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I'm reading these comments about guys and their wives not liking their long hair. what ever happened to the days when women used to encourage their Men to grow their hair??
I think they could be jealous, it takes my wife an hour to do her hair, but takes me 10 min. :)And mine looks just as good as hers....
And mine looks just as good as hers....
Hi Chris,
I totally agree! It takes me 2-3 minutes to brush my hair and to tie it into a pony tail, and for the rest of the day, I just forget about it - except for the 2 minutes in the afternoon, when I re-brush it :-)
Hans-Uwe
I will hazard a guess, or if you prefer, propose a hypothesis. I would be willing to bet (yes money) that women who oppose long hair are most likely adherents to some sect which sees the Bible as inerrant and transcultural.
My second guess, or if you prefer, hypothesis is that they are also sexually inhibited.
This would make a delicious doctoral thesis for a psychologist or sociologist.
Hi Caledonian,
basically, you are quite right - and I say that even though I do see the bible as "inerrant and transcultural" in a certain way, being a member of a mainstream Christian denomination.
The books of the bible are meant to be a (or quite possibly: the) main source for the Jewish and Christian faiths. The bible should not be mistaken for a straightforward biology textbook or a comprehensive "how-to" cookbook for social engineering (something many people seem to do, unfortunately). If we want to understand biblical statements correctly, we have to keep into account both the usage of Hebrew and Greek words at the time of writing as well as culture-derived implications of biblical expressions. Problems start only when certain literalists forget these things.
In any case, happy growth to all!
Hans-Uwe
I certainly agree, and if I had a master's degree in either of these fields, I'd certainly enjoy to write that dissertation ;-)
I swear - I went into a clothes shop on the weekend, and got [b][i]tons[/i][/b] of stares from the opposite sex.
I mean loads.
I expect it's because women get used to seeing guys with short hair. I know I do.
That being said, the stares could have been down to the fact that the clothes shop was quite feminine...
I think it's more of an issue of them (the women) worrying too much about what other people would think about their partner/husband having long hair, rather than not liking it themselves...they're too concerned with "outer" image, if you will :)
I stopped carrying about what women think about my hair years ago. Most women that critize my hair are jealous because my hair makes their's look like crap.
Darrin
perhaps you're right...maybe it is jealousy issues :P
Hi Cerebral,
I think you're right, some women are concerned what others will think of them in the company of that long-haired boyfriend/husband. On the other hand, parents can be that way, too. When I was young, one of the arguments of my dad was "What are people going to think of us?" - Then again, the same can be true of bosses: "Well, I personally don't mind your hairstyle, but what are the customers going to think?"
This is what I call "meta-discrimination", a kind of pre-emptive obedience to perceived norms. Sometimes, meta-discrimination is a poor excuse for those who don't have the guts to say "It is ME who doesn't like your hairstyle".
In a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, it is probably the best thing to make it clear very early, that getting short hair is a definitive "No-No".
Keep it growing - and women will follow you!
Hans-Uwe
Well if a guy started to go out with a girl before he had long hair, then the girl probably wouldn't like it if he grows it because the short hair was part of her initial physical attraction to him. Maybe she would've never given him a chance when they first met if he had long hair then. The same would apply if a couple first meets when the guy has long hair, but then decides to cut it off at some point. It's a big change. Major hairstyle changes really affect your appearance. Many people don't like change and need to take a while to adjust (and some can't.)
Well, naturally, it's a very subjective thing - one woman practically deifies men with long hair, while another would gladly make male hair growth punishable by firing squads using blowguns. One case in either way does not speak for every case in the world, a concept that can be extended to much, if not all, of the (subjective) universe.
I experience a mix of opposition and adoration/adulation but more to the latter, to the extent that I've recently spurred the creation of a three-girl fanclub just for my hair. LOL. And just the other night, two girls couldn't stop running their hands through my hair all over Universal Studios. It's a hit-or-miss thing, finding someone who likes long hair, and it's never neccesarily a permanent trait - a woman can cherish your hair for fifty years and then suddenly abhor every strand on your scalp.
Peace
Haha, excellent! I went to a blues/biker/Hells Angel bar with some buddies the other night to see a band and got a fair bit of female attention, isn't life great!!!
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and it's never neccesarily a permanent trait - a woman can cherish your hair for fifty years and then suddenly abhor every strand on your scalp.
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Re: " a woman can cherish your hair for fifty years and then suddenly abhor every strand on your scalp."
I guess it's "La Donn' e Mobile!"
T.F.
I'm a woman, I love long haired men and its my fault my bf has hair down to his waist (whch he loves) and i back him up to the hilt if he ever gets any stuipid comments from anyone (which have stopped as people are now used to him as he is)
i think it depends on the woman, everyones different