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I have just been in touch with ChrisG, I noticed that he has not been posting lately, so I was very concerned. It turns out that he is not as well as he had hoped, I was rather distressed when I received his email today. It is my belief that if we all pull together and say a few best wishes and prayers from the bottom of our hearts, we can play a part in helping Chris to get better.
David
My thoughts go out to him and his family, hopefully he will be better soon!
I have a really close friend, she was sick a few months ago with the stomach flu, and is now undergoing surgery. I am really worried.
Best wishes to both of them!
I also hope he's going to get better soon, he seems to be such a likeable fellow, i'm keeping him in my prayers.
Simon
Thanks for the good wishes Simon, and I hope you are enjoying your new look, you look good either way, short or long haired you carry it well :)
Thank you so very much Mihnea, BTW how is your friend doing after the surgery? I hope all went well
No problem at all. As for my friend, I meant to say that she's having the surgery next week.
-Mihnea
Thanks David for bringing this to the attention of all of our members.
In an email with Chris a few weeks ago I learned that he was well on the mend and suddenly a slide backwards was happening.
Yes guys. Please keep Chris in your thoughts at this time. He has done so many wonderful things for this Hyperboard and is such a fine person.
And also JohnB who all here know to be very ill. I usually hear from him now and then and have noticed that his postings to the board have suddenly stopped coming in. Naturally, this is of the utmost concern especially knowing what John has been in battle with.
Justin
Thanks, Justin, for reminding me of JohnB. He will be in my prayers as well.
David
Best wishes, Chris. May you be back with us soon.
Mouse
Thanks so much Mouse, I do miss this place when I am away so long, we have quite a little family here, well not so little :)
I received an e-mail from him 3 days ago, and I knew he had gotten worse after seeming to get better. It didn's seem that bad, but now I've gone back and re-read it, and maybe I didn't take it seriously enough. If you can read this Chris, we're all pulling for you.
--Steve
Hey thanks man, I am not letting this thing interrupt our plans any, after all everyone says good times are the best defense against the blues. So I intend to stay connected now :)
Aww, feel better, Chris! Our thoughts and prayers are with you. =D
-James
Thanks so much James, I greatly appreciate your kindness and encouragement :)
Thanks for posting Dave, Chris you are in our thoughts.
Thanks for your kind words Dave, I am never going to say I am recovering here again as it seemed to be bad luck :)
Nah, I know me and I can't keep anything to myself!
Chris, John , I wish you both the best of everything. I hope you get better and overcome this illness.
Keeping you in my thoughts
--Christopher--
Thanks so much Chris for the kind encouragement, the support I get here is overwhelming and surprising in its warmth. It really does help a great deal. Thanks again :)
And best wishes to John as well, he has a much more difficult road than even I had, I hope for your continuing good health
My prayers will go out to him.
How are you feeling, Rome?
Mouse
My thoughts are with you Chris
Birdman
Thank you Birdman, I am soon hoping to take wing :)
Nice pic BTW, maybe you can post a larger version sometime
Thanks for asking :)
The post surgery complication persists, but the respiratory virus is gone, so its much much easier to function.
~Rome
I am glad that at least you are getting some relief, when things are bad sometimes a little lessening of the problem can be a miracle in itself. I hope for the best for you recovering Rome, and I am glad you can take comfort in prayer as well.
Thank you for your prayers too :)
Breathing tends to be condusive to functioning. ;-)
Get well soon,
Mouse
Thanks everyone for your support and encouragement, it really does make a difference. Many times I feel like just giving up because of this damn depression and all, not getting any better and I have been off of work for far too long it is that serious. Of course being off and not working does not help my mood any. I sure wish I knew for sure what would beat this thing. Anyway I will let you guys know how it goes.
Thanks again, I only wish I could pray too, alas I am an atheist :(
you will be in my thoughts as well Chris.I hope you win the war against this damn disease soon! :))
Thanks so much, I am still fighting to get back what is mine, including hanging out here an rambling in my usual way :)
Don't ever give up, not on yourself. Attitude can make a big difference too, not just medicines and therapies and doctors.
In that case, just best wishes to you from me with a capital B;
In any case, just so in case, as the case may be, I beseech Thee,
Thor, Jove, and all the rest, as You may be known to be,
Or universe unordered and chaotic, wild and free,
Protect your own molecules in that form they be,
Make them, take them, keep them in the order we see!
