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I've recently gotten to know this girl I like. So I went on a date with her today and she tells me she found out about my website through searching my email address.
Ok, I was embarrassed. I guess it is on the weird side but I've always thought of it as a relatively benign hobby. I won't deny my interest in hair. To do that would be to deny a part of me and what good is that? I tried to explain to her that it's largely tongue-in-cheek but also a resource for others growing out their hair.
She said she thought it was funny but I could tell from her look that she's not sure of me now. This really sucks. I'm a normal person with a few eccentricities including that site. If I didn't really like her, I wouldn't care but was hoping to get to know her more.
I don't know what to do. It's probably too late with her now but what if the next girl I'm interested in finds it? People, including women, that know me aren't bothered by it. It's just someone new. I would have told her about it eventually once she got to know the real me.
If I went on a date with her and I didn't feel us clicking that would be one thing. I can deal with that but to have it derailed before it even had a chance sucks.
The offense
That depends. Do you like your site? I mean, it's about you. If she starts laughing at you for having this site, do you really want to be with her? I don't think a website is enough to make or break someone (unless it's like completely obscene or something, but this isn't the case). Get to know her more and let her get to know you more. It's just a website. People make them about a bunch of stuff and it's a LOT better than having a MySpace site. If it's something you're passionate about, then I would say "there are other fish in the sea". I wouldn't be embarrased about it, if I were you.
The only thing that really matters is whether you enjoy maintaining the site. If you don't, then take it down. If you do, then keep it up. No one should ever be a factor in deciding what interests you have.
im not sure about ur site, but one thing that i will say is your hair looks awesome.....NEVER CUT IT lol
asthepalacesburn
Jason...
Your site is really cool and really special. Also, you've been keeping it for years now. I don't think you should destroy it because of a girl. Think with me... destroying your site for a girl would be like cuting your hair for a girl, or changing your style for a girl, or changing your personal tastes or personality for a girl. I hope you get what I'm trying to say...
I think that this girl simply has to understand your passion for long hair, I mean, how could a site offend someone? Like duh! I think that if this girl has a good personality and a good mind she will understand... I guess she really found it funny and you understood her facial expressions wrong, since it's natural for a man to be afraid that people aroung him don't understand a passion for long hair.
Please don't destroy your site... just think about all the effort you gave in it... I think that it is really special, I wish I could have a site like your for my own =)
I wish you the best luck with everything =) What I told you was only my opinion, I think that, in the first place, you gotta do what you think it's right... But I really think that destroying your site is deleting a part of you, a part of something you like, and I don't think anyone deserves this...
Good luck =)
Hi João,
Thanks for your kind words.
I guess a lot of people don't understand our interest and passion about our hair. God, I can think of a lot worse things to have interests in. Women run into this same thing over at LHC - from men if you can believe it.
I would feel a loss destroying it but at the same time, I'm not willing to sacrifice a potential relationship with a wonderful woman.
I guess I have a lot of thinking to do.
Jason
Jason,
If I were you I would keep the site...now that SHE ALREADY KNOWS that you have an interest in photography and hair,it's pointless to destroy the site.In fact, it's worse to destroy the site than to keep it...because then you will be communicating to her that you are vulnerable and that she can control you...definitely not a signal to be giving to a woman.good luck in deciding!!
CerebralAssassin
Just make sure the head you use to do the thinking with is the one between your ears.
LOL. Indeed....
Very, very, very well said. Jason, for what its worth, I agree with him completely.
Best to you in your decision. We will continue to support you no matter what, but know that your site and the contributions you make here are valued.
Agreed 100%
Jason, I would keep it, that is one of the best sites that I have ever seen concerning longhair growth. You have come a long way and have put a lot of work into your website to just throw it all away for anyone. It is a part of you, and if someone does not understand that then they will never understand you, your site is also your journal and is part of the package that you represent.I would still date her and you 2 will eventually get to know each other better and if your journal becomes an issue with her, then what next?. Will she demand a buzz cut? Red Flags!
