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Hi everyone,
I wanted to thank everyone again for the huge support in my 33 month update below. However, I did get one reply from a womann who agreed with my co-worker that I gave a more positive impression with short hair. Personally, I love long hair, and really have no intention to cut it, I would still love waist length hair someday. However, this comment has given me room for thought, maybe I'm not suited for long hair (facial type, age, etc?) Possibly, I'm being too sensitive, and should not really pay too much attention to one negative comment amongst a huge number of positive ones, but I'm open to honest feedback.
Thanks,
David
Hello !
I don't think you should cut it. But it is only my opinion!
You have to choose to cut your hair only if it is your real choice, the choice you're able to do. Just don't let the other opinions decide for you. I remember me cutting my hair the last 5 years juste because of the others who said that i look better with short hair.
You can do what you want but don't forget that it is your hair and you're the only one to be able to decide.
Peace, Fellow
Hello David
you have really great hair , like said Fellow that's your hair so you do what you want with but being honest i think you look really great with your hair and you should keep it growing !
Bye ,
Angel
David,
Honestly...heck no. You should not cut your hair unless YOU want too. You said you do not want to cut your hair, therefore you have your answer. Don't worry so much about what other folks think. Do with your hair what you choose.
Vince.
Our long-hair journey is about how we feel inside, not how we look outside to others.
If you like it, Keep it !!
Walter
I think you answered your own question in your subject line. If you don't want to then by all means DON'T! You would certainly regret it. And if you want MY honest opinion, you look way better with long hair than with short. But you know as well as anyone that there will always be people who disagree. And what is this 'you give a more positive impression' crap lol, sounds like total baloney to me, like it was just a comment they threw in there to make their short hair preference SOUND more valid. Neways, sorry for the rant, but just don't cut. And btw, good luck with the beard; my honest opinion there is to go with a full beard, I think that would suit your face best.
regards,
-Bums
No way...........don't cut!
(Ps: perhaps you can ask this woman to change HER hairstyle as you think she would look better in another.) Ha Ha Ha........I can just see the look on her face. :-)
I wouldn't give it another thought.
You have answered your question already =)
You say you don't want to cut your hair, then don't! Believe me, I'm studying fashion and I am suposed to think that people should use and wear what looks good on them, but I totally disagree with that...
I believe people hae to wear what they LIKE and what they feel good with... So David, grow your hair waist lenght, because that is what you want to do. Don't listen to what other people say, I mean, when posting an update you are definitly on a travk to growing your hair long, so I suggest that you only read the positive comments. If you hit a bad one that suggests you to cut your precious long locks, simply ignore it! You're here with a purpose to have your hair long... keep that in mind!
And for the record, I do think that long hair suits you best =) Even tough I don't like short hair anyways (let me say I hate short hair, hate hate HAAAATEEE! (lol)... I still think you look much much better with hair long. And do believe me, having long hair with your age means that your long hair is even more precious than if you were younger...
I wish you the best luck on your journey.... I know you can make it, and you WILL make it =) Do your own thing and you'll stay happy =)
See ya!
Thanks Joao, those words coming from you mean a whole lot, I have always admired your fashion sense and artistry. Your updates are always something I look forward to. As I already said above, I have decided most definitely not to cut it and appreciate that not everyone likes long hair on men.
All the best,
David
Don't cut it. You would end up regretting it for sure. As long as you desire long hair, you should keep it. As for the comment from someone about short hair giving you a more "positive impression"...well that's very relative. In my opinion, long hair gives off a more gentle, peaceful vibe which is definitely positive in my book. I guess it's all in the eye of the beholder. You can't please everyone.. if you cut it short many would say you should have kept it long, and if you keep it long you will always have people telling you to go short. All you can do is please yourself. That's what is really important.
Peace,
Noble
David,
I'm in the same boat as you, and I do think time to time of what I should do. When I look into a mirror, I generally like what I see, but when I'm out in public, I feel awkward. I haven't got any negitive comments, but my wife and family suggest on occasion that I would look better with short hair.
