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some of you biggotts on here make me sick! yes im a guy with long hair, i dress as a girl, look like a girl, and go out as a girl most of my life, thats the way i've been since i was very young, i saw this site and thought it was fun, i love guys having long hair i think you all look cool, i never imagined you would be so hypocritical to knock people for being themselves, some of you must have real hangups about yourselves and think your something special for being a guy with long hair, i like this site and i like reading about guys with long hair and looking at the pictures, i'll keep posting mine as some like them, im not gay, i respect gay people, there cool there being themselves like we all want to be.
I didn't take the post as an intent to leave but more as a response to those who have taken the effort to respond adversely to the depicted cross-dressing in Nisha's posts. My only response to Nisha is- if you insist on making your lifestyle a part of the discussion on the board what kind of response can you expect?
I was brought up with the idea that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all- an inhibition if you will, to being outspoken. There are a considerable number of longhaired guys who would bristle at their choice of hair length being equated to cross dressing or being trans gendered and do not share my ethic of keeping an acid wit sheathed, so to speak.
There are many normally well-adjusted humans not sharing our taste in hair length, who when viewing your posts here might conclude that the theme of this forum includes such practice and would infer that the rest of the membership followed the practice. Some may find that to be offensive. The responses may reflect the perception that you are trying to hijack the purpose of the board to further your lifestyle. While I'm willing to accept that this is not your agenda, there are many who will not share my point of view.
I cannot speak for the mods and administration here as I am a sometimes user... if they feel the need to be heard they will have little problem expressing themselves. The irony of the adverse response to you is not lost on me but neither is the impression that you just may be trolling for a reaction. I'm not saying that you are- but from a total-stranger's standpoint, the possibility is there.
A longhair generally goes on with his life with the expectation that many folks are not going to approve of his choices; a few may be quite vocal about it. The longhair tends to accept this as just part of his decision and it's his call as to whether long hair is worth the grief some insist on delivering. If you are going to continue posting photos of yourself done up as a woman I suggest you take this into consideration... and expect that there will be some occasional flak as you make your decisions and lifestyle choices a matter of public scrutiny.
I do hope that you take this in the spirit it was intended.
Good post Lurk Ness Monster, Made good sense to me.
Nisha, Since this is actually a long hair board for men, I am curious? could you just post on the subject of long hair for men? A good start would be maybe posting a pic as your male self without any female stuff on. Just a suggestion.
Agreed
Extremely well said - that is what this site is about not whateve trolling this might be.
Thanks, but after posting it I think that I should of said dressed as a man instead of "without any female stuff on"
Otherwise he might post in the nude... :(
Good point Chipster - had not noticed that gap!
yeah...I'm kinda curious as to how he would look like dressed as a man :P
To Lurk Ness, Good post!
To Nisha; I haven't been following up all your posts myself and the mean responses you claim to have received (uhm, from all us??) so I can't really make a fair judgement. But sad but true as it is your appearence will always be a victim of narrow mainded idoits. It's a good thing you feel comfortable fully being yourself. But clearly pointing that out, even appologising to us is rather sad and somewhat exposing your lack of selfconfidence. I'm guessing you have a lot of anger and bad feelings built up inside of you from previos harresments and perhaps abuse? Clearly, this is not the first time you get these kind of responses. If my guesses were right, I suggest you get some sort conceling or perhaps even better; talk to your friends and love ones. They may know you better than you think you know yourself.
half the time your posts have nothing to do with hair but how feminine you look. how bout you post pics of only your hair not your dresses, bra straps or other junk. every single hair pic youve posted for weeks is the same damn one with you wearing a white jacket...
Yeah, I noticed the jacket thing too. I guess we can be thankful it's not pink with plenty of ribbons and clips all over it.
Nisha, first let me say I have no issues what so ever with you dressing like a woman, and I have seen some of the horrible comments made to you and think that the person/people who wrote them are ignorant, close minded idiots.
However, some of the other comments I have seen are justified, the main being that your photos are repetitive. One of the purposes of this site IS to post photos, however they are generally time lapsed so to speak, say 1 post a month or every few months to show how their progress is going, it is not just to show hair.