It is a part of you, and if someone does not understand that then they will never understand you, your site is also your journal and is part of the package that you represent.
I would still date her and you 2 will eventually get to know each other better and if your journal becomes an issue with her, then what next?. Will she demand a buzz cut?
A lot of women (and maybe some men) go into relationships with the intention of changing thier "spouse" in the future. Relationships are only as strong as the foundation of accepting the other one as they are, not who they can mold them as they like.I hope this wasn't too deep, but I have been through it and have seen friends go through it before.Chris
I hope this wasn't too deep, but I have been through it and have seen friends go through it before.
Chris
Thanks Chris. I guess it really is a part of me, my life. I don't really get what's so offensive. So I take a lot of pictures.. I spend maybe an hour or two a month on it - it is that big a deal?
She would never ask me to get a buzz cut because it was my long hair that first drew her to me. Her first email to me was entitled, "We need more long hair!" so she definitely fine with my long hair. It's my site she doesn't get.
Hmm, maybe she misunderstands the real meaning of it to you and thinks it is a "vanity" type thing, just a guess.You could simply disable it temporarily if needed, then you could always bring it back to life if you want to @ a later time.Later,
Chris
You could simply disable it temporarily if needed, then you could always bring it back to life if you want to @ a later time.
Later,
Chris
Do you know how to do that?
The easiest way is to rename index.html to something else, and put in a placeholder index.html in its place. One of my domains is:
http://sfmuni.net/
goes to http://sfmuni.net/index.html
but my actual page is here:
http://sfmuni.net/muni.htm
No content is removed or changed, but it is less easy to access. You can also put in a robots.txt to keep some of the search engines from indexing your pages.
But I am not familier with robots.txt,.
Google "robots.txt" that gets you plenty of info
Your activity will also show up on the Hyperboard here and on other sites where you have no control over content.
The bottom line in life, not just on the Internet, is if you are ashamed of something, don't do it. This is known as "protecting your reputation". Kids who grow up in small towns learn this at an early age, but city kids are learning it later: the Internet has in recent years made the world a small town.
That said, people go through life with different passions as time goes by. If you are no longer into something, it makes little sense (it's actually a bit fraudulent) to still have it linked from your home page. Your home page should reflect what you are into NOW. You might nevertheless want to leave the material on line, unlinked from your home page, if you find others in society find it useful, though!
As an example, very few sixth graders with a home page would still mention all their hobbies from that year on their page ten years later when they are in grad school at college! But if their page from back then was really complete on a subject, and was being used by a lot of grade school teachers to show their students what kids their age can do, you may want to leave it on line because SOCIETY has an interest in the material.
It's perfectly honorable to change one's mind. If it weren't, "freedom of speech", which is held in high regard, would be utterly worthless, because that is its sole purpose. [grin] If you aren't into something anymore, be it your religion, growing your hair, or anything else, changing your mind IS OKAY. Telling people, "I'm not into what you saw on that page anymore, but it was a great growth experience for me while I was, and was something that I needed back then," is perfectly okay. Self-improvement is not something to be ashamed of! Nor is growing up! Leaving such a page on line because lots of other people find it of help is also honorable.
It is your page so you get to decide. Just remember people will find traces of it though, and that the answer to any questions about it is that it was not something you are ashamed of because it was appropriate for you at the time. Then point people to your current page that shows what you are into now!
Happy growing (of hair and everything else!)
Bill
My goodness, I never knew such an archiving site is out there. It's kind of scary actually.
I am not ashamed of it. What really is there to be ashamed of? I am concerned about the potential for misunderstanding that it presents. I couldn't care less with most people but a prospective girlfriend, yeah I care.
The truth is - I still am into it. As you know, this is what I have wanted hairwise for a very, very, very long time. I view my site as a celebration of sorts, a tangible marker of becoming a longhair.
If I'm going to be perceived as being too weird from it and lose out because of it then I guess I have to really weigh what's most important to me. Please be blunt with me. Is this just an immature stunt that needs to be stopped?
