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Well, I'm still going through that long tedious process of gaining my precious locks back. Before I cut, my hair was of approximate 4 years growth which, as one can imagine, was quite a devistating transition to that scruffy, sandpaper-like feel you get when running your fingers up on the back of your scalp after a fresh hair cut....makes me shudder just thinking about it. Alongside abuse and constant nagging from my friends and bandmates, hahaha, and the various testimonials provided on this board, I, myself, came to the conclusion that short hair just wasn't for me. I started growing it back in late May I believe and my hair is already completely covering my ears, as my hair grows quite fast. I'm hoping that by December my hair should be at about my chin and from there I'll start thinking about preparing for one even length, bangs just aren't my thing. Thank you all for your support and as it has been stated many times before on this board, I figure one more time couldn't hurt as people continue (myself included) to fall into this trap: DO NOT CUT YOUR HAIR FOR WOMEN, CUT IT FOR YOU AND YOU ALONE.
Any shots of you before (or after) the cut? I can't quite remember who you are.
Thanks.
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Nice look keep growing
Hi Symphony_X, hi everybody
you are absolutely right, saying "DO NOT CUT YOUR HAIR FOR WOMEN" (or for a love partner of any gender; not all board users are straight).
Falling in love always makes us willing to give up something of ourselves, hence vulnerable for demands that go too far. However, experience shows that most relationships where this happens, are doomed - first she'll make him to cut off his hair, later she'll ditch him anyways.
In other words, we might start out by agreeing to please a woman we love by cutting off our hair. However, as time goes on, she'll want to modify us more and more, and, no matter how hard we try to satisfy her, we'll be less and less successful, and, in any case, less and less happy.
So, if a partner insists on haircuts, eg "for the wedding", or "it doesn't look right on you", or similar BS, that's a clear warning sign - get ready to run!!! In almost all cases, such relationships will NOT be happy in the long run!
By the same token, I'd advise a woman to send their BF elsewhere, if he requires her to modify eg her breasts in order to please him (o.k., a drastic example, but you see the point).
Grow it back, man, grow it back, you've got great hair, it'll look gorgeous again, and you'll be whole once more!
Wishing you happy growth, and lots of hair peace,
Hans-Uwe
These girlfriends or boyfriends who insist that their partner's cut their hair for them are beyond selfish...and are wheedling and controlling...and many times have incredible egos. "He cut his hair for ME"...and then, when THAT novelty wears off, they dump him. So heed the red flags. I agree with Hans-Uwe. When a BF or GF starts applying pressure for a haircut the relationship is almost always doomed. It's just a matter of time. It won't get better. And, if you consent to a makeover, you'll eventually be left alone and you'll have lost your hair on top of it.
Manipulative boyfriends or girlfriends are people to avoid.
Look forward to your hair growing back, Symphony_X. It's hard for me to believe that any girlfriend would want you to lose something so beautiful. But, then that should tell you something about her lack of character.
Long hair suits you perfectly.
Can I third that motion? I agree with Hans and Guymarch. No one, male or female, should ever pressure their partner, male or female, to give up anything at all of themselves. If such pressures do exist, then "love" is very likely not a part of the relationship for the one placing those pressures on their partner. For them, the relationship is more likely just a matter of convenience.
And it not only applies to hair. In fact, I don't really believe it's about any one particular element of appearance at all. It's really about control, as Guymarch eluded to. And if it isn't the length of your hair that a partner is pressuring you to alter, then it's something else. Maybe the way you dress or the way you walk. Maybe the way you talk or the way you eat. Maybe your sense of humor or the kind of music you like. The list goes on and on. Anything that helps to make you who you are.
But, you are who you are and there really isn't anything or anyone that can truly change that. You can make the effort to change, but you will not be happy as a result. This, in turn, means that the pressuring partner will not be happy. And the relationship, which wasn't really much of a relationship to begin with, will be history.
So, DO NOT make the effort to change who you are for anyone or anything, ever. Because true friends and true partners will never need or want you to be anyone other than who you already are.
Grow grow grow Symphony_X. The long hair most certainly suits you very well.
Best of luck,
Patrick
Wow didnt know you cut your hair of lol ....Ive done the same thing to for my bestfriend as he has short back n sides he talked me into doing the same thing to yeah I in turn DIDNT LIKE IT MUCH so i re grown my hair but that was back in October 2004 no cuts since then and like you said DONT CUT IT FOR ANYONE BUT YOURSELF btw dont forget the two week rule next time !
Axel
I have heard of couples do weird things to each other, sometimes the women wants you to cut your hair, or do something to your privates or whatever, or make you have a vescetomy (where you cut the tubes leading from the testes to make you infertile) so she wouldnt have to worry about having kids. I always remember one guy said, "the desire for control is the greatest of all desires, it is even greater than the desire to live, or to have sex, just look at those who ran planes into the world trade center, they rather die than not be in control"
I am growing my hair out and will not cut it for anyone, luckily for me though, my Girlfriend has an obsession for guys with longhair.