I hope you understand where I am coming from, I am not saying this out of any kind of hatred, its just maybe if you tried to integrate into this community by posting regular (once a month) updates, genuine questions and answers or even photos of you out and about at interesting locations you would find that a large proportion of this community are actually well adjusted, open minded, intelligent people.
p.s. Obviously there will still be some idiots here, but the moderators are not them and have successfully removed the comments made by such people thus far.
I find your comments here rather strange. They start off accusing us all of being hypocrits, biggots, and having hangups about ourselves. Then your statements suddenly switch directions, floating off into outer space into some surprisingly unrelated compliments, --- sort-of... Which is it? Would you like to chew us out, or flatter? Mixing the 2 up like that negates BOTH, --- which ends up communicating nonsense. Hopefully you were not under the influence of some sort of mind-altering state of consciousness when you wrote this? (Or, maybe I should say: if you *were* under some sort of "enhanced influence", then please apologize to us when you come-to!)
It's always a good idea to think carefully before accusing a whole group of people of having major character flaws!
Maybe being absent from this board for several weeks has caused me to "miss something" here; so, if someone else reading my reply here can help enlighten me a bit, I'd much appreciate it. In the meantime... I guess I just don't "get it", nisha.
- Ken
Don't worry, you're not alone. I've been haphazardly keeping up with his posts since he first arrived, and not even I know what he's trying to say.
Well, fortunately, a good bit of people here aren't bigoted as far as I can observe.
As for me, I could care less what you do. You have a right to do whatever you want to do so long as it does not violate the rights of others.
If you enjoy what you do and it does not infringe on others rights, more power to you along with praise of your inner strength; you are doing what you feel most comfortable with regardless of what anyone else thinks. That is similar in spirit to a long haired man in a world where such people normally wear their hair short.
As for being gay or not, there is a common misconception among those narrow of mind who assume that a man who dresses as a woman is gay. Homosexuality means being attracted to ones own sex as opposed to being attracted to a man that tries to look like a woman. This also applies to female homosexuals as they're attracted to other women rather than a woman trying to look like a man. Of course, this isn't 100%, but nevertheless, just because somebody likes to dress in clothes of the other sex does not mean that person is homosexual. Indeed, there are heterosexual transvestites.
So, don't let others put you down for what you do. If anything, just tell them to suck a lemon if their intolerance proves them to be as reasonable as a brick wall. - Reinhart
OK, Nisha, I am a little bit concerned.
I don't think it fair that you target a whole user group as being hypocritical.
Two main reasons:
1) Has everyone been rude to you?
2) Has any claim been made that this is a group committed to the mutual acceptance of anyone by everyone, regardless of differences in personal opinion or lifestyle choice?
People are entitled to their opinions. That includes the opinion that crosss-dressing is acceptable. And the opinion that it is not.
If people were flaming the board; listing insults or hateful messages, then I applaud the moderators fro doing a great job because I HAVEN'T SEEN ANY! (And I read the posts every day!)
Regarding pics, there has been a lot of similarity from one pic to the next. (Heck, same with mine -- it doesn't seem to be growing very quickly since it just curls more tightly). The difference, I think, between your pics and others, though, is the focus: Your pictures almost always seem to focus on the ribbon, on the silk, on the makeup or haltertop. The other photos posted here are generally about the HAIR. I can harldy recall, off the top of my head, any of the outfts worn in the other posted photographs. Yours are intended, I think, to stand out AND your pics are usually full-body pics (not just close up head shots, or artfull hair creations like the mini-cousin it on a rock).
I, personally, have no issue if people want to cross dress. Heck, my senior-olympics-basketball-playing father-in-law like to cross dress! (And he doesn't make a pretty woman!) I am completely accepting of that. I have come to know, though, that feeling public acceptance of their dressing preference is a common trait of men who like to dress as (and act like) women. If, in your honest estimation, some of your postings have not been solely about discussing long-hair and the related issues that are brought up here, perhaps you are seeking more than advice about long-hair...
