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Hello all. I have a few questions. Do any of you guys get annoyed with someone who keeps coming up to you and touches your hair? I want to respond respectfully when this happens and I don't see this person often , but when I do she does this even after I have tried to explain to her that I don't like that she doesn't listen. What would be a good way to respond in the future?
Also, how many of you trim your own hair? I'd like to really get in to that so I could just do it myself. I do think it is doable if done carefully. Any thoughts?
And lastly, what do you all think of locks of love?
Thank you so much for your thoughts in these regards.
Peace
Brad
Best thing for her is just don't see her. If she won't respect your wishes, she doesn't deserve your respect.
I am sure it is "doable," but if you are in process of growing-out your hair why a trim? This just sets you back unless you want the trim to set yourself back to a goal you have already established for yourself.
Not much.
Hey there Brad!
Well, it depends on the kind of person... Try to make it clear for her that she can't touch your hair, because you don't like it. If she gets really anoying about that feel free to just shout "STOP!"... Lol, that how I'd react if I got tired of someone doing repeatedly the same thing even after I asked her to stop...
About triming your own hair, the advantage is that you control the lenght your taking off... Tough you need to have at least mid-back lenght to do it, as there are specific tecnics for doing that, tough the site that explained them is off now... The main tecnic however, for a blunt straight cut, is to tie your hair in a ponytail and slide the elastic down, vertically, which may require help from another person, than take the hair to the front, without moving the elastic and snip of as much as you want to trim... Tough i thing that for a better result you should just look for a friendly and trusty hairdresser... Tough only trim if you really want to loose lenght, in other case don't trim...
About locks of love, i don't know... I don't see the point =S I don't think someone should cut their hair for the purpose to donate it because you are never sure if your hair is going to be usefull... It may end up trashed... And I've been to their site already and the wigs they make are really fake alike and don't fit the children, taking their child look alike... They do wigs like some onl lady would buy one so... I don't think that's right, so if you like your hair, just don't cut it because locks of love...
I still have to say that children with cancer need a lot more of money than of hair! Anyways...
Hi Brad,
if you don't like her touching your hair, and she doesn't respect that, I'd avoid getting close to her.
You might be able to do trims yourself by putting some 20-30 hair bands on your hair, putting it into a rather stiff and tight pony tail. You'd leave about 1/2 to 1 inch of hair naked at the end, and that's the bit you'd trim. I do that about once a year, and I do suggest that you don't do it more often. If your hair is very thick, that method may not be feasible.
But, having said all that, regular trims usually are unnecessary in the first place.
According to info I have found it seems that "Locks of Love" a) their wigs don't reach a lot of those they claim to help, b) help children only with wigs of fake hair, c) have a lots of unused hair in their shelves that is sold or trashed, d) they seem to be doing very well financially (which, for a proper charity, is o.k.), and e) they really should include a policy statement that would discourage pestering unwilling "donors" (really: victims) and labeling them as "selfish". To summarize, I don't think much of them.
Hope that helps.
Happy Growth!
Hans-Uwe
Touch her breasts, Brad. I think she'd remember the lesson about "don't touch my hair" after that. Okay, that's not really a helpful answer and it certainly doesn't fall into the respectful category. How about reminding her as soon as you see her next time that you really don't like your hair touched. If it is a little old lady that always does this you are probably out of luck but if not she might get the point eventually.
Since she is being so rude and inconsiderate it is open season for being lectured. You can even rattle off a list of reasons why people wouldn't want their hair touched.
It tangles easily.
Covering hairloss.
Psychological discomfort.
That is only reserved for a lover.
Tenderheaded and touch hurts.
Open sores.
Lice.
Some kind of infection.
At this point she might be starting to think. Also feel free to announce loudly she is the most selfish person you've ever met as she touches your hair. She is putting her desires ahead of your own and that is not appropriate.
Oh, and as for Locks of Love donate only if you are comfortable with the hair being sold for a small amount of money and being used to fund wig production for a child. They have more hair than they can use so don't let someone bully you into a donation when they can just give cash themselves.
Elizabeth