You have quite a way with words Matt! Sounds half like a greeting card and half a magic spell, just kidding!
Thank you Matt :)
I wish you get better soon... I wish I could say I'd pray but I seem to be somewhat lazy in this respect...
Your joking Tai Fu it doesnt take that much energy to pray for a friend in need !
Its just that alot of churches seems to want to ignore you by saying that they are gonna pray for you. I pray sometimes but not as often as I should, however I do appriciate it more when the people just listen and give advise rather than saying they are gonna pray for you then leaves you alone.
You dont need churches to pray you can pray in the comfort of your own home lol
I think that Tai Fu probably had the same experiences as I have with the phony hypocritcal church scene. I seldom pray either.
Thank you very much Tai, I wish there was something I could do for you when you end up feeling blue too.
Depression is the worst--it's like having your soul die on you--very painful.
When you are depressed you probably do not feel like being around people
as you can hardly stand being around yourself, but being in contact with
people is the one thing that really helps.
There are several members on this Board who suffer from various mental disorders
and/or addictions and I am one of them. This past winter has been especially
vicious on me: like falling down a pit while grasping at some tree
roots to break your fall.
Everything turns gray, you can hardly move, your desire to do ANYTHING just isn't there...
very scary indeed.
I am not a big fan of drug therapy as nothing works 100%. So if
somehow you can gather the strength to see a friend or spend
time with loved ones or people in general your brain will light up with good vibes.
Unfortunately, when we feel depressed we tend to act like wounded animals--and we ARE wounded--but the worst thing we can do is to be alone
as this just makes things worse.
It is a well known fact that opiates can trick the brain into feeling the
way we do when we are out with friends. That's why users can spend so
much time alone and still feel okay.
Spending time with people--especially those you really care about--produces
chemicals in your brain that drive away much of the depression.
Falling in love is even better: it can literally transform you overnight; makes
you feel good head to toe.
I'll bet you have a hard time just doing the bare essentials; depression
does that.
I heard a wise old nun say this: "With hope you cope; without hope you mope." How true.
If it's at all possible, try to talk things over with someone--anyone.
In the meantime you are not alone: we are thinking of you.
Falling in love for me is not an option... no one loves me. Its like they see me as a monster or something.
...give it time. There will be somebody out there who will appreciate you for who you are and just as you are.
Anyway, if you keep believing that no one loves you, then your
subconscious mind will fulfill that belief.
Think the OPPOSITE: "Somebody out there really appreciates me...it's just
that we haven't met yet."
Its like they see me as a monster or something.
Thanks for the words of support Luckskind, they are certainly true, every one. The worst thing I can do when feeling bad us to be alone. Unfortunately when I am worst I am here alone in the day when everybody is at work, and that just sucks big time.
I am trying some drugs for it, but as you said nothing really works that well. I am really sorry to hear that you are also suffering from this horrible disease. Too many of us seem to be in its grip.
I am thinking and hoping for the best for all of us who are suffering any kind of ailment now. THank you all for your support it means a lot to me :)
Hopefully will have better news soon
...and you are alone it just makes you feel that much more "out of the loop"
which in turn reinforces the depression.
Just remember: there are many guys 'out of work' for various reasons so
you are certainly NOT alone!
Hi Chris,
I've lurked on this board for a long time, but your message has prompted me to come forward. I was in exactly the same position that you are in...feeling bad, out of work, with few places to turn. Please consider doing the following: 1) Go to your nearest Job Service office and get to know those folks. If they have a "Job Club" where people meet weekly, please attend. It's a great source of support. 2) Take classes at local colleges and get to know the profs. They are a great source of job leads. 3) Spend time with friends...begin a job network of people looking for you. 4) Contract companies that you would like to work for whether they have advertised positions or not. Most positions aren't advertised. Let them know how interested you are in working for them.
Keep telling yourself that all these current problems are only temporary. Once you get that job, you will be amazed at how suddenly so much pain will disappear, and how much better you will feel as a person. I'm really pulling for you.
Eddy Snowdog
Hey Eddy,
Welcome to the board (if you havent posted before)
Thanks so much for the info, I hope I don't need it yet, currently I am employed by the federal government in the US and I have been on extended unpaid leave so if (when) I get better I will be able to keep my job. Problem is I have already been off for a few months while the doctors experiment with medicines. Unfortunately it takes a long time to see what the effects of the medicines are. If I don't get better and able to work right quick I will be forced to take your advice.
I hope I don't have to.
