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I wrote those mesages a year ago but forgot to post them, so now it's update time. My hair is now down to my mid back and conceling it is no problem, I just stick it under my shirt but is sometimes it slips out and the kids at my school still make fun of me and the only good thing about this is the girls love to run their fingers through it when I have it out(not often) so should I leave it out and endure the tourture or cut it back to my shoulders where I could put a hat on because my hair is REALLY thick so right now it doesn't fit. I don't want to get rid if it because I like how it keeps my head warm in the winter. My teacher still makes fun of me and makes me wear a hair net wich I never wear but I don't want to wear a pony tail so what shuold I do??
You think that if you just keep on wearing your hair however you like,
you will desentisize people in your school to your hair, and thus,
people to not bother you about it eventually?
First, I want to say that I commend you for keeping the hair, and wanting to. I also think it's great to know you're willing to stick to it and not let the peer pressure to cut your hair get to you. Sad, but true, you're going to get teased. You're going to be ridiculed, especially by people who are obviously more jealous of your hair's length than how funny THEY think YOU look WITH long hair. What you need to decide is how comfortable you're going to feel if you let your hair hang out (or ponytail it). Only YOU can make THAT choice.
If it helps, I'll share the following experience I've had:
Back when I was in high school, I had this supposedly crazy notion to start growing my hair out. I was just simply sick to death with short hair (and I had close to a crew-cut, with the sides feathered back). Mind you, this began as more an experiment tha anything else. I was very curious to know how I'd look with long hair. As the months progressed, and I'd get the 6-week trim, my hair got longer and longer, and I was really taking a liking to the results. My hair wasn't quite down to my eyes yet, but it was getting there. Then, "Terminator 2" came out, and I immediately knew what I wanted for a style. Edward Furlong, the actor who played John Connor in that movie, had what I thought at the time was the coolest style for mid-length hair. Eventually, it reached the desired length, and I discovered one very important fact that I hadn't stopped to think about: No two heads of hair are alike, and my "John Connor" look was becoming an absolute bitch to style and KEEP it looking "John Connor"-ish.
This was about the same time I started noticing how much of a pest my hair was becoming It had reached "that length" where it does nothing but want to stay in your eyes and bug the hell out of you. This was also about the same time I had started getting remarks about its length, both good and bad. I didn't care. I looked like John Connor, and that's all that I cared about (grin). However, my hair eventually won, but not entirely. Rather than cutting it, I decided to cheat for a while. I started wetting it back and loading it with so much hair-spray that I could walk with a 55-mile-an-hour wind to my back and it STILL wouldn't move. I looked like Data from Star Trek the Next Generation, and my friends took it upon themselves to start calling me "Helmet Head" (grin) until I came to my senses and started wearing it down again. I wore what I penned the "Data" look for weeks, but I was determined NOT to cut it.
Then, a miracle happened, and my addiction with my hair length was growing by leaps and bounds. I decided to start wearing my hair down one day, and I was thrilled with the realization that my hair had finally grown past my.... (drum roll).... CHIN! Oh, glory be, I thought! No more "helmet head"! Free at last, free at last! Thank the gods all mighty I was free at last! Although I still received peculiar looks from strangers, I started getting a lot more compliments than insults, and very admiring looks from the women-folk.
Then, I got involved with a now-ex-girlfriend who introduced me to a professional stylist who worked out of her home. I had been pondering the idea of getting a perm, but wasn't sure if my hair was the right length for one. By this time, it had grown down to my shoulders. Gathering my guts, my nerve, and what I was hoping wasn't a "fatal" mistake, I forked over the $10 she charged for perms and had the perm done. That decision turned out to be the best decision I could've made for my hair, and boy I wish you could've seen the results! I got SO *MANY* compliments. I had these gorgious shoulder-length light brown locks in beautiful spiral curls, and they did a wonderful job of provinding a soft contrast against my high cheek bones I was in spiral-curl heaven! I didn't want them to grow out! (grin)
As time went on, and my hair kept getting longer and longer, my addiction grew more intense, and the compliments and admiring looks kept coming at me (there was, and still is, more or less, an equal balance of compliments to insults), my self-esteem kept growing, and I grew more in love, and comfortable, with the way I looked. To this day, I've vowed never to cut my hair unless I have absolutey no other choice, whatsoever. It's grown to just an inch or two above my waist now (more predominantly in the back, but it's all cut one length), a shadow of the perm I got eons ago is still there, and I couldn't be happier (well, maybe not. hehe).
I love the way it feels, I love the way it looks, and I love hearing men/women tell me how jealous they are of it (sheepish grin), and how much I'm commended for actually keeping it neat and clean.
Bottom line: You won't regret it iif you decide to wear your hair out of your shirt, and down more often. Trust me on this one. You'll be a happier man for it. :)
Important NOTE: Keep it neat, and keep it clean, and you'll get even more rave reviews.
Take care, and I wish you the best of luck! Long live long-haired men! There are too few of us!
Great post, Nyghtfall. I'll have to echo Nyghtfall's comments on the compliments. I find that the longer my hair gets, the more compliments I get for it (well, I'm probably nearing an asymptote now). Styling it cleverly, uniquely (not too uniquely), or just simply very well multiplies the compliments. And I love the feel on my back.
i have been growing it for over 4 years and i never get compliments mmmmmmmm maybe time for a change
if you are growing your hair in order to get compliments you are growing it for the wrong reason. wear your hair in a way that makes you happy.