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i'm tryin to grow my hair back, to avoid the barbershop. There's a big part of me that want to have the shaggy styles seeming so popular, to mot be affected by the compulsion to 'take a seat' in the barbers chair. Conversely, there's a part of me that compulsively wants to walk into the barbershop, and say shorten it up, or some other such statement, completely contradicting my desire to have long hair. Has anyone else gone through this and come out of it, leaving the obsession behind, i'd appreciate any suggestions, i'd much rather spend time chattin about my hair rather than my lack of it. Sincerely
Gkev
gkev
Hey G.K , It has happened to most of us. As a matter of fact , It was happening to me recently. I have been growing for 11 months and am in what you would call, The Awkward Stage. I just hang in tight and chat around here. This community provides support and reassurance for me. I recommend you grow it out and hang around. I am certain this community will provide you with support , tips , reassurance and the whole nine yards!! Best of luck to you and happy growth :-)
~christopher~
Thanks Christopher, i'm happy to be away from the oother board, it bacame an obsession, i'm gonna hang here more,thankgk
Or, once you grow it out until you can have a ponytail you can
satisfy both needs by having an undercut.
It's a natural tendency to want to stay in your comfort zone. I have had short hair for over 30 years due mainly to my profession, which I changed a while back.
Growing it out is a long process. It will probably take 2 years to get to a point that you can achieve the long look and maintain the length you prefer, or grow additional length. During this time the urge to get it cut or trimmed will at times be overwhelming. If you really want longer hair, you must avoid these urges. People on here discuss the two week rule; if you make a decision to make a major change, wait two weeks; if you then still feel the same, go ahead.
The main difference you will find here is full support and a positive reflection. I read the other board you mentioned and have no desire to participate due to the attitude of some there. Hopefully, you will not find that here.
We welcome you as a member here and encourage you to "let it go and let it grow".
Big George
Im wonderin what kid ou upport i might find here, obviouldy i can't do i alone, mi mind taked over, i'v though about goin asay for awhilebut on the return it just happend all over, the gafrual shortenin. I want this life whehe you go to thobarber wvwny couple months if that,adn to have friende tell you what is up about your haor, hope you huys can help, i'm tired on the other board amd i'm tired on f short hair
cheers, gk
This is familiar to me. I don't know the answer but here is what I think just now. Try to get in touch with what really feels best to you - what makes you feel in touch the most complete as the person you want to be. What is more natural for you. That is not necessaily the same thing as what is the most tempting or exciting thing of the moment. Chill. Good luck. We all need support with this at times.
Hi GK,
we all have habits, and we must kick some of them to achieve our goals. Growing our hair out, many think of this as a journey - something new every few months.
Since you do want to try long hair, try to plan your walks through the city (or the malls) so as to avoid places with barbers - seriously, don't even get close.
Many men are "programmed" to take a barber's seat, and it's a compulsion for them. (Well, where there's a compulsion, there's a "twelve-step group" to overcome it ;-) you're certainly at the right place here)
You got a full head of hair, a great hair structure, so, I bet your hair will look phantastic as you let it grow. There will be some strange comments on the way which you will have to "throw out of your mind". Just think of your dream, of your goal, that will help you to get there.
I wish you all the best, and, I know, you will look better and better as it grows out. One more thing - don't worry about trims either! "Trims" are "relapses" to avoid.
I'm looking forward to see your updates!
Hans-Uwe
Happy growth!
Hans-Uwe
that was kind of what happened with me. for years, i automatically got a haircut every 10 weeks or so, not really wanting to, but thinking i'd have to get it cut sooner or later so may as well be now and get it over with. then, I'd be unhappy with the result but after about 6 weeks it would start to look okay, and really good about the time my next haircut appointment would roll around. then the cycle would repeat. Then, one day I experienced an epiphany--why not specify exactly how much I wanted off and where, instead of asking vaguely for a trim? My next haircut I did just that, asking for about 6 or 7 mm off and I watched to make sure she did what I wanted. She seemed happy with some instruction and I got a haircut I was much more happy with. _But_ the interval to the next hair cut was the same 10 weeks. This cycle repeated 3 times and of course my hair was getting longer and longer but I was really liking it. I had no goal in sight--I decided to just take it a day at a time and see what happened. It was an adventure. Along the way I began to get a taste of what it was like to be marginalized in society and that was actually a good experience. Anyway, after the 3rd 7 mm cut I said, "I'll come back maybe but I'm not sure when" and let it go. I'd have moments when I'd think, "Oh man, get it cut" but then I'd wait a few hours and come back and think "No, this is what I want." But by then, I was getting well into the awkward stage and one day (again) it suddenly dawned on me that advice for men growing long hair was exactly the type of thing someone would have a website for. I googled around and found this board. Reading throught it, it dawned on me that there was nothing to prevent me from growing my hair long enough for a ponytail and I immediately decided to do it. So, I sort of fell into this and I didn't start out intending to tell my story, but so be it.
I could be wrong, but I assume GK is referring to the Buzzboard (exact opposite of MLHH). (I saw a reference to it in the FAQ)
Anyway, to GK, welcome to our community, hope you stay with us, and hope you continue to grow it.
David
I just browsed that forum...and all I have to say is: YUCK!
Yes, I too had a "morbid curiosity" to see what was posted on that "other" board and I TOTALLY agree, YUCK!