Well, that would be long hair, traveling, photography. Hmmm, seems awfully similar to my current site!
Yup. Never put anything online you wouldn't want accessable years from now.
Of course, people will find out eventually, and that includes her. About all you can do is push the site back from being the first impression or from being the predominant impression. Make your home page show lots of other stuff you're into, too. Let people know there's a lot more to you than hair.
If you remove the hair stuff and people find traces of it, then they WILL wonder if you're not ashamed of it. If you leave it, you can be truthful - that a lot of people find it useful (just look at this thread if you have doubts about that!) and that you'll likely leave it for society's benefit even if you cease to have an interest in it yourself.
Then it still serves a purpose for YOU, and leaving it on line for now to me seems to be a no-brainer. [grin]
Your site is very clear about who you are and why you made the site. I see nothing wrong with it at all. You say you put it together for yourself, but you didn't have to upload it to the Internet to help yourself. You put it on the Internet to help others. Ain't nuthin' wrong with that!
Bill
Your website is a personal and artistic endeavor. If you were a painter, and your date mentioned that she saw some of your paintings at a show and acted like it was a bit strange, would you pull them from the exhibition and burn them? Maybe give up painting, in case it made potential dates uncomfortable?
I would run, not walk away from a person who wasn't comfortable with who I am...particularly when it was something I am passionate about. I can't imagine trying to fit in someone else's box, fergoshsakes, I don't fit in my own box.
And I purposefully am not difficult to find on the web...a little google-fu, and you should get all the basic passions and addictions.
I just want to say, a few days ago I posted a question in which you answered with a link to your website, which helped me a great deal. If people like you didn’t create such websites the internet would become pointless, I think if you explained to her that it’s simply a helpful resource for men attempting to grow their hair, as apposed to a compulsion or obsession of yours I am sure she would understand. I mean I have seen weirder websites then that, for instance I have seen an entire website devoted to a person’s cat, I mean that is certainly less useful than yours.
Also you could always show her other such websites just so she knows your not alone.
for instance this
http://www.geocities.com/sk8ar51388/lhppic.html
or this
http://gollan.pwaresearch.com/hp/progress.html#_intro
I told her that but I don't think she bought it.
I'm glad my site helped you some.
Well if it comes done to choosing between a website and a possible relationship, I say you would be a fool to choose the website. After all I doubt your website will keep you warm at night, having said that the damage has already been done and also if you start making concessions now you will find you will be doomed to do it every time.
I think that maybe your reaction to her inquiry about your site belied to her that you think there is something wrong with you having your web-site. That is, her perception of your perception of yourself by revealing your discomfiture made her believe you found fault in what you are/were as a person, thus coloring her reaction.
By your admission, you beleive that the site contributes to your eccentricity. Do you see this as a negative? Or do you think that your eccentricity is a thing that makes you you?
It seems that many times those who would project their fault-finding onto another without foreknowledge of another's motivation is out to create a belief that they themselves are what they hope is normal, and oftentimes, these same ones have something that they perceive as equally faulty and hope to hide that. A striving to be perceived as normal is often misdirected when that striving causes one to forgo what is usually harmless and healthy, but not as mainstream as the society in which we live makes one think he should be.
To me normal is contrasted with interesting in many cases. Who's more interesting to talk to or read a book about: Joe Schmoe who goes about bedecked in khakis and washes the car every Saturday morning, or Uncle Jeremiah who lived in Burma and then moved to Uppsala and had lunch with the crown prince of Sweden every other Saturday and maybe even has long hair too?
Don't paint yourself in a corner by bringing your opinion of your site around to being wierd or tongue-in-cheek. I don't think you see it as this, but by apologetically explaining the site away to her, by your own action you may have established a precedent to her that you really believe it was 'wrong' of you to have such as site (or anything else in the future). For instance, once I was putting mayonaisse on peas, and someone remarked how strange it was. I remarked back that it was actually delicious and that she should try it! I would re-explain to her in all confidence unapologetically your reasons for being who you are and having the site.
