whatever they say. I just toss it right back at them.
Please understand that this will not work for a lot of people. Being 6'1" and 285 lbs gives me the ability to respond this way.
