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First of all, I'd like to thank you guys for inspiring me to start growing my hair out for the first time in my life. It's been nearly 6 months since my last cut...at the back, that is.
Yeah, like a month ago (May 17th), my mom told me to cut my hair (sides and front) since it was 'messy'. Anyway, I was not impressed with the results as the idiot cutting my hair didn't do a very good job. *facepalm*
I regret ever 'trimming' my hair and hope to god I never do it again...until yesterday, my mom is trying to force me into trimming it again. Why?! My hair is basically the same as last month and it's ridiculously LONG at the back which looks ugly. Especially when it's wet...
I mean, why should I 'trim' it again after a month? I shouldn't have even trimmed it in the first place. It's not about loose-ends and my hair was hardly 'messy'. =(
I tried describing the awkward stage to her in which it appears messy, etc. but it will turn out GREAT in a couple of months. I promised her but she still wants me to cut it again.
How did you guys that are still with your parents convince them? Or did they not care? :S
PS. My dad doesn't really care, he wants to see how I manage and look with long hair.
Thanks...
if your dad doesn't mind if you grow our hair out, perhaps you could ask him to talk to your mom about it. maybe make some sort of deal that as long as you take care of it you can let it grow for 6 months and go from there? i dunno... it's an idea.
That's what we have been doing. I promised her that she should see how good I look with longer hair.
I mean, ever since 2002 I wanted long hair...atleast shoulder-length.
I'll always try and keep promising her that it would look good and if it doesn't, then I'll never lengthen it again. (lying, for the win. <_<)
Seriously, though. Why is she so concerned about my hair? I've never liked the feeling of short hair and I am forced to cut it for the most idiotic occasions.
i don't think that anyone can really answer this. people are just into what they're into. i'm 29 yrs old, and my mom STILL gets upset when i bring home another long haired boy that i'm dating. with her, it's her religious upbringing that makes her believe men should have short hair. thankfully, i somehow turned out a lot more free thining than the rest of my family.
Maybe your mum just want you to get a real long hair cut. It looks bad, if its her wish, just get to a haircutter and get a long-hair-bob-cut... until your hair is mouth-length all around and then grow it?
Bad idea.
~JeffL
my mom was kinda the same way.. i'd be growing it for about 6-7 months and she'd tell me that i should get the hair off my ears because it "looks ratty." Of course what she didn't understand was that I wasn't doing the medium hair length thing like surfer hair or something. Once i explained this to her, she stopped and i grew in peace. Of course it sounds like you have a worse situation than i did. Perhaps you should just refuse to cut it. If she gets pretty hostile from that, then maybe it might be wise just to cut it and wait until you're 17 or 18 and start there. Parents tend to care more about how their kids look than how they look themselves.. At least that's what i've noticed in my own experiences.. Good luck, man!
I think we all have these problems no matter what age. Last time I visited my parents, (before I had my hair long enough to tie in a ponytail), my father was commenting on my younger brother who I hadn't seen in a long time as he lives quite far away having had a ponytail and how silly it looked, but he was happy with him now because he recently now has a "normal" short haircut because his wedding is coming up soon. I will be seeing my parents again in a couple of weeks, with a ponytail of my own. I wonder what they will say? I'm 32. My brother is 28. I think parents opinions never change.
MattT
Well, I do think you may need a cut in the back as you had one in the front in sides, that may give you a mullet. However if its not that extreme, then don't. Just tell your mom no. If your Dad doesn't mind I hardly see you getting in that much trouble...and even if you do, you must put your foot down and say no.
Personally my family is very encouraging, product of the 70's. ;]
Well, I do think you may need a cut in the back as you had one in the front in sides, that may give you a mullet. However if its not that extreme, then don't. :
I don't know, man...cutting ANY part of my hair does NOT make me feel good. I've always disagreed with haircuts since I was a child. Haha...
Now that you've pointed it out, it has grown a bit (been a month) but I see little change to the sides. Still, my bangs were a bit longer before the cut but seeing them now it's still long enough to cover my brows. Before it would reach my eyes and, while wet, even my nose. Heh. :P
I hope to god I don't cut it tommorow.
If you stand firm then maybe she'll grow tired of fighting about it
or maybe not. Either way you have to stand your ground your old enough to make your own descisions about your hair.
Would your mother prefer to have a short haired crack addict or other heavy drug use or a longhair who's relatively clean and straight. I'm assuming a bit here but you know what I"m trying to argue. Point out your positives and ask her is longhair a horrible price to pay for a good kid and your dad doesn't seem bothered.
You don't need to convice her to your point of vier just get her to back off.
Good luck
Kevin
Good points, friend. I'll do whatever I can and will keep this updated. =)
I don't think she understands that hair doesn't grow any longer if you have maintenance trims done, and/or doesn't care because she doesn't buy into you personal goals and only cares about it looking neat. The trouble is, human hair just doesn't grow that fast. Trimming frequently enough to look neat results in zero net growth.
I also had far more trouble with my mum than with my dad. I'm sure this wasn't helped by the fact that she never really had long hair herself.
You didn't mention how old you are. Sometimes Moms have a hard time when their "babies" begin to think for themselves. Your Dad sounds cool (aren't we all?), but he needs to talk to your Mom about letting you explore some boundaries, as long as you don't cross them. I told my sons that I'm cool with whatever they want to try as long as they give me a heads-up. I'm old, and I can't take too many shocks (like the green mohawk, which was a surprise). As long as they don't make permanent marks or punch any holes before they're 18, I'm good. After that, it their choice.
Hope this helps!
15. 16 in November...
Thanks for the replies. There were some good reads about your own personal hair battles, lol. and I've also got good news. :D
I'm going to Houston, TX on July 5th since relatives live there and won't be back until August 8th.
Me, my dad and younger bro (just for the hell of it) convinced her that if my hair still looks 'messy and ugly' come August, I'd trim the sides again. Although it's still better than a full haircut, my last trimming experience in May was hardly great.
Anyway, August would mark 8 months since my last cut which was a bit longer than a buzzcut when I cut it. :P