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I am quite the shy guy so for me I have a really really hard time talking to girls (im 18 and I havent had a girlfriend yet).
So I am really wondering if girls like long hair? It's sort of hard for me to know when I am so non outgoing but I also sometimes wonder if it's easier to attract girls without my longhair. I mean I dont see here how the logic is any different, we both naturally grow long hair, so it both should be a sign of physical attraction however.... I am wondering if girls think long hair is weird or out there since it isn't the majority?
Thanks
I have met many girls who adore long hair and many who don't. All you can do is take in in stride. As long as you know that you are meant to have long hair, then all of the girls who don't pay you any mind b/c of your hair will fall by the wayside. As for the girls that do like you with your hair, then congrats!!! b/c you have found someone who likes you for you.
Yes, looks do play a part in any relationship, no one can deny that, but there is a limit that we must set for ourselves. We must determine how much we allow outward appearance to determine for us who we communicate with.....finding a girl who is happy with you b/c of who you are is much more important then finding a girl who likes you for your looks.
Remember, looks change. As we age our appearance naturally changes. Its our inner person that stays the same.
Most of girls don't like long hair. Sad but true.
Most of the girls who like long haired men are rock/metal girls or goth girls.
Well, that is what is happening in quebec ,canada. I dont know for other countries.
Hey Ethan,
Good question! It really depends, as everything else in life dealing with the powers of attraction, what the individual's own personal aesthetic and cultural indoctrination are. So, it's really actually a complicated issue.
"Do girls like long hair?" I remember bein' chased home by girls when I was class president of the third grade (!), with them screaming after me, "The Beatles! The Beatles!", and it was merely a typical-of-that-era collar length Mod cut! That was 1966. My, how time flies!
Here tis over forty years later. The one girl who REALLY liked me finally accepted my proposal. Now, we've since tied the knot. Good luck making the right choice, Ethan. One might as well ask, "Are all Goths sanguinarians?" Keep it growin', I say.
Yours in longhaired camaraderie,
Quenyan (+:-)}
All depends on the "girl."
Depends on the girl like everything individual people have individual preferences. I think generally though girls are more likely to like a guy who has a good sense of humor, outgoing, and is fun to be around. I have had girls say they like my hair but never any say they don't like it, but I'm sure there's plenty who don't. You should work on being more extroverted because I don't think your hair is really causing the problem.
Hi Ethan,
Welcome to our community! As for your question, as so many others have said already, it all depends on the girl! Some prefer it short, but there are many out there who like long hair on guys as well. At the Long Hair Community (LHC), there are many women, and girls as well, who love long hair on guys!
Hope this helps, (and keep looking!)
David
Hi Ethan
Welcome a board,some girls into hard rock,heavy metal and gothic like long hair but it's not like the 60s,70s,80s and some of the 90s,some other girls into rock,metal and gothic like guys that have no hair,shaved head or buzz cut,when you do meet a girl
don't let her talk you into cutting your hair,you want to meet a girl who will like you for who you are,
when i was 12 to 13yrs.old i liked guys with long hair and never out grew it i'm now a 42yr. old woman and i still like guys with long hair,
So please don't cut your hair,there is young women who like long hair.keep it growing.Margie
Heh, we sound pretty similar. I'm quite shy myself, and my lust to be in a relationship is legendary around my friends, lol, but I never let that prevent me from growing out my hair. My long hair, you see, is an inextricable part of me, much like my arms or legs. I wouldn't feel the same without it, so there's no reason for me not to have it. If you feel similarly, you must keep your hair. Attracting girls with short hair may be easier depending where you are (the opposite is true in some places), but there's no point attracting a girl that likes a short-haired you if YOU don't like the short-haired you.
To answer your question, there are certainly girls who like long hair. There are girls who sit in their room googling pictures of longhaired celebrities for hours on end. The girls who like long hair on guys aren't confined to rockers, goths, and/or alternative thinkers, either, if those aren't your type; there are indeed a number of "normal" girls who like it. I can attest to that. I also know that many girls leaning into the hip-hop subculture like it, though many of them seem to prefer ponytails, dreads, and/or braids/cornrows.