It is hard to be the different one, the one longhair swimming in the sea of shorthairs. But I sum up my feelings this way: I don't give a (hoot)!! Long hair makes me feel good and I don't look so bad as to have people turn away in disgust. Personally I think all men would do better with longer hair. But thats just me, not the other fishes!
Take care,
Bruce
hmm..well David,I know for a fact that not every woman likes my hair either.In fact,very few do.I've told you about the story of me getting a straightener after some female told me I look better with straight hair,right?well...the next day I REGRETTED buying it.the same with you...if you cut your hair now..you'll regret it,that's for sure.we can't please everyone,no matter how we look..so continue on with your journey,with confidence that you and many others here like your hair!! :)
David:
I agree with Bruce (Scooper). Most if not all of us have doubts from time to time, especially those of us who are a bit older and associate with those who sometimes are more set in their ways.
Look at it from the flip side. If your hair was short, you liked it that way, and all but one or two people agreed, would you even consider growing it out due to the opinions of those one or two who held a different opinion? Of course not. The only difference here is that you are going from the "norm" to the "different" instead of the other way around.
I also have moments of doubt. The Church we attend is conservative in nature with a membership of about 1200. I am already the one with the longest hair at the service I attend; only one or two others have hair long enough to "tail". Same thing being in business dealing with bankers and business people; most are conservative in nature. Just the fact of being different (i.e. standing out) gives one pause at times. The feeling is not uncommon.
You need to do what you want. Get more than one person in a room and there will always be a differing opinion on something. Doesn't make it right or wrong; just makes it different.
George
David, I thought you had a stronger resolve than that. If you want waist length hair then you won't get it by trying to please everyone else. You are being too sensitive.
Let me share something with you. I was married for 11 years. My wife always insisted that I keep my hair very short, dress a certain way, etc, etc. After 11 years of marriage I was involved in a serious traffic accident and I settled with the insurance company for a considerable amount of money. I bought my wife a brand new Z-28 camaro with part of the money and guess what she did? SHE MOVED TO CALIFORNIA! I spent 11 years trying to do what she wanted me to do and it never even mattered at all. That was 11 years that ain't comin back. I hope you get the point that I'm trying to make. If you want someone else to live your life for you then they certainly will. Life is very short. Start living it.
Are really asking for honest opinions? Or are you actually seeking support?
That happened to me once on this board from a girl name "Carla".
This of course when I had long hair (longer than yours). She was the only one who thought it didn't "suit" my face, simply by looking at two pictures.
And I thought, WHO CARES WHAT YOU THINK LADY!!!
The point: Who cares about someone's internet evalution? What do YOU think about it? It's okay to think your hair is becoming to long and want it cut or trimmed and it's okay to grow it to the floor. It's whatever you want, it's your hair on your body.
David,
Ulitmatly it's your decision, but I think you look better with long hair.
So much of who we are is a product of the society we live in, tying your conflict into other posts about job interviews and TV anchors. All day we are told verbally and non-verbally (mostly the later) who we should be, what we should think, how we should dress/look/act and so on. Every comment from another person is in some way tainted with this influence.
Going against the grain is hard. We have to look within, have to find the real reasons for our actions and desires. And when we going against the grain we challenge the preconceived notions of others. Being your true self often shows others how much they just follow along like sheep, content to be blindly led. This is unnerving for them, and (in my opinion) those who say you should cut your hair are really just trying to get you back in line with social norms so they can live a little more peacefully.
Be yourself, David, whether that's a shorthair or longhair. Anything else is living a lie.
Mouse
Hey David! I think that you look good with both short or long hair, but the important thing is that it has to be your own choice, if you cut it now you would probably regret it someday.
But you just have to do what's right for yourself, don't do it for someone else.
Simon
One opinion from one woman is just not enough feedback to go by.
Of course it is true that "facial type, age, etc." should all be taken
into consideration when making a choice.
