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HI..I dont post much here...../ Cause most are so hatefull about my style so i dont fell welcome here. But had to vent on this one thing......WHY are so many cutting there hair off cause others tell them to....like some on the wedding thing..or they think they dont fit in with others YEARS TO GROW AND A MINUTE TO LOSE IT ALL....ladies telling guys to cut it cause they dont like it in order to date them..then they end up dumping you in a minute.........STAND UP GUYS
Dear Blias,
I am sorry you feel unwelcome. Other members of the board disagree with me, but I do not believe I have ever encountered a more suportive and inclusive fellowship of both men and women. Your style is not my style, but when I have seen pictures of you I have consistently thought that this is right for you.
Personally, I want feed back. I am not capable of growing the sort of luxriant mane that some younger guys sport, but if any one can suggest a better way for me to enjoy and share my long hair, I welcome the suggestionsm while reserving the right to say you do not understand my circumstancesa and my possibilities.
There will alays be judgmental people, and they will hopefully mature over time. Plase stick with us to affirm our individual diversities while affirming the right of men to grow their hair in ways that nature intended, and which culture gives us the possibility of modifying. I am very happy to live in a world in which there is lots of variety, and only become disturbed when there is pressure for all of us to be alike.
Caledonian
/ Cause most are so hatefull about my style so i dont fell welcome here. But had to vent on this one thing......WHY are so many cutting there hair off cause others tell them to....like some on the wedding thing..or they think they dont fit in with others YEARS TO GROW AND A MINUTE TO LOSE IT ALL....ladies telling guys to cut it cause they dont like it in order to date them..then they end up dumping you in a minute.........STAND UP GUYS
hey post more...the most hypocritical thing we could do on this board is to make someone feel unwelcome becuase of their hair...right?
Could be for a job. many employers do not want Men with long hair working for them especially in a professional or semiprofessional position.
Long-haired men of the world UNITE!
And those 3 words rather sum up most of the whole problem.
Guys, just don't allow yourself to be pushed around, stepped-on and controlled. It can only lead you into a life of absolutely misery. Once you've given in, your owned!
Please dont take my response with any offence - but i think you know the answer to your question. OK, now why do you choose not to post here very often? Because you're concerned about the comments made by others. Why do some guys choose to cut their hair, often for the same reason, because they are concerned about the comments made by others.
My point is simple, you are also guilty of taking such comments to heart (for which I dont blame you - i understand the implications in being classed as 'different') only you have chosen to react in a different way, by isolating yourself from this community. Therfore although you may consider their reaction more dramatic you do indeed understand the reasons why...
Mogh
Those who express 'hateful' messages about your hair are not very nice individuals.
I think you hair style is nobody's business but your own.
Anyway, even if some other guys don't care for your style, so what!
You are still a Longhair and that's what counts.
Anyway, I'll bet if you wore your hair in a ponytail, nobody could tell
what style your hair is anyway.
Nevermind hateful people--they are not worth bothering with. Just ignore their posts.
Now, it's true what you say: Many people will take the opportunity to tell a Longhair to CUT his hair whenever they can find the slightest excuse for doing that. Whether it's a wedding or family gathering or whatever...right away they will suggest that a haircut is in order. WHY? Because they never liked your long hair in the first place and now they have found an opportunity to say: "Get a haircut."
Those people need to be ignored!
Hi Blais,
There are always new members of the board coming on and you might find other new people more welcoming. I certainly don't remember people on this board posting anything remotely hateful in general, but I am not always on but the last word I would ever use of this place is hateful. Hope you give us another chance I think this group is terrific. Try posting again regularly and see.
Blais,
Mullets are a popular hair style with blue collar workers in this country, and a lot of people who disrespect that style are in reality disrespecting men who do that work. If they walked into certain bars in your town and expressed the sentiment that LIES BEHIND that disrespect, never mind hair loss, they'd probably emerge having lost teeth.
All disrespect shown toward long hair on men is based on a struggle for POWER. Power struggles are so nasty, though, that people often shift the struggle to disguise it if they can. Long hair is a bit uncommon so it is seen as a safe way to make power struggle jabs by a lot of people. The most effective way to thrust back, though, is to unmask the disguise and expose the raw sentiment underlying their comment.
I've always been on a white-collar career track, but I grew up in a coal-mining town, and I've had friends who were miners (and others who were farmers) and I know how damned hard those people work. Later, I spent much of my life as a construction engineer, pushing around a pencil while in frequent contact with men on the same site who dragged around stuff all day that was heavier than I weigh. Lemme tell you something - buildings keep you warm and dry in a storm, piles of drawings and specifications would get soggy and collapse in a storm right away. I lately have made web pages, but when I get hungry, I can't eat web pages. Somebody busted his ass under a hot sun so I'd have something to eat. When my sewer gets clogged, it takes a big burly man to manhandle all my house's old pipes, and yeah, when he gets down where gravity makes sewage go, a big man is gonna show crack.
Jay Leno has giggled about crack, and he disrespects those who work hard in our fields all the time. He's just playing into what others feel, because that gets the ratings. What underlies such sentiment? Go back to what I said above: It is Power. You're seing a bit of insecurity there. "Thank God I don't have to do that!" they once thought, but they've long ago buried that discomfort in layers of disrespecting the social class of those who do. The thought of having to work hard for a living is just too terrifying to leave on the surface where consciousness lies.
We've seen comments on this board about how longhairs like certain kinds of music. The human is a social animal, and the human mind is complex in how it forms social groups. WHY do so many of us, coming from all over the world, have such common interests? Why are longhairs concentrated in the fields of music, manual arts, and information technology? And why do blue collar guys go for certain styles of music, kinds of recreation, and styles of dress and hair? We don't know, but we see it over and over enough that we know it just "is".
I don't know why you choose to have a mullet. But I do know it's a popular style with blue collar guys, and it has that image with the public. There is some practicality in the decision of these men to have a mullet - I don't have to lean over all day to do my work, but THEY DO, and a mullet is a way to have long hair and not have the wind blowing your hair in your face all day. With a mullet, you can do your work and have long hair too.
Maybe you run with that crowd, or maybe you ARE in that crowd, or maybe you just grew up around that crowd. It doesn't matter - what matters is you feel good having a mullet. It's as comfortable to you as eating down-home cooking or hearing music sung in my childhood tongue (which comes out of Nashville) is to me. So first of all, enjoy your mullet. And second, if someone disses you for it, rip off their mask. Tell 'em that your hair style is associated with people who actually WORK for a living, and ask them what makes them so damned insecure about that!
Be proud,
Bill
Bill, You are an intelligent man! I agree with everything you said! As far as I am concerned, people with mullets are welcomed here!
Darrin