Remember that the idea is to attract just one really great girl (unless you're polygamous :P). Your long hair can give you a very noticeable, distinctive look; I'm told mine does, so even if I don't talk to many girls, they sure notice me. From one shy guy to another, I'd suggest working not on your hair (although you should keep it respectably neat) but on your interpersonal skills; you can't expect your dream girl to just come up to you like a moth to a flame. Some girls will just come up to you because they dig your hair, but don't rely on it; learn to make some conversation, but always be yourself. Don't ever try to abandon your shyness; just don't let it crush you.
Peace, and good luck, man.
yea, you and I are pretty much in the same situation. (except I'm 19 hehe)
but yea, I've also tryed to come up with a conclusion about girls and long hair and I came up with this.
-There are a lot of girls, which, when u directly ask them "Long or short hair on guys", they will say short.
-But some change their opinion upon actually seeing a longhaired guy and/or touching the hair (personal experience)
I just grow my hair out 'cause I love it and don't think I'm really THAT stupid/desperate to cut my hair for a girl that wants it short.
As per the relationship thing, I think Fallen Angels has got the right idea. (its really not the hair, its the personality of a guy that a girl likes [or dislikes lol])
-Gio
I've learned that there's some that like it and some that don't. I've had girls tell me that my hair looks good, and have had some tell me it looks ugly. Rocker chicks are on the rise again, so long hair on guys is becoming more acceptable in the "fad kingdom" lol. But really, there's the girls that like the plain ol' short hair every day guy then there's the girls that like the more carefree long haired look.
Ask most girls and they will say they like 'nice' hair, whether long or short. Of course, some have definite preferences, but some are into guys with long hair. There is one woman I know who runs her hands through my hair in front of my wife. I'm talking about someone who's quite attractive too. The annoying thing is that my wife doesn't seem to get jealous, LOL!
Girls like guys who have a sense of self, at least the kind of girl that would be worthwhile to be around that is. Make women laugh, be an interesting person to talk to, and make a killer cheescake if possible. Men who can cook are worth hanging on to, it is also a handy dating skill since you can make her a meal and talk as you work.
Long hair and short hair can be what attracts women initially but the good person you already are will keep their interest. Really, it is the same skills that make you a good friend so you have been practicing for years.
Elizabeth
The hair as part of the outer shell which gets there attention but whats inside makes the descision. One can be physically very attractive but if one is a total ass she'll figure that out real fast and move on.
Kevin
what i have found is that although many girls prefer guys with short hair, there are more girls that like long hair on guys than there are guys with long hair, so i think that having long hair will actually make you stand out a lot more to the girls who do like it. also, if you're a shy guy, your long hair will likely become a talking point with girls and a great way to break the ice.
bums
Hmm, this is tricky!
A lot of girls dig long hair, but it has to be neat long hair in my opinion. If a guy has scruffy long hair, the chances are he's going to pull a girl of the same calibre (e.g the girl doesn't see scruffyness as a problem because she's probably a scruffy girl herself!). Girls who like long hair need not be groups such as 'goths', 'metalheads' or the like. I know a lot of trendy girls (into club music or dance) who love the long haired look on men. I'm not saying every girl does though. If you're shy, work on your social skills gradually man. A good place probably to start is if a girl says something to you, you should listen to it and probably base the beginning of the conversation on that. You'll find some interesting stuff out from her, and who knows where that will lead! Be chilled out, make her feel comfortable with you and try and be yourself. If you start thinking of jokes to tell her the spontineity will be lost. If you think a joke could develop, just follow your nose and say it, and I'm sure it'll sound far more natural. Another good placd to start is start lifting weights, you'll feel a lot more confident and in control of yourself as well as looking great. And there's a saying, that I can't write here because it's profane, but basically, don't treat women any differently than you would treat yourself. If you've got good morals and values, then you shouldn't need to change them. After all, they are only human, just like men. Just make casual convo and see where it goes. I think a lot of women like a guy who's toned. You don't have to be muscle man or anything, but working on your abs, triceps biceps and shoulder muscles, you'll see results in a few months. But honestly, I think starting on the social side would be the first best thing to do. I hope that's some help to you blud. Hope I don't sound patronising in what I just wrote!