I have a great respect for you being able to pull yourself out of feeling so bad and getting a new job. That is more than I have done so far.
Is Snowdog as in By-Tor? :)
Hi again Chris,
I'm not sure about what you mean by "By-Tor." As for me, I'm just an old gray-haired (long hair of course) American Indian Harley driver from Minnesota.
One of the great things about this board, is the support you get from people of all faiths. Like you, I'm something "other than Christian," but that doesn't stop me from feeling the power from all the guys who are, who are genuinely sending their support your direction.
One more recommendation from an old Indian...get yourself a big calendar, a calendar with 2-inch squares for each day. Before you get to any particular day, make sure you schedule into that square the name of a friend or activity that you can look forward to and enjoy spending some time with. Keep focusing on making new, fun memories.
Eddy Snowdog
Yeah, Chris, I agree with Eddy. And with Luckskind that interpersonal contact is key. Get out every day. If you have no one to get out with, walk down to a coffeehouse, get a seat with a view of the crowd, and just enjoy being among people. Strike up conversations if that works out. Hang out for an hour or two. You'll feel a lot better for it.
Hang in there man. We're all pullin' for ya.
Bill
You guys are certainly right about keeping busy as a way to reduce depression. For a long time I have been stuck at home being sick, mostly because I figured if I didn't feel well enough to go work then I certainly had no business going out for fun. Usually I just ended up wasting the day. Well now I am down to the wire anyway with my job. I have already missed so much that I need to concentrate on getting back there. Mainly it is a matter of determining the correct amounts of medicines and such so I can work again.
Thanks again for the encouragement and advice guys :)
Hey again Eddy
Didn't mean to confuse you with the reference to By-Tor, sometimes people have user names from songs and such, and the reference I made was to a song done by a progressive rock band many many years ago called Rush, below is the link to the song if you are curious. It is much more interesting to meet someone who is Native American, I have met surprisingly few in my life but that is probably because I live in Maryland.
Thanks again for the encouragement and the positive energy, I do indeed get it from all the wonderful guys here :)
And you are so right about keeping busy, I had some fun activities already planned that I was thinking of cancelling because I wasn't sure I should be goofing off when I should be working on getting rid of this depression and getting back in the game. But as you said, doing fun things IS one way of getting rid of the depression. You are a very wise guide :)
My thoughts are in hoping that you will get better Chris, hang in there and fight.
Thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement Chris, I really appreciate it. This is a great place in that respect.
Hey, I don't know if I already said it or not but you have a really terrific avatar pic, looks really cool!
Thank You Chris :)
Well could we not, as atheists, simple affirm what we wish for ourselves? Meditation, chanting, even prayer -- though taken from traditions that believe in all varieties of supernaturalism -- can be a tool for focussing our minds and aligning consious and subconsious aspects of such. (Hey, if it works for Vulcans, it works for me!)
Cheer up, Chris. With a moustache as consistently awesome as yours, you've got a reason to smile!
Wishing you all the best (though is a purely metaphorical sense),
Shawn (Mr.Crow)
Thanks for your very kind words and encouragement.
It is difficult sometimes to put into words the kind of wishing an atheist does for someone else in need whereas a spiritual person would simply pray for them. It is kind of awkward, but indeed wishing someone well seems to work just fine for us doesn't it? :) What or who are we wishing of..oh well thats for another time. As for meditation and positive thinking and aligning the conscious and unconscious (I really like that term I must remember it :) ) I agree it is within the reach of us mere mortals. Now for the Vulcan in you, "Live long and prosper" \\//_
Hello Chris, so sorry that you are having troubles...alas I am an atheist as well but that won't stop me from sending good/healing thoughts your way...you know what I mean. You know sometimes being an atheist is good in these situations because it empowers us to perhaps do things more on our own to maybe improve our own situations rather than on waiting for some "guy in the sky" to decide or not to act in our favor. I sure hope you beat your depression, etc. Keep strong!
Max
Thanks for the positive vibes Max :) I take any form of positive energy right now, prayer, healing thoughts, Visa, MasterCard lol
You are certainly correct for us, Max. I am glad that those who pray can take comfort in it when thngs get rough, I certainly wouldn't begrudge them that. AND also my track record on being right ain't so hot either so I certainly could be quite wrong in this too! But being an atheist does encourage me to put in the effort to rescue myself with more earthly means, which includes the support of everyone like you.
