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Hey guys, wondering how's things around here?
Got something I wanted to share with you all. I was dating a girl named Alex from october last year until April, and to be honest she was an idiot. I could sit here and spend hours quoting the ways she used to behave, but basically she's a liar and never treated me well. She had a lot of issues.To be honest she wasnt very attrative either, I'm unsure why I dated her. Well things were coming to a close (I dumped her), and 2 days before we broke up, I cut my long hair! It had been growing for 3 1/2 years and was already lower mid back length. I had it cut and styled so the back is above my shoulders and fringe, when pulled straight, reaches just above bottom of my chin. Also had it highlighted blonde and thinned out. To be honest I was so nervous because of past stylist experiences getting it wrong. My mates were really impressed afterwards, they said I could pull a lot better. Well when I saw her she couldn't believe it. I was ready to move on. About 3 days later, the first night I went out on the lash since the cut, I met this girl called Vikki, and she she is just amazing!basically she's the complete opposite to my ex, only in a good way. She's (to me) one of the fittest girls I've ever seen in my entire life and I'm seeing her right now. I very much doubt I'd be seeing her if I hadn't cut my hair to be honest. All my mates are really pleased for me. Guys, I apologise for this, I think I may embarress myself if I go on any further, but I just really wanted to get it off my chest. I suppose the moral of the story is that, if you can trust a stylist, then some positive results can be acheived. I'll post a pic or 2. Wondering how Absalom and Oren are also.
Comments welcome.
Chris
In a way, it's sad you cut such long hair, but on the good side at least you didn't buzz it all off! And, for what it's worth coming from another guy, your new cut looks good to me. Just don't make a habit of it! ;)
anotherDavid
Hey man, great to hear from you! I wondered what you'd been up to. Too bad about the rocky road of romance you were on, but I'm glad you met Vikki; she sounds cool.
As for your hair, I can honestly say your new cut looks, IMO, way better than before you cut it. In the before pic, your hair looked a little raggedy; maybe you were getting tired of it by then? But now, particularly in this picture, it looks so cool, and it frames your face fantastically. It just goes to show that different people can look great with different hairstyles - too many people are polarized to either short or long (though the scale is tipped rather badly on the short side).
Anyway, thanks for sharing, dude. Hope you and Vikki have some great times together.
Peace, man.
Chris
A great shame - are you going to grow it back?
It was good to hear from you as you haven't posted in ages.
I am happy that at least one in your life you had really long hair.
As for now...IMO depending on how you style it, you could either look bad (like one of the Hanson kids) or really good.
Good luck with your new relationship, and one question:
In your first (long hair) pic, what does your shirt say?
The second words I can see is 'Australia', so what's the first one and there is a logo as well, that I can't really identify ?
v
Does anyone like the band Capdown?
I'm well drunk in that pic. lol
The important thing is not whether or not your mates are pleased for you; but if YOU are pleased (which it pretty much sounds like you are). As far as whether or not you'd be seeing your new girlfriend or not, had you not cut your hair prior to meeting her... Well, maybe, --- or, maybe not! We're all entitled to out own beliefs, of course; but specualtion is a hard thing to go by...
Your story reminds me of similarities to many of the Native American Indian cultures, which believe in cutting their long hair whenever there is a major change going on in one's life, --- in the case of traditional Native Amercan culture, this is most commonly done after the loss of a significant person (meaning, the death of a parent, sibling, or spouse). In your case, it sounds like you were happy & relieved to let go of the old girl friend, --- and anything that you associated with her memeory (including your long hair), you were also happy & relieved to let go of, too....
I'm not trying to "psycho-analyze" too much here, I hope; just sharing what little I know about North American Indegenous culture and traditions, as it pertains to the significance of cutting long hair. (If there are any Native Americans who wish to speak up and make any corrections in what I just said, by the way... please DO!)
Making a major change in one's appearance (examples other than hair: losing or gaining a significant amount of weight; getting rid of an old wardrobe, and buying all new clothes) is not a new concept to other cultures as well, --- and its significance of wanting to start some aspect of life all over again, "fresh!" Dumping an old girlfriend and picking up a new one is nothing new under the sun, either; but how you feel afterwards, especially looooooong after the "test of time" has run its full course within your new relationship, will be what will matter in the long run.
I'm not sure if you are insinuating that by cutting your hair and feeling good about it, you are also trying to hint & suggest this for others here as well? No matter. But, just to give equal "air time", there are those of us here who have bad memories attached to our short-haired days earlier on in our lives (like me, for example). So, from my point of view, if I was to cut my hair, I would NOT feel good about it; because it would be like re-living a bad dream, --- in other words, growing my hair out signifies to me that every day I get to see new progress in starting my life anew with a fresh and better start than the day before. With each passing day I know I'm making invisible incremental progress in my hair's growth, --- and with each passing month, I might even be able to visibly detect some of that progress! It's a different kind of feeling. The difference between your elation and mine is that mine is gradual and on-going, requiring immense patience and perseverance; where as yours is sudden and instantaneous, requiring a major decision to take the risk of initiating an abrupt and drastic change. They BOTH have their place, in the greater scheme of life, at least. But, as far as hair itself goes... as one longhair once said to me right after I sadly cut my own mane in Y2K, "Easy to cut; much harder to grow!"
