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Ok I have had long hair two times now. Once for about 7 years and the started cutting it upwards till it was a Ceaser cut.
In the early mid 90's hot women liked it. Then it went cold. Finally I started cutting it till I got to the aforementioned ceaser cut.
After about a year of that I started growing it back. Now it is about 4-5 inches past my shoulder. I have no desire grow it any longer than that. In fact I am thinking about cutting it up a few inches.
While I have always gotten women at any length...I find that the hotter younger women of today are more into guys with short or medium length hair today (what they call long...lol)
I am on myspace and I get a lot of women telling me they like my hair the problem is those women are mostly over 35 and fat, there are a few hot over 30's and a few 18 years olds (I think the young ones because long hair is coming back in style slowly)Most of the hot women don't mention the hair, they just day "You're Hot!" (I have a six pack and I am a decent looking guy.)
My question is:
Do you find that most of the women that are into long hair are not really that hot? It seems having long hair (if your not a rock star and most of them don't even have it) it a handicap in dating and attracting hot young women. And the hottest women I know are all with short hair guys or shave head guys that have tats. It seems that hotter they are the uglyer and more masculine they want the guy to be and they don't like long hair.
And while I feel most confident with my long hair, I might be working against myself here.
I would like observations on your expereiences with women.
I dont know about you, but for me its more than just looks. If she's 35 and over and a little fat (as long as its not exceedingly fat) and she loves me for who I am, then I am not against it. The problem is alot of "hot" women tends to not be that way... theres always exception however.
Dear Friend,
There is a conceptual error in your thinking. You imagine that all woman on any given day think the same thing. Not so. Only if we had sound sociological research could we know what percentage of women liked long or short hair. But even if 95% off all women liked shor hair, and you enjoyed having long hair, it would not matter if the 95% rushed you. Would be more pleased if that one out of twenty, who was affluent, kind, generous, coopertive, sexy, understanding and wanted you to have long hair expressed their desire and affirmation of you. She is out there, but you will never find her if you shape your self image to conform to what you think most woman want.
Another way of saying this is that it is important that we be who we are, and not be gussing about what others might find attractive. If we be us, then those who find us attractive will be there.
Think of the horror of presenting yourself as you imagined others would respond to, only to be pursued by someone you find unattractive and disrespective of your preferences.
Let's be sure that there is enought variation in what people find sttracive that it would be foolish to be other than what we are.
Caledonian
Once again I did ask for psycho analysis, I ask for your expeiences of womens reactions to long hair. (see my other replies) I have no issue dating. I am confident in my self with long or short hair I prefer long (the long that I like)
Once again if you look back to the 80's the hottest girls were with long haired guys, that does not seem to be the case now as a general rule.
I am not talking about your level of confidence, or you apility to manifest anything you desire into your life which we all have. I am talking about a generality and what the average attractive young female is into right now. This is for research.
for example:
I know guys that have almost no game, but pull chicks just becuase they have tats. If they cover their tats, they can;t get women. That and the large rate that men ar going to get tats these days tells you women like them. I am looking to see when the current female perception is about long hair. I think it is 95% of the women like short haired guys.
Yes you can be the exception and I often am.
Okkkkkkkkkkk.......let's get some things straight here:
1)whether or not the hottest girls dig long hair or not is irrelevant...cause the fact of the matter is...any long-hair can make ANY chick fall for him, PROVIDED he does the right things.Namely, chicks have different "turn on" mechanisms than men do...so...the question you SHOULD be asking yourself is this: how do I make a woman feel ATTRACTION for me.The reason why you see short haired dudes with tats with hot women is because they are the ones that know what they're doin' and just HAPPEN to have short hair.so once again,I repeat,HAIR LENGTH DOESN"T MATTER...capice?
indeed, i endorce doubleyourdating.com to get you on the right track and out of wuss mode OP
I have almost everythign he has ever put out and I am way beyond David D. You are all missing the point here, this is research in to what women like in appearance. And I am not in wuss mode. I can pull girls with hair at any length and have I still do. But I do have long hair and I also do dating consulting I do not want guys to make a guru out of me and start growing long hair thinking they will get women, like the ones that shaved their heads and emulated "Style" (Neil), We all have out own look mine is long hair. Some women will not go for that no matter what you game is, some women have imprint of what they want physically, which is something David D. Ignores completely.
Some girls ONLY like one kind of guy during certian periods of their life or all of their life. This is very true of women that really like long haired guys, and will almost never date a guy with short hair we all know them.
All of you have missed my point.
My Basic question is once again which I should have made more clear is:
What age and dempographic and level of attractiveness in general are the women that like guys with long hair based on your personal experience.
In the 80' it was the hottest women around (physically, I do not think thatis the case anymore.) I think it might be again in a few year from now as long hair and the rocker look is coming back.
If you doubt me good look at the myspace groups and look at the women that are in the long hair groups and then look at the women in the tattoo and other groups or the short hair guy or mohawk forums.
All I am trying to do is to get a idea of current general female taste. I have no problem dating...If you saw my page you would see that.
But I would like to thank you all for your input and help never the less.
Vegas,
I understand your question, but without putting too fine a point on it, the question as you have asked it and propose answering it is not going to work. It is what is called in social research "anecdotal." There is no way to separate out the variable of long hair from the vertiable of crude personality, halitosis, and dollars in the bank. This is why you are not really doing research, for it is necessary to have a large N, i.e. a large group of subjects who are asked the same question in the same way, with the same stimulus picture or model. Perhaps if you moved to Reno you would find more women who are attractive to you, who you are attracted too.
Caledonian
Social Research methodology 101
Finally someone who has studdied as I have...lol Which is why I still get girls. But there are still many women that have aversion to men with long hair. I am just wondering what other guys experience are with hair length and women. But Kudos, you know what you are talking about.