Sincere thanks Max
Hang on in there mate. We need your long hair inspiration!
Thanks for the encouragement and the kind words. I get much more than hair inspiration here, this place has such a positive vibe that I get more motivated and feel better just hanging with you guys here. :)
Thank YOU for the inspiration
Dude, I´ve been through depression aswell and you just have to keep fighting it. One day you will get rid of it and come out stronger than ever.
If you need to talk, add me on msn or e-mail me on: brorebest@hotmail.com
Keep going mate!
Thanks so much for the encouragement Erik, it really means a lot to have such incredible support as we have for each other here. I am glad you managed to rid yourself of depression, that is a terrific accomplishment in itself. I have great respect for anyone who can do that.
I am not giving up, sometimes I slip and feel like it but it always passes.
I will add you to my msn as you can never have too many friends to talk to, even more so when feeling great, then I never shut up :)
Which reminds me of a great quote from the new Rocky movie:
"Life is not about how hard you can punch. It´s a about how many punches you can take and still get up and keep moving forward"
Something like that anyways, can´t remember the exact words. This really is a great quote which gives a lot of inspiration when you feel down.
Hi Chris,
It's David again, I just wanted to let you know that I am so happy you posted. Everyone here thinks the world of you and you are in our thoughts always. You can and will get over this, we are all pulling for you 100% of the way. Don't forget to write me at any time if you need a few words of support or just want to talk.
Take care,
David
Depression is the hardest illness to treat. My mother had depression as I was growing up, but there wasn't the treatments then that are available now.
I know it's hard to see beyond the fog, but there are bright sunny days ahead!
Take care,
Bruce
Chris,
Good to hear from you - I send you my thoughts and hope you are doing better now.
Hugs,
- Oren
Hello Chris. I don't post much anymore but maybe you'll remember me.
I too have clinical depression, which I know for a fact can SERIOUSLY make life miserable. I also have a similar problem with not having a job (in the small town I live in, finding one is just about impossible unless you want to work at a call center, and I CAN'T do that.
I'm not religious myself, but you're kept in my thoughts and I hope you get better.
Hey
David
Over the past year ive become very good friends with the person in question yup Chris G im always think about him like is he okay or not though the fact of him having a eating disorder I know from time to time that i never see him on MSN messenger very often its hit and miss weither i see him or not due to the fact i work different shifts at my works after a time of not seeing him online i end up e-mailing him to find out if he is ok and trusted me im not big on e-mailing at all but its sure worth it as he is one sound guy in my opinion !
Axel
Hey axel I know I am not on as often as I would like to be but thanks for thinking about me. It is good to have friends here! There is no reason not to be on here just sometimes I don't feel up to it, a bad side effect of feeling bad.
Thank you mate :)
Hey
Chris
There is no need to apologies I understand why your are not on very often so no worries Mate
Axel
Thanks for posting this, David.
"... It is my belief that if we all pull together and say a few best wishes and prayers from the bottom of our hearts, we can play a part in helping Chris to get better."
My thoughts exactly. If you believe in prayer, pray. If not, keep Chris in your thoughts, wish him the best, and send positive energy to him. Don't worry about running out of positive energy. There's plenty to go around.
This also goes out for John B., Rome, and anyone here who can use a little help. Doesn't hurt! :)
-Rick
Thank you all for the postivie energy, it seems to be working as today I feel somewhat better. Could be also cause I am following my difficult diet again, no carbs, phooey lol
Chris,
Hang in there man. I know you are going through a rough time. Never give up hope. There is always hope, even when there does not seem to be any hope.
Hang in there my friend, don't give up hope, you are in my prayers.
Mike
Thanks so much Mike, I really do appreciate having the friends here. Knowing you guys are waiting for my lively wit makes me more eager than ever to return ;)
Chris, drop me a line (send an e-mail) and maybe I could pay you a visit. I don't know what I can do to cheer you up, but I can certainly try.
I don't know exactly where you live, but I don't think it's too far, and as we've met a couple of times you hopefully know me enough not to worry about giving out your address to a homicidal maniac!
Thanks ever so much, I think it would be good to meetup again. Speaking of which I sent you an email yesterday about the meetup with Texas LongHair. He is coming to our area next week if you want to meetup then. Let him or I know if you want to meetup, SteveNoVa is coming too.
I may be in the D.C. area in late April, maybe we can meet up then too? I would like to meet you too Elektros. :-)
That would be cool if you can make it Mike and we can all meet :)