Well, good luck!
Excellent post, Bragi. Thank you. I think it boils down to the fact that while I'm not ashamed of it or my eccentric side, it's not something I would want to immediately show to someone. That's the real issue I'm having.
Hey Jason,
If a woman is going to pass on you over the site's content, she'd likely skip you after finding about your strong interest in long hair in person. Meanwhile, keeping your website is just the thing that may attract a similarly interested woman to you. A site that weeds out the bad-for-you potential dates and can interest the good-for-you ones, sounds kinda win-win to keep it up when put that way.
Elizabeth
Jason,
There are HTML tags you can put on all your web pages so that they will not be indexed by search engines. Place the following just after the
After a period of time you will find that your site will no longer appear if searched. I have a site dealing with a certain garb I like to wear and did not want it be easily found on the internet. I used the above tag on each page and have found that after a month or two the links nolonger appeared when searched via the various search engines.
Keep your site - you enjoy it, as do the rest of us - and it is nothing to be ashamed about.
Karsten
Jason,
I will email it to you as it did not appear in the message I just posted.
Karsten
Hi Karsten,
The browser interprets tags within "greater" and "smaller" as "real tags" within your post and does not display the text for Jason, as you intended. Therefore, let me try this:
(meta name="robots" content="noindex,nofollow")
Now, Jason just needs to replace all opening round bracket with a "smaller" sign and all closing round bracket with a "greater" sign (see if the "smaller" sign is visible after the word "becomes" ;-)
( becomes <
and
) becomes >
Hope it's visible now.
Hans-Uwe
A space and a slash need to be inserted before the closing bracket, i.e. the "greater" sign:
(meta name="robots" content="noindex,nofollow" /)
As I said,
( becomes <
and
) becomes >
And, check http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robots.txt
Hans-Uwe
From a selfish standpoint, I think you should keep it, because it's the best site of its kind out there and I enjoy seeing the progress you make. But aside from that, I think the most attractive people are those who don't hide or apologize for who they are and what they do. Relationships come and go, but you're stuck with yourself your whole life. So please yourself first, and the right person will be drawn to the real you that comes out.
n/t
Hey, Jason, long time no reply. It's good to hear that you're back in the game, so to speak. Forget the site issue for a moment, and just remember that you've got a girl interested in you. People have told you it would never happen with the long hair; well, here's a big "WRONG!" siren to blare in their faces with extra reverb.
Now that they're deaf (though, in some ways, they probably were before), let's look at your site. I understand where you're coming from about wanting to delete it, believe me. I have an absolutely tenacious desire to find the right girl, and whenever such an opportunity seems to present itself, I look at my skateboarder shoes, my vampire posters, my eclectic music folder, my poetry, my LIFE, and wonder if it's time they went into the recycle bin. After all, I like me, but what if she doesn't like me? I wouldn't want my me-ness to cause the potential perfect girl of my daily dreams to vanish away like those very dreams.
The problems here, of course, are that you can't just put your life in a recycle bin and take it back out good as new, and that if your perfect girl is only in love with a much-stripped down you, then she's not really your perfect girl, and you're not her perfect guy. That said, the girl you described seems to like you; the site merely made her feel a bit weird about you. It didn't DERAIL your relationship, lol, unless you didn't use the right words in your description. Rather, it sounds to me like you guys will be fine with a bit of time and talking. In other words : no big deal. Hakuna matata.
Now, your website IS a thing that could turn off certain people. Some will see it as blatant narcissism and egomania; others will see it as an omen of OCD, prognostic of psychosis, indicative of insecurity, a sign of loneliness, etc. Then, there are others that will think its the cutiest-wutiest thing in the world. It's a highly subjective thing. Destroying the site for her will cause you nothing but pain and regret - unless you WANT to destroy the site. If you do it for her, it's sort of sweet-ish, but then, it makes you a spineless slave to someone that you might not want to talk to in the near future. It's rash.
