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I've been here lots of times and struggle with this everyday. A few years back (maybe six) I followed through with it and cut all my hair off. I was happy with it for awhile then after a couple of bad haircuts I started regretting the chop, chop. So two years ago I grew my hair back out again and lately have been having that same ol' struggle again, argh!
I believe my real issue is I hate getting haircuts so I grow it long because I can rely on it looking good. However, if I thought I could get good haircuts reliably I'd probably keep it short?
I'm also 37 now and getting tired of the stereo type! I'm a mature, responsible and active participant in this world. I don't judge people and try to treat everyone equally but I feel like I get judged and treated unequally all the time!
I really don't know what my question is, I guess I'm just looking for some feedback, thanks.
Peace,
P.S. I think this is as evil as photoshop could handle, lol
...but this pic would certainly qualify to be used as a Halloween poster!
I experience some ambivalence in your post, in more than one dimensions. The overt theme is whether to get your hair cut or continue to let it express your unique individuality. The covert theme is a sort of tease, which makes me wonder if on the surface level your post is really sincere, especially with the picture of yourself you posted which seems to be frowning.
But taking your post as completely serious, I think it could be useful if you explored a deep self understanding. Perhaps as: Am I growing my hair as some form of rebellion? Or am I growing my hair as an expression of my authentic self? Hair is univcrsal. 99.999000% of people have hair. Hair is symbolic in every culture. There are too many varients to name here, but taking once example from the ancient Hebrews, long hair was a sign of strength and singularity of vision. Those who grew their hair long were called Nazarites, and were required to abstain from stong drink. The best example is Samuel. Read his story at the beginning of the epynomous book in the Hebrew Bible. The worse example but the most graphic is the story of the failed Nazarite, whose story is recounted in the book of Judsges, Sampson.
However, personally I am not an ancient Hebrew Nazarite, but more approriaately a modern, evolutionary Celtic Wizard, sort of a post scientific Merlin. My status like the ancient Nazarite requires that I have long hair, but it does not require that I refrain from moderate use of strong drink, or liberal us of mild drink. It requires only honesty and good will.
This role of Zararite, Shaman, Medicine Man, Wizard seems to be deeply embedded in human nature, but it takes various forms in various cultures.
I am coming to believe that having long hair is simultaneously a strong affirmation of your manhood, while at the same time an epression of gender equality, a committment to negotiate rather than fight, a desjre for peace with justice, and an expression of your personal freedom to not be a cipher in the crowd.
[OT for this board, but I think he same is so for men who ware bi-laterial ear rings or studs whether or not they have long hair and many do -- not just every guy who seems to have an exhibinistice desrite to poke as many holes in his bod as possible -- as an expression of a committment to maxmize his own life and everyone else in his orbit.]
If your hair, HEADSET, embodies some of these positive, interpersonal affirmations, I urge you to keep it and portect it.
If on the other hand it has been a trivial experience with no deep meaning then perhaps it is better that you follow your impulse to cut it.
Caledonian
DON'T DO IT! There are so many women that LOVE men with long hair. If more men knew that, they would all grow there hair back long! Of course, I live in Denver and it is more popular here then maybe in other places.
Calidonian used the same expression I was going to use after reading your post: ambivilence. The fact that you have long hair not because you want long hair, but because you say you can't get good short haircuts doesn't show much of a committment to me. And the fact that you vaccilate back and forth and are sensitive to others comments again emphasizes the same.
You have to decide what you want to do. Then, and only then can you make good decisions.
Hi
Id hate to say it Im not being horrible or nasty but this is one of the most frightening pictures ive come across for sometime like one poster as put is it Halloween !!
Axel
I was debating this in my head the other day. to be honest my whole style in general really dosent go to well with long hair and i think im letting it grow out of a)Fear of bad haircuts which ive had plenty of and b)out of rebellion somewhat. Most longhairs ive known either rockers in to the goth scene or just stoners whove never cut their hair. Honestly im very very indecisive on many decesions in my life and hair is just another one of those things. If i found a short hair style that i think looked good on me id wear it but im afraid of risking it. Also if i had the ability to grow facial hair id probably have short hair too but i cant. (i have a young looking face). To make matters worse i dont think ill be able to grow long hair due to the fact it grows at a very slow rate and is very wavy and hard to maintain. Good look with whatevr you decide to do.
Your hair looks awesome, do not let anyone question your maturity due to your hair. If anyone has a problem with you due to the length of your hair then they are narrowminded and clearly base there judgement towards people on wether they fit in with a stereotypical "tidy appearance". I would never even bother with people like that....
and trust me, it'll be just the same as the first time, you'll cut it and regret it sooner or later.
If YOU want it long have it long, if YOU dont then cut it....
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