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Hi everyone,
I just thought I would say a few words that should be said.
Yesterday, Chamogirl from the Long Hair Community made an introductory post just to say hello. I met Chamogirl over at the Long Hair Community, another site much like our wonderful site here but with a much higher percentage of women members. (there are also many men as well, including Jason, Trolleypup, Jacob, and myself) Chamogirl is a wonderful person and I encouraged her to drop by and say hello to everyone here.
For the most part, everyone was very friendly to her in her introductory post. I was a bit distressed, however, that there were a couple of dissenters, including one poster who implied indirectly that since this site is called the Men's Long Hair Hyperboard, that women are not welcome!
I just wanted to note that everyone should be made to feel 100% welcome in our community! We have a number of very supportive women members here. Let us not forget Mouse, Asdis, Elizabeth, and several others who really help to make our community complete. The whole idea of this community is one of support. The fact that there are women who support us in our journey to grow long hair is really appreciated, and I can't thank our women members enough.
So let us rise to the occassion and extend a warm welcome to Chamogirl, and a heartfelt thank you to ALL our women members.
David
Women are very welcome here! That is made crystal clear in the FAQ.
I am glad that I am welcomed-Thanks
As I recall Victor telling the tale, the problem with women's hair boards that led to the formation of this one was not the women, it was the men. Women's hair boards tend to be frequented by some men who see long hair on women as a fetish and they are very put off by seeing their fetish on the "wrong" sex. This undercurrent was surely subtle in many, but it was substantial enough to make those boards feel to be an unwelcoming place to some longhaired men. Longhaired men also have different interests and needs that just weren't met in a space that was mostly women.
Longhaired men are in a small minority while longhaired women are not. Longhaired men frequently face discrimination while longhaired women do not. When a man grows his hair out, many see it as a change in his direction containing lifestyle or social group, while this is seldom seen in women who grow out their hair. These are experiences which many longhaired men share but few who frequent women's boards share. Longhaired men also have a distinct culture - you won't find much discussion of wrestlers and heavy metal rock bands on women's boards, but they are frequent topics here.
All those who support us in our endeavor to celebrate the longhaired man are welcome here! To carry out that task that is important to us, this site must of course remain primarily focused on longhaired men. But my feeling is that we can use, and we value, all support!
Bill
When a man grows his hair out, many see it as a change in his direction containing lifestyle or social group, while this is seldom seen in women who grow out their hair. These are experiences which many longhaired men share but few who frequent women's boards share.
At LHC there have actually been a number of threads about this, some started by men but also others by women. By and large the women there are very supportive of longhaired men, some because they find it attractive, and others because they recognize the unalienable right that all humans should have to grow long hair. There is a small contingent over there that push the 1 Corinthians 1:14, 15 agenda even going so far as putting the verse in their signatures. These are the exception though.
I certainly agree that the focus here needs to remain on men's hair but let's face it, many men care greatly about women and their feelings about them particularly as related to their having long hair. To have both genders giving input and support here can only be a good thing and quite frankly, I'm shocked that someone could think differently.
I like what you have to say. I support my son's desire to grow his hair long. He has had to put up with a lot of comments and general dislike (including my father)of long hair.
I also think you are right about the fetish thing about long hair on women. Maybe it is why you all will post pics of your face while we just take a pic of our hair from the back.
That's really sad. :-(
Maybe part of the difference is we're so hardened by hassles about our hair in real life (where being "out" is not optional) that any hassles we might get on the Internet are mild in comparison. Part of a man's growing long hair is growing an attitude of "I'm a longhair and here I am, and if you don't like it, tough."
Bill
Part of a man's growing long hair is growing an attitude of "I'm a longhair and here I am, and if you don't like it, tough."
I like that attitude and might have to borrow it. lol
Thanks David, and I will say I've felt welcome on this site from Day 1. I support long hair on men, and I feel a little more at home here than on a mostly-women's site since like many of the guys here I'm going through the experience of growing long hair for the first time..from a very short haircut at that. I knew NOTHING about long hair care, and if I hadn't stumbled across Greg Lovern's site I'd probably still be using 2-in-1 shampoo/conditioner. Since at this point I'm opting out of trims, seeing the progress of various guys gives me an idea of what to look forward to, and the encouragement to stick it out. I originally figured I'd just lurk, but then I wanted to be a part of the fun too, wanted to add my encouragement to a world where all-too-often females don't have anything positive to say.
Thanks to everyone, and welcome to any fellow female members out there.
Mouse