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I feel like my powers of wooing girls will be low whilst growing my hair. I don't know why but i feel an urge to cut my hair and therefore make girls like me again. This is why i have done it before.
I want to stay strong and not worry about it, so maybe instead of being counter-productive and chopping it off; I can try and chat up some girls and see what happens?
Hmm, what do you do to help?
I wouldn't worry about the near future, It is the long term that is important. You will generally attract a much more quality of lady in the long run. In my experience ladies that like long hair are a lot more fun to be around.
Don't cut it!
If you keep growing your hair, even if it would seem harder to get a girl, when you get one, you can be sure you get a good catch, who agrees with what you want.
If you want to cut your hair just to get people to like you, I don't recommend it: your not you anymore then, if you have to lean down to every one's likings.
This is my advice, keep growing, there's much more to win than to loose if you don't cut it ;)
PS: You often see on the board people who regret having cut their hair for a girl, who then dumped them a few weeks later.
Yeah. I know that there are much nicer girls out there who will like me for having real hair. Not a government ideal.
Good opinions guys.
Speaking from personal experience, don't get your hair cut for anyone unless its what you want, my ex-gf didnt like my hair so...stupidly i got it cut thinking it would somehow change things, its just the fact we wern't that great together...
Personality will always win over looks in the long run...
Don't ever cut your hair for a girl or someone else. It's like a semi-permanent tattoo. If the relationship doesn't last you will remember it by looking at your "semi-permanent tattoo", which will be your short hair. I said semi-permanent because unlike tattoos, short hair only lasts a couple of year. Well it's a couple of years, if I would cut it now and want to reach my current length. Take care and I hope you know what you are doing before taking the plunge.
Girls are not attracted to looks the same way as us guys are. There are plenty of "ugly" or less good looking males that get TONES of girls just because of their personality. Confidence and charisma are the most important things when it comes to attract girls, and those two has nothing to do with your looks.
Also, consider the fact that no matter how you look, there will always be some people who likes it and some people who don´t. So you might aswell do what YOU want, since no matter what you do you can´t please everybody.
It´s actually quite hilarious. If Person A has long hair, but acts weak, submissive and boring, then people will tell him to cut his hair and that it looks bad. If Person B has the exact same appearance, with the exact same long hair, but acts confident charismatic and dominant (think Brad Pitt). Then people will think that his hair is awesome and girls will think it´s sexy. Isn´t the human mind fascinating?
All you need to do with your appearance is to look neat and clean and wear decent clothes.
Right on!
I personally feel it's all about personality and confidence where girls are concerned. I have the worst bad hair phase right now and am receding to boot - not a problem, i just wear a hat or just go out with severe bed-head as if i just don't care what my hair looks like. If you can make a good natured joke of your bad hair phase it's not an issue - lots of girls have to grow their hair out from very short sometimes too!
hehe, like Britney Spears!!!
Especially Britney! Not sure i'd cough up half a million dollars for her freshly cut hair (maybe for the seat of her exercise bike though)
My ability to attract girls has always been higher while I've had long hair! It could be the same with you. Give it a chance and see how it goes!
Please, be strong! I know many ladies who adore long hair on a guy. It always makes me look twice if I see a guy in the street with his hair halfway down his back. It's just so sexy!
There have been quite a few guys that have posted to this board throughout the years about wooing girls. Some have cut their hair in hopes that it would help.(It didn't.) Others have had girlfriends nagging at them about their hair, and so to please their sweetheart(?)have given-up the long hair that has taken them so long to acquire. Shortly after, they end up getting dumped by the "beloved one" as she goes on her merry little way to the next guy.
If one really loves you, you are accepted as you are.
It's been my contention that you can't attract the type girl who will like you with long hair and who likes longer hair if you don't have the longer hair. That sounds stupid in a way, and as you know, cutting is antithetical to getting longer hair. Girls, just as guys, come in all types, and it is quite inevitable that there are some out there who will go for you as you are. Do please "stay strong," that is, if you really do want longer hair.
After you have "chatted up" some girls, tell us what happened ;-)
I haven't had a girlfriend since I started growing my hair (2005), but it's not cause of the hair, its cause of me being busy with other things (guitar, music, my band, school, etc.) Im sure that if you go out and meet/talk to girls you'll find something. Good luck bro! And don't make the mistake of cutting it, because so many people who dropped by on this site cut their hair for girls but regretted it since it didn't help!
-Mihnea
please don't do such a think,for you will be left without a girl AND your hair..seriously..cutting your hair won't help one bit!!
long hair=confidence builder,and confidence is all you need with the girls (in fact,some girls would go weak in the knees upon seeing a longhair!!so...look for those types!) :)
A long haired friend of mine said once: "If a girl said she'd like me, but she wanted me to cut my hair; she wouldn't actually like who I am, because my long hair is part of me"
Hope it helps :-)
You can never please everyone, and trying to do so will only make you miserable. Besides, being confident in who you are will be very attractive to most women.
Mouse
It is hard, but if you are prepared to wait a little (during which time your hair will continue to grow longer!) you'll find a girl who likes your hair long. Although it seems that girls who like long hair on men are in a minority, those that do like it are usually absolutely passionate about it.
...if long hair ever makes you feel bad about yourself wait two
weeks and it the feeling persists...
...CHOP CHOP.
Not sure who original posted with this perspective a few months back, but i have incorporated it into my own model for assessing new relationships.
Growing your hair out and not cutting it for a girl is actually a very useful DEFENSIVE tool against girls who will evetually attempt to change you. If you start seeing someone and they try to get you to cut your hair, or arent interested becuase of your hair, then why would you want to pursue that girl?
Chances are, if she asks you to cut your hair now, its not likely to stop, and its also likely she is the type of girl who will try to change other aspects about you that she doesnt find to be perfectly suited to her.
Basically, growing out your hair is a good defensive tool to block off the kinds of girls who would evetually lead to stress/heartache/manipulation. If you do meet a girl and shes interested in you DESPITE the fast that you have "awkward stage hair", chances are she is not the type of girl who is going to try to change you (or at least your hair).
Its a barrier against the ones that will lead to bad things, and condusive to the girls that will actually care about you for YOU.
I think its a fantastic ideology.
Grats to whoeevr posted it the first time around (Justin I believe, but not sure, he has great views on relational/longhair issues).
~Rome
Well, a few years ago I got an email from a lady who liked my hair in a picture posted on Yahoo. Eventually she became my wife...
So there are girls out there who prefer long haired men.
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A Linux Longhair
A bloke once chatted me up. He was nice then he told me he had chopped his long hair off the week before. I asked why and he said what you said (to get a girl) I told him to buggeroff. This girl (me) would have had him the week before (or even then) if he had been strong enough to be himself and to be honest to himself. I was not happy to be lumped in as 'a girl, one of many who he didnt not really want to get to know but he just wanted one of them' kind of thing. We're all people. Start by being yourself then find someone who wants you for you and don't lump people together just because they have different anatomy than yourself. It's about personality.
Imagine how great you will look with long hair though, and although there may be less girls that are into long hair, the ones that do REALLY do!! Keep the faith.