Of course all men and women who admire and enjoy long hair on men should be welcome here in a non-discriminatory manner. Of course any hateful messages should be removed.
And, yes, people who participate on a public-accessible forum should respect the intent of the forum when making posts.
I hope this doesn't sound harsh, Nisha. I think your hair is long and shiny and I would like to see how long it will be in another 6 months, year...just not, perhaps, on a 3-picture a day basis.
Please accept this message with a grain of salt and hear it as it is meant to be stated: Sensitive honesty.
-Mr. Crow
Hi Nisha !
Though I do not post often, I am regularly reading the hyperboard.
I am especially reading your post and the answer made to you as well.
I love long hair both on men and women.
Frankly to say I never have the guts to overcome all the hassle to let mine grow long (longest was to the shoulders !)
many reasons about it... no need to develop, it is not the subject !
I sometime wear wigs for a few days and even cross dress as my feminine side is very developped in me !
Crossed dressed, I am "passable" as the TG world is saying !!! ... and i fully enjoy it !
But this introduction is to state that I have a lot of respect for all of you who are living 100% your decision to be what you are !
Being a long hair is not easy ! Living as a girl when you are a man is even more difficult !
But I do not think that living as a girl when being a man is really a choice. It is inside you and there is nothing you can do about it !
I am living in asia, I have a lot of real true friend lady boys and I enjoy their company, we have a lot of fun together ... and some sad moment as well !
The life of lady boys is not easy at all, so many discrimination !!!
All this to say that i respect you a lot, and i am sure you are a wonderful person !
Neverthless, I also understand the reaction of some of the member of this site !
This site is FOR LONG HAIR MEN INTERESTING IN LONG HAIR !
Full Stop !!!!!!!
Being a long hair MAN, you are definitly qualify for this site ... but as long as you are posting about your hair ... and not your life style !
COncerning your life style ... that nobody is blaming you here, I beleive there are other site for you to discuss with similar guys as you.
A site as "urnotalone.com" seems more adequate for you !
I had great chat on this site. Do you know it ?
There is a lot of wonderfull people there discussing about Transgender, cross dressing and sharing their own experiences. Really not turned to low sexual purpose as many site I could visit on the subject.
I really recommend this site for you !
Concerning the comments here on the Hyperboard, I really think you are giving some guys the stick to be beaten (this is a mere translation of a French word ... my mother tongue actually !)
I have read you post. When you are asking if such style or such other style look too much feminine !!!!
Well, obviously it look very feminine on you !!! and in my opinion it even look great !
When you are wearing a dress and make up, obviously it looks feminine !
Most of the guys here do not try to look feminine, it is simply being long hair with a masculine attitude !
..and it is as respectful on both way !
This remind me a incident some weeks ago with a guy obviously gay ! I am not gay myself because simply not attracted to man ! I am like that, nothing i can do about it !
But i respect gay and I started a nice discussion with him ! and at one point he really wanted me to go with him for something much more intimate. Because I was refusing , he got really angry with me ! So I told him:" why you do not respect me and respect the fact that I am straight ? I respect you as a gay and I have no problem with is, but you cannot be angry at me for being different that you ! I respect you,please respect me. It should be both side ..."
I really had the feeling that his reaction was upside down and that he was having on me, as a straight guy the some kind of reaction that some of the gays are suffering, i.e. discrimination and intolerance !
I had this very same feeling by reading some of your post. I had the feeling that you are somewhere not really accepted that most of the members here are straight guys, not looking for developping their feminine side but only loving their long hair and wanted to be respected only for that !
Nisha, I respect you a lot and I am sure you are a nice guy also living a difficult life because of your lifestyle ! I know very well, through my own experience that being a ladyboy is not an easy thing.
I beleive you will agree with me !
Nevertheless, I also beleive that you post here should be strictly concentrate on the HAIR TOPICS and nothing else !
If you have other concern, then some site are more adapted to that (I gave you one address earlier in this long post !) and you will surely find there a lot of happiness with great people sharing the same concern as you and people who could also give you a lot of advise !
