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Hi all you guys with long hair. I think it's great you have your own chat!
My son has never had his hair cut. He is 5 years old and scissors have never been near his head. He loves his hair. He won't let anyone cut it and I fully support him.
He has thick curly blonde hair, right down to his butt. It is amazing.
Unfortunately, a lot of people mistake him for a girl and when I tell them otherwise I get mixed reactions. Most think it's gorgeous but some, like police etc tell me to cut his hair.
He does have a little pixie face, so that doesn't help with the girl thing.
Now he is starting to get a more masculine look with his jaw and he speaks up for himself. If people think he's a girl he says ' I'm not a girl! I have a penis!' Quite right too.
My husband used to have such long hair he could sit on it. Alas he is now bald!
My husband always tells my son to make the most of his hair now. 'By the time you're 40 it will be gone' he says.
What do you all do about split ends? He doesn't have them noe, but I noticed his ends are getting really dry and crispy. He does have dry hair anyway, like me and I have never been able to grow my hair more than just beyond shoulder length due to it's fragile nature.
Best wishes everyone.
Dear Mom,
First of all I want to make the compliments to your son: his hair seems to be stupendous indeed. And he is only 5 years old!
I hope that he keeps on growing it and that you will help him to take care of it.
Besides you don't have to give a lot of importance to the negative criticisms of the people: the main point is that your son feels better with long hair!
For the split ends, I recommend you to cut 1 cm every 6 months: and if your son doesn't want that you cuts, tell him that in this way his hair will grow even more strong and beautiful.
Wishes!
Ps: Excuse me for my bad English: I'm Italian.
What about a photo of your son?
Well, I think it's great that your son can get to enjoy his hair now given the problematical genetic future he likely faces.
As long as he gets support from his parents, the possible negativity he'll face in the world can be explained to him as thoughtless remarks from ignorant people. Have you asked him how long he'd like his hair to be?
I am so glad your son is growing his hair out and kudos to you for supporting him.
I am particularly impressed that he is standing up for himself at the early age of 5 years old. He is already developing a tremendous sense of character that will cause him to be a truly strong person as he gets older. In fact, growing long hair is truly a journey that can cause one to grow stronger on the inside, as all of us longhairs have to face negative comments and learn how to deal with them.
I would not resign yourself to the fact that he will be bald at 40. Don't forget to check the relatives on the mother's side of the family as well as his father, just because his father is bald does not mean that he will be. The "bad" genes that cause MPB (male pattern baldness) reside on the chromosome from the mother's side, so if his maternal grandfather has good hair, there is a very good chance he will keep his. There is a lesser effect from his father's side.
As for dry ends, I am not sure how often he washes his hair with shampoo. As hair gets longer, it requires less frequent washings, don't forget to condition after every wash. Also, on the days he doesn't use shampoo, he can use "conditioner only" washes to keep the hair clean but not dried out. He can also use a small amount of oil, such as Jajoba oil, on the ends to keep them moisturized.
All the best to all of you,
David
Hair does not need to be washed any less frequently when long.
It needs to be washed when required, i wash my hair everyday to keep it clean.
Shampoo is meant to get rid of dirt, it has special molecules to trap dirt and remove it, conditioner does not, so conditioner will not clean the hair as well as shampoo.
Using a hair serum will even out hair porosity and keep it in better condition for longer.
Actually what I meant was that daily washing is not necessary for really long hair, the frequency can be cut back to every second or even third day. Just ask Absalom, he has knee length hair and only washes roughly once per week, yet his hair is perfectly clean. It is true that short hair requires more frequent washing as the oil from the scalp quickly causes short hair to get oily. However, as hair gets really long, it requires more scalp oil to distribute itself among the longer strands, particularly to the ends, it takes much longer for really long hair to get oily. Shampooing too frequently only removes this beneficial scalp oil, hence the ends of long hair get dry if shampooing is done too frequently.
David
Sure sounds as if your son is going to be his own person in life and not allow society to run his life. He is lucky to have you as parents.
Make sure you have very sharp sissors and cut just above the split.
WOW!! I would have killed to have parents like that when I was a kid... Unfortunately, my dad being an ex-military guy, me and my brothers were not permitted to ever grow our hair long (not even allowed to touch the ears or cover our eyebrows)!
Thanks so much for your understanding & support for long hair. I bet your son really appreciates it!
- Ken in San Francisco
Wow, that is amazing, i'm so happy for your son! He's lucky for having such parents. I've been mistaken for a girl myself (the person hadn't really seen my face though..so i guess that doesn't count!!!) still..it doesn't really matter..as long as he's happy with his hair..that's the most important..happiness first..what other people think comes last..or doesn't come at all.
Hi Mom,
Do you by any chance live in or near Covington, GA? If so, I've seen your son, and his hair is indeed quite impressive.
Well, I hate to be the Doubter but I am wondering about the truthfullness of this post...we've had these "kinds" of posts before (concerning young males) and they eventually were shown to be false...I have questions about parts of the post but will not list them here. I could be wrong!
You are not alone; I had the same thought when I saw the post as well. Something in the language, but it may be because it's British English, who knows.
But nobody in Britain would ever call themselves 'Mom'. It's 'Mum' or occasionally 'Mam' here. I remain suspicious.
You mean "Neglish English" - lol
You mean "English English" - lol
I can understand some who think this is a scam, but let's consider the possbility that mom is sincere and real. Then she should simply confront the police and tell them that is their responsiblity to provide protection for her, her husband and her son. She should then ask why they have counseled her to have her son's hair cut. This is not their right nor their responsibilty to enforce social conformity. She should go to the Chief of Police and ask if this is his department's policy. Then she should go to the mayor of their town and ask if this is his policy. I think she would find that they are all backing away from the positions they have taken, if in fact they have taken it. If this prooves to be the case, then she should contact the her states affiliate of the ACLU, to be found in the telephone directory of her state's capitol.
Caledonian
Where does any police person have the right to tell anyone to
get a haircut?
Let alone anyone else.