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Hi guys
Most of you proberly don't remember me, i have not posted for quite some time. I decided to cut my hair short for a while, i got board having the same hairstyle for too long.
Anyway i have read one particular post in which was enquiring of the amount of Gay-Longhairs on the board.
Well i am gay and well my hair is lets say on its way to be long again. At the moment its about 5 months into growth.
Well i was wondering is it true that other gay guys are not attracted to guys with long hair. I find that hard to believe, cause i think guys with long hair are really hot. Not only that but I showed a picture of me with long hair to one of my gay friends and he thinks I looked cool with long hair. He actually advised me to grow it long again and i thought why not.
Please post back
Some aren't, some are, some don't care. You can't expect an absolute rule to be true.
Hi Paul,
I'm just taking the opportunity to congratulate you to your great internet site! And, by looking at your site, "Gay Longhair" can also get an idea how hot he'll look 2-4 years from now ;-)
Well, statistically, both staight and gay longhairs are waaay over-represented on this site, thank goodness!
Hans-Uwe
Can't see why there should be a link or otherwise either way. Surely both gays and hetrosexuals are are attracted to one another for many reasons.
I have no doubt that you are correct - liking another mans long hair is quite common and in no way a turn off.
I'd think it depends both on the person with the hair and the person that is supposed to be attracted.
Some girls can pull off having short hair, some girls look pretty bad with long hair. However, that's just my view on it. Other guys can see it completely opposite. Can't imagine how a different sexual preference would have any impact on it.
I read this board like 3 times a day at least, and am one of the many gay guys who read everyone's comments. Some great stuff here, and nice folks! I would say gay guys are in the minority here, but maybe a higher proportion than in the rest of the world, so instead of 10%, maybe more like 20%.
As for attraction, of course these things are subjective, and as some have said, some guys just look so much better with long hair than short. Myself, there is nothing like a guy with great hair, long and well kept, rather than the buzzcut mode. As you know, there are lots of gay guys who just feel they have to set the fashion, or be the GQ model type and have short hair, and only find guys like that attractive. A lot of us gay guys are in art, fashion, hair care, etc, and just feel compelled to go for the most acceptable, and presently "trendy" shortness. Shame on our friends at Queer Eye for the Straight Guy!!! Some of their fashion "interventions" seem just wrong.
What you will notice is that as in the World Cup soccer matches, there are a heck of a lot of macho, athletic guys who look great in longer hair, and their fans (ok, I am one of them) who try to copy their look. The guys from latin countries, and even Sweeden, or the Ukraine just look fantastic with hair that moves with them.
Styles change, thank god, and like the obligatory moustache of the 70's and 80s for any self-respecting gay guy, we have all "moved on". Truth is, some gay guys are "foliclly challenged" and have an easier time of growing a beard than long hair on top of the head. That is hot too, but if you can do both, why not!!!
Personal attractiveness comes so much from the inside out, that no matter how long or short your hair is, guys will find you attractive for who you are, and your consideration, and attitude. Of course, I tend to really notice the guys with long hair, here in Oregon, no matter who they are, and appreciate what it takes to get there. Fortunately, we have a big mix of long hair hippies, musicians, techies, and art people, as well as short haired cowboys and geeks. I am really glad for the diversity, and the acceptance here. (when I cut my hair last august, the straight guys on staff at our ad agency begged me to let it grow again, saying that was one thing that made them hire me!!!)
keep up the re-growth!
Cheers,
-Daniel
Well, here's my take on it. I have found that, after several months of growing my hair long, that I am more attracted to longhaired guys than I was before -- not that I didn't like them before; it's just that now I have more of an appreciation for them. Also, being a member of this board has helped me see how kind and intelligent guys with long hair are, if the guys on this board are representative of men with long hair everywhere. So, for me, it's both a physical and a personality thing. I also notice longhaired guys much more now than I used to, of course. So, in a funny kind of way, I guess that longhairs are somewhat of an "acquired taste," for me, anyway. I'd definitely say, at this point, that I've acquired the taste. :-P
dino
Hello Gay Longhair, it sounds like you have already answered your own question. You see long hair on a man as attractive and you are certainly not alone in that. If the sizeable number of gay men here aren't proof enough, you might want to put your handle into a search engine and see if you can find a whole board devoted to letting men know they are one of many. You'd probably see a fair number of overlapping posters here and there.