I'm happy for you, if indeed you are truly happy about your shorter hair now; but, as for me, I'll keep my mane a-growin', thank you!!"
- Ken in San Francisco
Well if your happy with your style now then thats great. As for myself I'm keeping mine growing.
Cheers.
John.B
Wondering how Absalom and Oren are also.
will never cut a single millimeter off of my mane, other than removing an occasional split end.
Well ..... at least you did not cut all of it off. It will still take a long time to grow back what was cut off.
It is what is inside that counts, and not outward appearance. If a potential girlfriend wants you to radically change your appearance, such as a radical hair trim, it is usually a red flag that she is probably a controlling type. The problem is that at some point the relationship may end. You end up a double loser: no long hair or girl. In a nutshell, it is best to find someone who accepts you for who you are, and not what she envisions she can change you into.
Absalom
Hi Absalom,
Great point! relationships are 'meant' to be based on 2 people coming together and appreciating each other for who they are NOT what they are OR what they look like.
I have always been an individual Absalom and I have decided to grow my hair to stand out amongst the crowd and to show the world I am an individual who does not comply with societies beliefs and traditions.
You know those elves in lord of the rings? I think that sort of hair looks awesome and your hair looks great!
I have come up with a theory, your hair length is proportional to your knowledge!
Ryan Samarzia
It looks much better! You now have a style. Stick with this stylist you found and tip her well. She can help you grow it longer again if you ever choose to.
Well you know to be honest if your happy with it that 's all that matters.
Thanks for sharing
Kevin
Duuuuuuuude!
Your story sounds SO, SO FAMILIAR!
D' ya know that they jus' found a cow that has a gene for skim milk?! No joking! Now, all they have to do is find one of her, Margie's, her name (no offense, member Margie's) calves who give chocolate milk and they'll be millionaires! LOL! But Chris, man, I, too, was in an inappropriate relationship, which wuzzz jus' WHY I had shorn my locks, too! Whoa. This sounds like a typical theme. Thank you for posting. Best of luck (and blessings) to ya with yr current flame. Young love rocks, man!
Yours in longhaired camaraderie,
Quenyan (+:-)}
Hi Chris,
I haven't had a chance to post to you before, as I have only been around since last September, so I would like to say a warm hello to you and welcome back to the hyperboard, and hope to see you around more often.
I am SO happy for you, that you have found someone you are happy with, and who appreciates you as a person. Do not feel embarasssed in ANY way about telling us this, we appreciate you sharing this great news with us on the hyperboard!
As for your hair, it looks GREAT in both the before and after pictures! I will look forward to your new hair growing journey, be sure to keep us updated.
All the best,
David
Hey SurferDude!
What makes YOU happiest of all in the end is what really counts to be perfectly honest. (Glad you rid yourself of that "ex" however. Who needs that trouble?)
As my long ago deceased father used to say: "People do what they want to do............when they want to do it!"
(I think he did have a point there.)
My best to you in the future. It was so good to have you drop by again after such a long time.
You are always welcome here. Your many (probably hundreds of posts past years) were always appreciated. You always posted in a most gentleman-like fashion. (And to think, by todays standards you STILL have long hair to a degree even after having 3-1/2 years swept away forever.)
Justin~
ps: Absalom has written something below that you may want to think about in the future. It is the inner self that counts.....not an outer facade that may be faux.
Hey SurferDude!!!
I would say it was a shame that you cut your hair...it looked fantastic. Although I have to admit, your new cut looks pretty good too...and you still kept it long. I'm sure you'll get a lot of good comments. I did when I cut mine all off 2 years ago. Tons of compliments from everybody and it made me feel good. But somewhere along the line, I wanted to grow it again...now it's been about a year since my last cut and I'm in for a terminal journey again LOL.
Anyhow...good to hear from you again and glad you met someone you really like. Who knows...maybe she'll want you to grow it longer again!!!
Take care and keep it growin',
Brett
Hey surferdude your hair looked ace before, but you know it looks really good now too, hair like yours is very 'in' over here at the moment. See you around, Dave
Hey
Chris ( Its Great to See You Posting Again
I often wondered about you as I remember browsing this actual site before I actually posted here myself that you was growing you hair out this was back in the days when FiNk use to post here to I aint even forgot him neither lol I am some what shocked you cut your hair ( Oh Well does grow back )needless to say your after cut looks quite superb in itself I havent had mine cut 32 months now but i think my terminal length is to just over my shoulders but oh well I dont care though as thats quite cool to,
Anyway take care
Axel
Hey 'SurferDude' Chris!
Good to hear from you.
Too bad you had a rough relationship and wound up cutting off that nice 3 1/2 years of growth you had going :((((( I hope things go better for you this time around. I hope your musical studies are going well, too.
I'm still tickin' - been very busy lately. I am coming up on 3 years of un-messed-with hair growth (and 2 years of facial hair growth) myself.
- Oren
Sorry to hear about the harsh time with your ex. At least you're doing better now.
You had really awesome long hair. I can see how alot of girls (of this generation, anyhow) would most likely find you more attractive with your new hairstyle. Don't get me wrong, it looks good. At least you didn't buzz it. It's just a shame that many girls can't appreciate very long hair.