Basically, if you really want to do it, then do it. No problems. But if a part of you really doesn't want to, then don't do it, and talk to her Ms. Potential Perfection about it. If she can see past your hair, the site isn't too much of an additional hurdle.
Best of luck, dude.
Peace
Ah dude, your linguistic skills are second to none, cheers!
"ome will see it as blatant narcissism and egomania; others will see it as an omen of OCD, prognostic of psychosis, indicative of insecurity, a sign of loneliness, etc."
LOL!!!!
In fact laughing a long time after reading. You're the best man, say it like it is but say truth as well.
I don't know. I guess I'm a little messed up but if I can bring happiness to others through my psychosis all the better.
I really, really like her so we'll see but thanks so much for your post.
Dude, you're the best:
Now, your website IS a thing that could turn off certain people. Some will see it as blatant narcissism and egomania; others will see it as an omen of OCD, prognostic of psychosis, indicative of insecurity, a sign of loneliness, etc. Then, there are others that will think its the cutiest-wutiest thing in the world. It's a highly subjective thing. Destroying the site for her will cause you nothing but pain and regret - unless you WANT to destroy the site. If you do it for her, it's sort of sweet-ish, but then, it makes you a spineless slave to someone that you might not want to talk to in the near future. It's rash.
"okay laughing my bum off here
It's just me dammit...yeah I'm weird but love me for it :)
don't know what to do about the chick; love her but love me too, ya know?
Yes, I also found many profound words in Fallen Angel's reply. Well done...
You may love her or not. You may also find someone else who will accept you more deeply, not just in superficial words. You may also try fo find other you to accept. Ooops, no ! you've done it recently...
I hope you are exiting this embarassment stronger. For me it looks like a simple, stupid misunderstanding. Nothing more. Maybe you are taking it too seriously? If it's not - don't worry neither.
It's bette to end up wrong relationship at earlier stage than to loose more effort to keep it up.
Hair embarassment may be just a signal of future problems that will emerge no matter if your site is in Internet or not.
Just try to improve your site - a misunderstanding may suggest that something may be done better.
Nice mountains !!! Now cringe to go here ;)
Best wishes to you and your g/f
Adalbert
Jason
I wouldnt do such a thing your site is fanastic would be a crying shame if you did destroy it please consider it before you actually do as there will be no turning back once you have destroyed it, I still visit your site from time to time to
Axel
You really need someone who will love you for who you are, rather than trying to change you or dislike you just because of one thing. If you give in to them they will never be satisified.
I'll start with two caveats--i have found your website useful for seeing examples of hair growth between substantial intervals such as a year or more, but I have not examined every single thing on every page so i'm not qualified to speak to all its content. The other thing is that i have not read all the responses because there are too many for the time i have so I may be repeating some things and i'm sorry about that. I don't know the girl of course but a lot of people are weird about various types of self expression in its varying forms if they lack a certain level of emotional or intellectual maturity. Stephen King once wrote that if you start writing and publishing any kind of writing other than harmless technical stuff the first thing that happens is you loose half your friends (or more). That's not exactly how he put it but it was something like that. so you have to be prepared for this kind of thing, or (depending on what you have up there, again, I don't know) you can try some editing instead of trashing the whole site. But first, think of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry is on a date and the girl he's with dumps him because she, "saw your act and I just don't like your material jerry, and I have to respect men I go out with." Try and see the comedy here. Jerry seemed to get on with his life.
On a wider subject, this highlights what I have seen as the downside of Google for several years--stinks doesn't it--I think they should have a sunset policy where they dump anything more than five years old. There have been a number of times over the years when i have been about to post something to a public forum that I know google crawls, and archives, and thought about my post coming back to haunt me 10 years later and hit the cancel button instead of sending it. there are lots of cases reported in the media of people with blogs they think are not widely seen but thanks to google, they wind up loosing their jobs because of things they wrote that they assumed would be obscure. google is to me, at best a mixed blessing.