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I for one, do NOT go around in public with my hair down as it would attract
much too much attention--and that is not the kind of attention I am looking for.
Many older women (not all, but probably most) look better with a short hair style.
And the older a woman gets, the worse she looks with long hair that just hangs straight down.
The same woman--without cutting her hair--will look fabulous with her hair up in a bun, or with a French twist, or a bun, etc. The reason for this is that long hair--depending on the facial
features, of course, tends to drag down the face. Some older men can get
away with it, but probably most cannot. So perhaps ponytails are the answer. Why not consider just wearing a ponytail most of the time. You can then have your long hair without any of the so-called 'negative effects.
Until a man reaches shoulder length, no really difficult decisions need to be made...but once the hair starts getting really long, the reality of having it that long may or may not
be complimentary to his looks. That is, the 'vision' he had of the way
he would look like with long hair may not match up with what he sees in the mirror--or, with what others see.
Now men with beards can get away with wearing their hair down much better than
clean shaven men, who probably look better with their hair in a ponytail--at least in public.
Long hair with headbands is nice...but it is way too dramatic if you are in an 'office setting,' or in a position to deal with the public.
Anyway, that's all just food for thought. Maybe you can have your cake and eat it too!
Good Luck
maybe I'm not suited for long hair(facial type, age, etc?)"
Now THAT'S an interesting thought! Did you read that somewhere, or have bearded men you know told you that is their experience?
But is that so if you have long hair AND a long beard? [grin] I actually to my own eye appear more dressy and less unruly wearing a bandanna than not.
Bill
No, I didn't read it, and no, bearded men have not told me of their experiences...
it's just my personal observation.
On the other hand, I must admit I've seen some pretty 'wild' examples
that would definitely contradict my statement.
http://www.brown.edu/Students/INDY/alpha/oldstuff/issues/102402/features/4.html
Interesting fact about mirrors. Now I'm going to be thinking about then when I look in the mirror or back at photos of myself. Thanks for sharing.
Mouse
Thanks for the info. I didn't know the details, but you are exactly right. I do like the way that I look in the mirror, but I take very few photos of myself that I like. I just never knew why. That is very interesting and I will be sure to read more about it. Thanks again.
Hi David,
as I implied above, the unrequested advice of such co-workers is not worth much. You are on the right track growing your hair as long as you see fit. Whom do you really need to impress - that coworker? Is he interested more in your looks than in your contribution?
I've left another comment on one of your threads below as requested.
All the best!
Hans-Uwe
Thanks Hans-Uwe, actually the co-worker in question was not a man but was the woman on the right hand side in my short hair group picture. I read your comments to my request for feedback in the post below and replied to some of the suggestions you made, I appreciate the frank remarks.
All the best,
David
Just wanted to say I appreciate the support, I really knew I should not have listed to the comments from one negative poster, and the hair REMAINS, my resolve to grow it is now stronger than ever. I think I learned something from this, and thanks again.
David
David:
I sort of went through some doubting due to the remarks of an acquaintance. She not only suggested that I cut it shorter, but added "above the ears" and even recommended a nearby barber shop. Later, after thinking about what she said, I could appreciate her honesty. But I was sort of shaken by her comments right off, and I began some questioning of my look. (I still see her occasionally, but since then I've kept my hair pulled back more often, and she hasn't commented again.)
My hair is a couple of inches past shoulder length. With the above exception, just about everyone I know has been supportive of my longer hair. Just last week I ran into a former co-worker who had known me over fifteen years ago, when I had a very short cut. She commented "It's LONG! I like that!!" when she looked at the length (I let it out of a ponytail holder so she could see).
Responses can really vary, but I think you'll find like I have that a LOT more positive remarks will come your way.
I saw your picture with shorter hair and you definately look better with it long. The thing is, no matter how you look, short, long, spikes, whatever... there will ALWAYS be people who likes it and dislikes it. And when you think about it that way, all that matters is what you want, since people will like and dislike it no matter what you do.