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I found some new pics of Kate Hudson and her son Ryder. The boy is now 2 years and 8 months old and his hair is getting REALLY long. He is looking great, isn't He?
Yes, Ryder is looking rather fine (ugh, how creepy does that sound? lol).
But I can see why many would confuse him for a girl.
Unfortunately from what I've read, Kate may end up cutting his hair when he turns 3. The reason she ain't cutting it now is due to some religious reason.
Yeah, male babies don't exactly look their gender with long hair.
Too bad she's cutting it though, that kid would probably look better later on with long hair than now.
Given how often many men on this board have inquired about claiming religious discrimination for having to cut one's hair for work purposes, I find your comment incredibly ironic.
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Because Goldie Hawn had a Jewish mother, it follows that Kate Hudson is Jewish too, and whilst not considering herself a religious Jew she has seemingly taken on the custom that many Jewish parents-especially the religious/Orthodox/Hassidic ones-undertake towards their boys, in which they have their first haircut only at 3.
For quick info on this custom known as the 'Upsherin' go to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Upsherin etc.
Also on an article (at: http://www.contactmusic.com/news.nsf/article/hudson%20prefers%20sons%20long%20hair_1002533) it is said that:
" KATE HUDSON refuses to cut her two-year-old son RYDER's hair, even though the tot is regularly mistaken for a girl. The HOW TO LOSE A GUY IN 10 DAYS star attempted to give her young son's hair a trim in the past, but found the process too agonising. She explains, "Actually it's really funny, because I just couldn't cut it. I couldn't get myself to cut it. "I'm part-Jewish, Hasidic Jews - they don't cut their kids hair until they're three. "I'm not very religious, but it's actually kind of beautiful, they compare the men to a tree and trees don't bear fruit for three years. "So I just figured maybe on his third birthday I'll cut it. I'm going to cry my eyes out!" "
Funnily enough some of my family members have siad to me in the past things like:
'So, when is the Upsherin'
'C'mon, lets have a big Upsherin, we'll have cake and everything!'
etc.
I just smile and take the comments for what they are (i.e lighthearted).
And I think of Samson too to give me strength!
That's some amazingly long hair for a kid that age!
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I believe that is exactly natural length for a kid of that age if you don't cut his hair.
I dare say that varies from child to child.
My nephew is 1 year old and has never had his hair cut, and even if it isn't cut for the next two years either it will be nowhere that long. And he was born with hair, not bald.
I thought it was a daughter.... So if your son does have long hair how do you tell apart from male or female? Kids usually dont show sexual trait that is obvious until puberity.
Actually, I don't think that's true. I find that you can tell the difference between boys and girls well before that, and without secondary clues such as hair length or specific clothes. I'm a parent, though, so maybe more tuned in.
My personal belief is that the son should have hair like the father until he can say that he doesn't like it and wants it some other way, and then he should be allowed to make his own mistakes. Some may think that's bad if dad has a green mohican or (shock horror) long hair, but I disagree.
As others have pointed out, Ryder is apparently going to have his hair cut when he is three, although this may be something of an excuse, based on that being the custom of only very devout jews and the mother being apparrently secular, i.e. something she said to get others off her back! So we will see.
Not sure how to sound off with regard to this... multiple concerns come to mind here- first, the kid will most certainly be mistaken as a girl as reflected in some of the remarks here. The social implications of this need to be taken into account... children AND adults can be cruel with comments and behavior. Early social trauma caused by a cruel comment or action can mark the child for life and have an opposite effect on his attitudes toward hairstyles and the people who wear them as he grows up.
It looks to me that Ms Hudson is dolling up her little boy to address her own sense of aesthetics- this can't be healthy. I think the kid should be given a style that matches other little boys his age- and only given the option to grow longer hair when he is old enough to have his own sense of style and be able to deal with what comes with standing out from the "norm".
multiple concerns come to mind here- first, the kid will most certainly be mistaken as a girl as reflected in some of the remarks here. The social implications of this need to be taken into account... children AND adults can be cruel with comments and behavior. Early social trauma caused by a cruel comment or action can mark the child for life
I don't agree with you. The little boy looks happy and obviously likes the way he is. Many children, boys and girls, love their long hair and are crying when it is cut off.
Well- while your point didn't really sway me I do appreciate that you took the effort to phrase it respectfully. I think we both have different opinions on the situation and I respect what you said and the argument you chose.
I tend to lean toward the opinion that the little boy should be groomed to look like his father until he is of an age where he can express a preference understanding the pros and cons of whatever choice he makes. Some guys feel that they are lifelong longhairs and I can certainly accept that some very young boys would want to grow their hair out but I'd expect that would be the exception rather than the rule.