Hi Jason,
I'd only change your e-mail address from eg "my_name@serviceprovider.com" to "my(underscore)name(at)serviceprovider.com" . That will make it impossible to search your site with your e-mail address, and it also decreases spam in the long run. And, I'd indeed add a "robots.txt" file (check the internet for what needs to go in there; there are sample files out there). Apart from that, we both agree that we should be as UNapologetical as possible about our preference for long hair - plus, we want to set examples for others, don't we? ;-)
In any case, I'd keep the site - with these very minor modifications.
And, if another girl asks you about the site, you might just say with a smile, "Glad you found my site. It tells you a bit about me, and what's best, it scares away all the other girls who really just want to go short again", and, after you both have started laughing, you could add, "You know, I have had that on some occasions".
And, I don't think anything is lost that wasn't meant to be yours to begin with. The next girl you meet will probably say "Your site fascinates me."
Happy hunting ;-)
Hans-Uwe
Hi Jason,
I think your site is a true inspiration to any guys growing their hair out and it would be a shame to destroy it. Maybe you could explain to her that yours is one of a number of sites where guys chronicle their hair growth for the inspiration of other guys growing their hair, and there is nothing "weird" or "odd" about it. If she truly likes your long hair, and long hair on guys in general (as you noted in another post below), she should have no problem with this. However, the decision has to be yours to make. All the best and keep growing it.
David
Always be true to yourself and who you are and you will meet someone who will be true to the real you. Thats the kind of relationship that will last. No point wasting time with people who want to change you, no matter how much you initially like them.
One more thing to add....
It's really a "coming out" issue.
"Coming out" is the process of exchanging people who didn't love you for the way you aren't, for people who love you for the way you are.
Bill
Absolutely not!
You have one of the best hair documentary sites around. If anything this is a huge inspiration for everyone else. I like how you've given a chronology of what your hair has looked like and how you wear it.
Hi Jason,
You've definitely been an inspiration to many on this board (myself included). At this point, I'll just second pretty much what everyone else has said and agree that it's completely up to you. However, that's a lot of work to just throw away and you'd be denying your gifts and talents that were involved in creating the site.
Again, it's your decision, but I personally think it'd be a shame to see it disappear.
Otherwise, take care and hope things are well with you. =)
-James
...so why not start out by letting a girl know of the site BEFORE you go on to
'other things'?
If you are 'embarrassed' by any aspect of your site, then something is seriously out of whack.
I mean,perhaps you may want to preface your showing a girl the site by saying that
part of its function is to encourage other guys who are who are experiencing problems
while on their own 'long hair journeys.'
By the way, there is nothing wrong with being a bit eccentric because it means that you will never become boring and it greatly diminishes your
chances of becoming JADED (one of my #1 fears).
The BEST thing that could ever happen to you is that you would find someone
who truly appreciates ALL of you.
Good Luck!
I've always thought of it as a relatively benign hobby.
I'll apologize up front if I am a bit redundant, but I have not had time to read all the other entries.
To me it's pretty simple. You have to be you. To have a relationship, someone has to accept you for you, and you have to do the same.
Whether it be your web site, a way you have of telling a joke or story, or a habit you have, being placed in a position where you are having to decide what to do about the things that define who you are are going to cause long term problems.
My recommendation: keep the site as is, and see if she accepts it. Maybe she just needs a little time to get to know you better.
And if she doesn't, maybe you just need a little time to find someone else who will.
Big George
You have put together a magnificent site! Some of those photos with the mountains are nothing short of breathtaking. You have an interest (among other things) of liking to have Long Hair for yourself. What's there to be ashamed of or to feel weird about? Most everyone has an interest in something. You are simply being yourself. The way the whole site has been put together is superb.