But the guy with shory hair and tats, basiclly are pricks, they will tell you out right I am a prick, and women at least out here love tats. Many wont even date men without tats, and people are calling me superficial...lol There is nothing more superficial than today's young women.
I won't call a woman that want's tats "superficial".I'll explain to you why without getting too technical with you...see..there's this thing in psychology called "classical conditioning". A chick which has been with enough pricks that have tats will learn to associate tats with "bad-ass" behavior.that's basically what classical conditioning is.the moral of the story is,we should be careful about who we call "superficial",cause people,by the same logic, can call us long-hairs "superficial".(BY the way,I don't have tats so you're not getting a Biased response here)
anyway,enough with the psychobabble (as you said)...and to answer your question....YES..the hotter younger women aren't generally into long hair...I've noticed less stares from that demographic...and it's harder for me now to get those types of women (not at the same level I used to)...However..I've always gotten flirted at even with the length I have now.I've even had a woman tell me that she is not into long hair,told me she prefered short hair on me,but told me I was hot (go figure).well...I wish you good luck in your research.
One good way to attract a woman is potentially not talking about them like sexual objects? I think that's a good place to start...
Agreed, well said.
JeffL
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I haven't had a woman yet tell me they didn't like my hair. Mine is mid back and I have had a few come up and touch it. The person who trims my hair only takes off the bare amount and she says it looks very good. These have been women of all ages and I have not had any bad reactions, I would say most have been positive! I would keep it and keep it healthy!
I'm a woman, am I hot?? or old and ugly?? hmmmm (what exactly does that mean btw??)
I like long hair on men, they are the first and last guys i notice in the street, pub, anywhere.. however, if they open their gobs and say something really stuipid then no matter how 'hot' they are or how long their tresses are, I will walk away - very fast..
attractiveness is also coming from what you say and how you say it, personally a guy with a brain, even a techie geek type, is 'hot' to me, the personality is what makes a bloke attractive imo
If a woman goes out of her way to fall into feminine stereotypes, then the chances are she will be looking for guys who are just as much of a stereotype. So, if your idea of "hot" is as big a stereotype, then you could have a problem. OTOH, there are plenty of hot women who aren't like that.
In meeting and dating women, I would suggest keeping your hair longer than average, but not extremely long. Lots of ladies have nothing against long hair per se, but might think that a man with really long hair might be 'strange' and be prejudiced against meeting with such men.
Once in love, start growing your hair out to the desired length and, probably, she will now know that very nice men can have long hair, too and learn to like it. If not, then both of you will have to make a decision about which is more important, love or hair!
Yep. That's what I did. I've been married to the same wonderful woman for 25 years. I've decided to let my hair grow now. She tells me she likes it and that it'll keep my ears warm this winter. When winter's over though, I'll still be growing my hair long. You're right. It seems pretty safe to start growing your hair after you are in that relationship. It doesn't grow that fast, so it shouldn't be that much of a shock to your significant other when it gets long. Good luck with your hair endeavors and Happy Holidays. Mike
Hi Vegas,
I'd say, be yourself, and the right woman will find you. Whatever you want to get, you'll have an easier time if you feel comfortable about yourself. Since you are probably a long-hair at heart, you MUST be at peace with yourself, i.e. wear your hair long in order to build a good partnership.
And, you are the best person to say what you want about women: Sexual relationship? Personality? Personal friendship - being fond of each other?
Please don't take this as an attack on your personality, but if it is a "hole to sow some more wild oats" you are after, then a fetish ob ject might serve you better - it's easier to control.
If, however, a close relationship is what you want, at least as a part of a package deal (and personal friendship and fondness of each other often turns out INCREDIBLY erotic and sexy), just be patient, do some dating, grow your hair, keep your eyes open, and you'll find the woman who loves you including your (by then again) waist-long hair.
Be yourself and grow long hair so that you attract the right woman!
Wishing you lots of luck, good hair growth, and happiness and love,
Hans-Uwe
Thanks... I agree with you. I know we all have the power to attract what we want. But I am doing research on the subject, and it does seem that most women prefer short hair and I would not advise someone to grow their hair long unless they really wanted to becuase I think it does sometimes work against you in dating.
Well, if you are doing a research project, why not just include some items that will gather info about what kind of women will date long-haired guys? It would be great to know.
That's just a thought, since I'm not after dating for the sake of dating, rather I'd want to identify the woman who wants me the way I am. And, I'm sure, some specific info to this effect would greatly enhance the paper or thesis that'll come from this project...
In any case, good luck with your research!
Hans-Uwe
P.S.
I'm sure that's true, but at other times it definitely works in favor of you in dating. Therefore, any man who feels better with long hair should grow it out. And, sometimes I have to try things before I know that I want them.
Maybe it's just me, but the only complaints I've ever gotten are from guys. I've looked much better with long hair than I ever have before, and the girls seem to take notice. Now, I've never had a girlfriend before (This would be more of a problem if I was older, but I'm only 17.), but I have been getting more looks from the ladies. Besides, it makes you unique. I think those buzzcut dudes all look so similar, so conformist, so...not like me or my values.
"dudes all look so similar, so conformist"
they do and its boring
Just be YOURSELF. After all, you have to live with yourself, women or no women. If you are happy with yourself, you will be comfortable and women will see that and be attracted to you.
JUST BE YOURSELF AND BE TRUE TO YOURSELF. MikeM.
Are men coming to you so that they can get multipe women sexually, or so that they can find and have a satisfying relationship/commitment?
Or are there shades of grey in what you do?
Just curious (and not for personal reasons either :-)