My post has been so long there (and probably boring !), and it is really a performance for any of you still ready me at this stage !
I would be very pleased as well to get the comments from all of you
I love this site for the way it is !
Congrats to all of you there !
All my love
Christel
Where in asia do you live? I am in Taiwan now... I think Taiwan is probably the most progressive nation in the area, except maybe Japan (they still have some area lacking in human rights, according to the country report issued by the State Department). I guess people just can't stop discriminating.
Hi Tai Fu !
I am in Hong Kong !
I don't know if it applies in this case but I would
point out when it comes to transsexuals and transgendered
i'm not an expert on it, but the way to look at it is you've
got a case where a person of one sex is trapped in the body
of the opposite sex.
It can be a man trapped in the body of a woman, or a woman trapped in the body of a man. Who knows why this happens
but it does. It's not really a matter of choice.
Do you mind if I ask you are you if you're a trasnssexual,
are undergoing sex re-assignment surgery?
If you are I would point out there is much misunderstanding about
the process.
Probaly the simplist way to put it is this way: I have a friend
who is in the process of getting sexual re-assigment surgery,
she was born in the body of a man, felt trapped in that body,
and is now the process having re-assigment surgery to become
the woman she was born as.
Even here, in the only state that recognizes gay marriage
the whole concept of sexaual re-assignment surgery, being
trapped in the body of the opposite sex is an extremely
mis-understood field.
Hi Nisha,
sorry to see that most of us don't seem to be able to give you what you need - simple appreciation for the looks of a male-to-female crossdresser or transsexual (I don't know which of the two terms describes you correctly - is it cross-dresser?). Sorry if anyone implied there was anything wrong with you - of course, we don't have that right.
Just a suggestion: Why don't you just post here from time to time whenever there's something new to post about long hair in men, and why don't you simply take some of your "business" to a male-to-female crossdresser/transsexual discussion baord - you might run into people who are more empathic to your situation than many of us. This is just a suggestion - it's not meant as a negative message.
Best wishes,
Hans-Uwe
Hello Nisha...
This is the first time I am replying to one of your threads...
Anywaysm I will not coment on your clothes, for I do believe that you should dress as you feel more comfortable with...
Ok... You know this is a man's forum, and the main topic here is how long hair compliments a male apearence in general, and that long hair is not just for woman, etc... I think it's natural that coming here with your long hair, dressed like a woman, and showing us feminine styles just as you showed before goes a little against the environment here on the hyperboard...
BUT... here at the forum there are several female members that are really welcome. I don't feel offended or disturbed with your posts or with your pictures in any way, but I do think it's natural for most people to feel like that. I deeply respect that you want to dress like a woman (I sincirely tought you were really a woman before seeing your face) and I think that you should be welcome here.
But still... note that keeping on relating your long hair to your femininity can harm the whole idea of the forum, for we defend long hair as being masculine as well, and as a man, you're destroying a bit of that... Just my idea...
I don't know why you dress like a girl, but I have to say that I really think that femininity is really related to beauty, and I think men should be more feminine overally, tough i can't see any femininity in you sorry =( Even because most things you're dressing in your pictures, I wouldn't aprove even in a woman (mainly the hairbows, which I think are really childish)...
Anyways, it's your style, it's your life, and you know what's best for you...
I don't really know why I replied, but I have to defend my people, and the people from the forum are really open minded, and I don't think they are hypocrital =(
I hope this situation goes to an end. You don't need to go away, but I don't think you need to be always relating your long hair to your "femininity"... Just a tought...
See ya! - I hope I haven't offended you anyway. You have to know I really respect your way of being... hope you didn't get me wrong =) ...
You took the words right out of my mouth. Good responce!!
Hi
nisha
I apologies for those who judge you for the way you decided to led your life it is but your own decision on the how you led you life and NOT the decision of others having said that I myself though you was a female until i saw this picture !!!
Please dont let others spoil your life and Please enjoy it the way you want to !!
Take Care Axel