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... is that my hair just doesn't fall the same way on both sides of my head. And those crazy curls that come from behind my ears. On the right side, it's usually far worse than on the left, with the curl being bigger and more distracting. Does anyone else have this same problem?
The awkward stage is indeed very annoying and today is NOT a good hair day.
Eeeeyup, Patrick, I, too, have the same configuration of hair quality; it's those "crazy curls" (very wiry, unmanagable) around the temples & ears, but straight on the top of my pate, and wavy on the sides and in back.
This high humidity in the Northeast and elsewhere lately ain't too conducive to managing one's hair of this type. You'll either have to clip short the hard-to-manage section, leaving the rest long, or try experimenting with various (organic) hair conditioners.
I'm looking forward to reading other posts here on this particular dilemma. Let's have it guys. And don't say hair-straighteners are the answer! Those are potentially very harmful to one's hair as well as to the environment.
Best regards,
Anadae
Has anybody facing the same problems used John Frieda's Frizz Ease Shape and Shine? If so, what's your take on the product.
I saw a mention of that on this link: http://ask.metafilter.com/mefi/41571
and decided to try it out. So far the results have been quite good. I'm sure it's potentially harmful to hair, but I would like to get by these awkward-stage months without my hair looking too bad at work.
Another member posted something like this several weeks ago, and I can sympathize because mine is the same
Lately, my hair has been particularly annoying and frustrating. It flips out on the left side but looks fine when I comb it. But on the right side, I always get this big fat clumpy wave right on the last two inches. It's such an eyesore because it only does it in that area and I've been embarrassed by it. It's impossible to manage without some kind of straightening device or blow-dryer, and I just hate continually looking in the mirror from the side and seeing my upper hair go inward and then suddenly poof out in a ridiculously awkward wave. My mom tells me to accept its ways without messing with it, but I just can't cope with the fact that I got stuck with naturally uneven hair. How can hair be naturally uneven? Ugh...
Don't hate: love your hair... Be glad you have it. Enjoy the challenge of this period when you hair will not do what you want it to. I am hesitant to tell you, that it may never do exactly what you want it to do. But perhaps your hair knows best. Perhaps you hair is genetically programmed to draw admiration when it is clean and neatly combed. What you see as awkward, others may see as spontaneous and free.
Your courage may inspire another decent young man to go natural.
In time your hair will be long enought that it will not be wild, but it is still going to be your hair. It is a mistake to take an image and say that I would like hair like that. My ideal belongs to a good friend of mine who has silver virtually straight hair which falls below his shoulders and it is growing.
I wish. Even though I am older than him, my hair is more ash blond than gray, some critics would say mousy, and it will never be straight. Some would call it askward. I think it is fun.
Most of us throughout our lives have been manipulated to abuse our hair. Had we been encouraged or given the opportunity to let our hair grow from our youth, we would have been taught ways to protect it while keeping us safe. And now we would not be asking our follicles to adjust to the way our hair falls, but adjust they will. Overcomeing the abuse is possible with time, but pleasure deprived is pleasure lost.
Our parents did not, and do not, know that they are abusing us when they want us to be that which we are not. Some of them actually withdraw love. Get away from them for they are psychotoxic. However,if you persist, the vast majority of parents will in time relent and may actually come to understand and be supportive.
James
My hair was doing the same thing by the time it reached a length a couple of inches from my shoulders. The right side almost always curled outward in a big curl.
At that time, a friend of mine explained to me that it was "normal," as she too had gone through the same. She added that I was taking good care of my hair -- and that's the most important thing by far.