Elizabeth
I am gay also and have been taking more notice of long haired guys since I started growing. The problem with the gay community is that it tends to follow some sort of stereotype for the most part, and that usually involves short hair. My guess is that many of us who like long hair don't have the guts to grow it because we think we'll never find a partner if we don't look like we're gay. Consequently ther aren't many gay longhairs. As in any group of people, however, there are always exceptions. I'm not one for following stereotypes so my mindset as a gay male is vastly different to most.
LukeB
LukeB
As a gay longhair, with long past mid back ahir, I can tell you, most gays don't like it and will tell you so. They all in my experience want the trendyiest and most masculine (in there perception) they can find. The only guys into mine are very old guys, I'm 27, and it's a fetish to them. The few gay men I have met in LA with longhair, have since cut it off...I'm too stuborn to do so, even if it means not ever having a bf.
Just seems alot of them just like the sterotype looking with shorthair. Good for you keeping it growing and sticking to your guns.
John.B
Hi,
I think you're doing the right thing. Stick to who you are, keep your hair, and you will find lots of love in this world. Besides, you'll feel much better about yourself.
Hans-Uwe
Amen! Hans-Uwe always says the right thing. Don't try to be anyone but yourself... that's the only way to go. Especially in L.A. -- I know, I lived there myself.
dino
you know I am noticing something weird at the gay longhair board... it seems there is some kind of a minimum age of acceptance there. I have not seen anyone in that board under 45 years of age that are accepted (like getting praised for posting updates and stuff) because I posted an update there and people seem to ignore it. However some older guy posts their update and at least 4 guys will say something.
High!
Yes, it's difficult, especially if your into long-haired bearded "hippie" guys rather than cheesy pinup dreamboys like the Chippendales or California Dream Men... but after almost 20 years of searching, I finally found my shaggy king of hearts just a two-hour train ride from my town... and we're happy together! Very soon he will be with me again...
See you in Khyberspace!
Yadgar
Hi, I am kinda gay as well (well I dont find women sexually disgusting or anything so I can't qualify as 100% gay) but here is my experience...
I was at a gay church and one guy said I should cut my hair because he says I will never find a boyfriend if I continue having long hair. I thought to myself that I am going to grow my hair, no matter what the government, boss, parents, significant others, or any other stranger tells me. If a person doesnt like me because of my longhair or whatnot, then whats to say the relationship will last any amount of time even if I did cut my hair? Most of the gays here I have seen in that church they tend to adopt somewhat of a trendy hairstyle, longest hair I have seen is from this transvestite, who is basically like a girl anyways. Other than that its buzz, or awkard stage japanese anime type of haircut (which is a pain in the *** to maintain!)
http://www.gaylonghair.com/board/
This board is the gay equivalent of the hyperboard, and currently has just over 100 members. All of them there are gay or bisexual, and many are looking to meet other long haired gay men.
Of the MEN posting on this board, 14.2% are gay (that I am aware of). There are certainly more, (maybe 20%) when you add the ones that I am not aware of. You will notice at the gaylonghair board that several of our guys are over there too.
Absalom
The gay board moves very slowly compared to this one... if you post a message as a newbie or unknown they take forever to get approved. Also dont expect to get accepted right away unless you are "their type" cause there are some very thick ice sorrounding them.
OMG, no kidding. It is VERY SLOW! But it seems like a nice group of guys. I like this board, though, because it is fast-moving, and, most importantly, a fascinating mix of very cool people.
LOL I didn't know anyone was keeping statistics! BTW I'm gay and on both boards but don't post much (just want to keep the statistics accurate).
Absalom, Thanks for posting the gay web site for long hair. Knew that there had to be one out there somewhere. Went there and enjoyed it. There are more than you think.
But did you used to post on this board with the name Keith? The name and picture kind of clicked in my head; if you're not the same person, he could easily be your twin.
Yeah i am the same person, i decided to cut my hair short for a while i guess i wanted to expiriment with it a little. now i am growing it long again.
I am gay and a longhair and also find guys with longhair a total turn-on,but this is certainly not the norm in the gay community and have been rejected by gay men on that basis on several ocassions, but its just personal prefernces is guess.
I do think that many gays men who would probably like to have longer hair styles do not because they feel it would add another layer of social rejection. As most of us here know having long hair is in itself an automatic social issue for us, add to that the social stigma of being gay and its just to much for some people. I think a lot of gay men are more concerned about looking straight or "normal" or "in fashion" then they are about being themselves. As a gay-longahair I am proud to be a memeber of a every small social minority!