Chris
The majority of women do not like long hair on men. That's just the way it is. But there are a minority that do like men with long hair very much.
You'll just have to live with the fact that some women won't even want to get to know you due to your long hair.
I know that feeling, I've just left secondry school (going back for exams) and I've had nothing but hostility purely because of my hair.
don't feel bad so bad. I was married 5 years ago and dated for a while after my separation from my ex. It has been 5 years since I've been out with a girl and I'm 34 years old. I have the same problem....shy. Now that I have long hair I'm wondering if this will affect my chances with getting a date. I see so many men with short hair, cop hair cuts. you just have to be yourself and the person will like you for you and not the hair. Hang in there bro.
Personally i've found that alot of women love long hair. they love to touch it. i've gone out with loads of girls who love it but there is a lot of girls who don't. I've also found that, as crazy as it sounds, i've been more outgoing since growing my hair long. It's alot of work and you need to keep it clean but in the long run it's worth it. Post a pic or email me one and i'll give you some tips. And don't worry about it. just do what you want and don't take any shit from anyone. ;)
-calvin
from the point of view of a girl:
i LOVE it when a guy has nice long hair. to me it tells me that the guy is comfortable with himself, doesn't give a crap what the 'manly' men have to say to him, and likely takes care of other things in his life. i figure if a man is willing to put that kind of effort into his hair, he is more likely willing to put that kind of effort into other things. all of the long haired men i've ever known have had waaaaay more patience than the short-haired ones.
and if a girl doesn't like you just because you have long hair, she isn't worth your time, anyway.
YES YES YES YES YES!!!!!!!!!! THERE ARE GIRLS OUT THERE THAT LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LONG HAIR!! I AM AN "OLD" GIRL THAT STILL LOVES LONG HAIR ON GUYS! IF YOU LOVE YOU HAIR LONG, DON'T LET ANYONE TELL YOU DIFFERENT. IT'S A SPECIAL GUY THAT CAN GROW HIS HAIR LONG.. MY EX-HUSBAND HAD HAIR TO HIS WAIST FROM LIKE THE MID 80'S TO 2002 OR SO---GOT THIN, SO HE CUT IT OFF SHORT, BUT HIS HAIR WAS ALWAYS PRETTIER THAN MINE! TO THIS DAY, MY HEART STILL BEATS FAST WHEN I SEE A HEALTHY LONG HEAD OF HAIR ON A GUY-I WILL NEVER GROW OUT OF IT, SO IF YOU LIKE LONG HAIR, YOU WILL FIND A GIRL OUT THERE THAT LOVES IT TOO... GOOD LUCK
YES YES YES! THIS IS ONE OLD "GIRL" THAT LOVES IT TO THIS DAY! I LOVED THE HAIR BAND DAYS AND MISS THEM... IT TAKE ALOT OF COURAGE TO BUCK THE NORM AND GROW YOUR HAIR. IF YOU WANT LONG HAIR, THEN YOU WILL FIND A GIRL THAT LOVES IT TOO. MY EX-HUSBAND HAD HAIR FROM SHOULDER LENGTH IN THE MID 80'S TO HIS WAIST UP TO 2002! HE NEVER CUT IT AND GOT ALOT OF FLACK, BUT HE WANTED TO BE HIMSELF-NOT LOOK LIKE EVERYONE ELSE! GO FOR IT...
Well, I like boys with long hair. I think it`s because I like long hair, no matter who has it-boy or girl. At the moment my is under the shoulders and I want to let it grow until it gets to the half of my back. :-) ;-)))