Now, as to this "girl." If she is (for what ever reason having problems with it, that's HER problem.) Besides, it seems a little odd (at least to myself) that she is snooping around at your email address. Can you imagine what she could be doing 6 months down the line? I am not one myself to enjoy having a "dectective" on my tail as a new aquaintence. No way.
Destroy your superb site to try and make her happy? Never! Why? Because you will be destroying part of true yourself.
Googling names and email addresses is pretty common...and it is one way to check up on someone who is basically a stranger you are thinking of going out with. For example, if you google "trolleypup" you get 160 some entries, of which three aren't me...and one on the front page leads you here. Anyone paying attention should be able to get a pretty good idea of who I am from that.
Given the volume of my stuff that is out there and accessible, someone who I met on a hiking email list (for example) could get an idea of whether I might be a good risk for a carpool or backpacking trip...so in my case I've made little effort to hide stuff. On the other hand, if I was in the dating game, I'm sure it would scare off all but the most intrepid.
Hey Trolleypup -
Thanks so much for what you just posted.
And THANKS ever so much for your posting far down the thread.
Justin
You're welcome. I just wanted to point out that it isn't *necessarily* nefarious. Googling people is something I picked up from people who spend a lot of time on the internet, and who are often young and more often than not female.
Obviously, I approach things differently, since my goals are different.[1]
Trolleypup
[1] And I am comfortable with being a cranky, selfish solo. :)
Being open about who you are creates a good filter - it gets rid of people who don't like the way you are and it brings comfort to those who do - and makes you more attractive to them. People feel a lot better about hooking up with someone who has an open and consistent identity - it's the Internet equivalent of having been "properly introduced".
For example, someone concerned about carpooling to a trailhead with you would soon find out you drive a public transit bus for a living, and would deduce from that that you'd be a damned good risk as the driver. [grin]
Bill
Jason,
You've got one of the most awesome long hair I've seen amongst guys over here, and you indeed have the talent to build a good website to chronicle your interest in long hair. That's an asset, not a liability.
It's just a matter of being comfortable with yourself, be in tune with what you are. You are a "longhair" and that's you. Just think, how long can you hide your innermost desire for long hair from this girl? You may suppress it for a while but, assuming you're planning for marriage eventually, can you suppress it for life? And if you're not planning for marriage with this girl, why sacrifice what's basic in you for a temporary relationship?
People have all sorts of thinking and biases, are you to succumb to all these subjective biases for the sake of their "hand"?
Be at ease with what you are and self-confidence will usually exude irresistable charm (no matter if you're a longhair or otherwise).
Be true to yourself :). Keep that hair flowing and that site running.
Jin
That site is a part of you. It would be like destroying part of
you.
I've never known anyone as open as you so it seems that if you
destroy your site you would be sort of betraying your self.
If she REALLY likes you your site shouldn't matter at all. Just
like your long (& awesome) hair shouldn't matter.
Your site was the first thing I saw after reading "On being a longhair" and was part of the inspiration for me to grow my hair out. I think destroying your site for any reason would be a travesty to yourself and many others.
If the girl doesn't accept that this thing is important to you someone else will.
~Rome
Hello
I have to say, if someone doesn't appreciate you for who you are, including benign interests like growing long hair, then in the long run they probably aren't the right person for you. Someone should like you just the way you are, especially when it is a harmless interest such as hair growth. Nonetheless--good luck!
Well it's important to you, so no you shouldn't destroy your site. However, if you want to separate your web site hobby from your love life, you should give out a different email address. Thanks to Google Cache and the Wayback Machine (archive.org), your web site and current email address will be available to internet stalkers pretty much forever.
Yes, I think that's the simplest solution and should be pretty foolproof.
Jason,
I've taken a look at your site and quite frankly I think you are being overly sensitive about this girl's reaction.
There's nothing in your site, besides archive pictures of you and your hair plus commentaries and documentation about about your liking and being proud of your long hair and long hair in general.
There are no revelations of innermost secrets about you on your site.
The very fact that you have long hair already tells your girl that you like long hair.
Keep your site and add to it.
Cheers
Charles