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Hello again...
I've got a question that I hope some of you guys can help me with. What can I do about "collar curl"? My hair is getting longer but at the same time, it is flipping up on the sides where it touches my collar. What do I do? Today, my wife made another comment: "how long are you going to let your hair grow?"...no comment..."I think you need to trim it up"...no comment..."you know, that's not your most attractive look"...no comment. Personally, I don't think trimming will help and my hair's not quite long enough to put over my collar. Any assistance or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated!
I don't want to cut it... Mike
My hair is flirting with collars as well. Unfortunately the only solution I've found is to avoid collared shirts (when I can). I'm assuming it will be less of a problem once it gets longer.
Not much help, I know, but knowing you're not alone is something.
Mouse
the shirt collar problem is a step of annoyance one has to get through one way or another as part of the process, journey...whatever you want to call it. As you say, it's this problematic length that's long enough to reach the collar (hoorray!) but not long enough to flip out over the collar and stay out. so your hair rubs against it, gets caught in it and pulls etc. I'm dealing with it by not wearing shirts with collars. I'm mostly sticking with t-shirts and sweaters. every few weeks i wear a shirt with a collar, regret it, and go back to tshirts and sweaters. Eventually, (but unfortunately, it may take a year or so) your hair will get long enough to flip out over the collar and stay there. I guess you could tie it up somehow; I have not done that because it's easier for me to simply wear tshirts.
As has already been pointed out, the collar curl should work itself out as your hair lengthens.
I haven't exactly followed your story too closely so pardon me if this has been asked or answered before but is your wife aware of your intent to grow? I ask because it sounds like you're in for considerable resistance from her. It might be a good idea to sit down and discuss rationally the extent of her disapproval with your decision and whether it's possible to mitigate it. If she's not going to be on board as your hair gets longer you may have to assess how valuable long hair is to you.
It would be easy to sit here and urge you to "stick to your guns" but being unaware of to workings of your marriage I can't bring myself to advise you to risk something I have no idea as to the value. The problem with making a significant change in appearance after establishing a relationship is the unknown effect it will have on the marriage's dynamic. Some women might consider it a deal breaker asserting that they had no intention of exchanging vows with a hippie. Others might enthusiastically roll with the ebbs and flows of a partner's changes- whether or not they are intentional.
I'd advise you to open wide the doors to dialog but without the expectation that you're going to be successful in changing her views. Much depends on her willingness to be flexible.
Good response