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I did call and make an appointment today to get a haircut. but its another 2 1.2 weeks until i go to the salon for that. Im not sure how much to get cut off? My hair is not even collar length now.
Matt
I have to say this...
Your hairs collar lenght is it? You want it knee lenght, is it?
Then DON'T CUT IT! Look, I don't know what's your age but you gotta stand up for your own decisions!
You've been posting and posting and posting with your duality between giving in to other people and doing your own thing. You even stated the longest goal lenght ever, starting from collar lenght! You can't cut your hair, if you keep on obeying to people you won't be happy with yourself, you gotta make your parents understand that.
Sorry, maybe I don't know why you're cutting your hair, but asking what amount to cut just after saying you're growing it to the knees makes absolutely no sense.
Just please don't cut your hair... Let it grow =)
Joao im 28
Then stop bothering and GROW YOUR HAIR! ;) =)
Really, don't give in... You know your goal? At the age you are, you have to run to get it and be able to enjoy it.
I know it can be dificult dealing with parents, but if you don't stand for yourself, who will? And besides... YOU ARE 28!!!
I repeat... Don't cut it =) Just cancel that apointmente... right away !! =)
David ~ Yes i know that but how do i get my mom to consider that im not going to cut my hair.
Hm, go talk to her and just say "Mom, I want to let my hair grow long, it would make me really happy" it's easy, really..especially cause you're 28 and not 15.
Good luck my friend.
Tell her what I tell my dad:
1) You grow your hair the way you want to, this is my hair and I can grow it the way I want to.
2) Why is my hair your problem ?
Peace
Leito
Because you're 28... Simple, isn't it?
=) Really, don't worry about her. Moms always love their sons and dayghters, just let your hair grow, she'll have to love you no matter what.
I was wondering how old you are.The way you were carrying on about your mother I was thinking 15-16.At 28 it's past time to be your own man.Your mother needs to let go,you're not a kid anymore.Some parents have a hard time with that.I don't know what your financial situation is,none of my business,but if you can afford it maybe a month long sabbatical away from home would help.When you get back home you'll see things from a different perspective.When I was 19 my dad and I had a huge fight over my hair and life style.A couple of highschool buddies and I took off in my 67 VW bus and drove from Texas to Alaska and were gone for 4 months.I'll never forget it.I Still had long hair when I got back too.
Arrick
I think the same as Joao, why did you make that appointment? As I said, it's so simple to just tell your mother you're not gonna cut it. How did I do it when I'm only 16 and you can't? My parents are still very mad about it and wonder when I'm gonna cut it and my grandmother is capable of anything (poisoning me even to cut it) lol thank god she's in another city and I visit her only once a year.
So, if she doesn't want to work with you that just shows how shallow she is (sorry but that's the truth). She'll either deal with it or choose herself another son. Stop being so neurotic and do it! ;)
Could you post a pic? It would help...still i'm sure you don't need to cut the ends just yet. Just let it grow. Cancel the appointment. Keep us posted.
Matt, here is my story. After cutting my hair short in 2000, I wanted to return to long hair again. But I continued to go to the salon to get it "trimmed" to make my wife happy. Each time I would suggest to my stylist, ( a very nice, pleasant guy ), that I wanted it left longer in the back and sides. I thought I could creep up on long hair while still makeing my wife happy. Guess what, 5 years and I still had the same length of hair!
Also I recall some other guys that were stuck in the "I need to trim a little" every few months rut, but their hair, while longish, never seemed to progress no more than that.
I would follow the good suggestions of the posts further back that said if you try to keep it neat and controlled while growing it long, your mother, while not loving it, may begin to accept it. Or maybe not. But don't fool yourself into thinking you can have it both ways.
Good luck on the rocky road,
Bruce
Why are you making a appointment when you are growing it out. Perhaps you can post an update picture for us to see.
John.B
Matt dont cut it ! Can Mom afford to hire someone if she fires you. You will be much more dedicated than anyone she can hire for the job. Cancel that appointment in a week or so. I am sure Mom will reconsider when you remind her she will have to pay ss taxes and medicare taxes and also she will have to comply to osha rules. Be subject to osha rules and labor laws. Before mom gets involved in this make sure you tell her
As long as I lived under my parents roof I had to have short hair. When I moved out, I grew my hair out and my parents accepted me for I was. It doesn't bother them anymore and I'm 27. The most they want whenever I see them is for me to keep it tied back. Maybe that's what you have to do. Move out. If your mom fires you, find another job. Sure you may be poor for a little while, but you'll survive. I was very poor for a while, but I SURVIVED. Do what you have to do.
Vegas ~ How long have you been growing your hair out long?
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I've been growing my hair out for about three years now. Apart from a trim of about four or five inches for my wedding it's an inch or two past my shoulders now.