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been growing my hair for 10 months since September but have had trims every 2 months (parents). as a result my hair is long at the back/front but shorter than expected at the top/sides.
should i just cut my hair completely?
Don't trim your hair unless there are significant split end, and if you took care of your hair you shouldn't have any. Your mileages may vary though...
I'd say at least 6 months to a year between trims if you want to take some.
based on individual hair strands, i have no split-ends.
the cuts are mainly for 'aeisthetic' (sp?) reasons, to make it look neat, they say.
its not neat at all, imo...
Of course it's not neat. You are in the middle of the "Awkward Phase". We've all been there, and only patience will make it go away. Trims only lengthen the A.P. Rules for growing hair are simple. 1- Don't cut it. 2- See rule 1. The unevenness will go away. It'll be great! You'll see!
It's tough to advise a guy who still lives with his parents, as I appreciate the fact that they AT LEAST are letting you grow your hair out (albeit with an unnecessary rule to trim every 2 months); but, if you can find a stylist who will cut next to nothing off every 2 months, --- or, better yet, stretch it out to every 3 months, or every 4, or every 5... You get the idea!
Many guys here don't trim their hair at all until their manes are long enough to discover split ends (which is usually after about the 2-year mark). When I was growing my hair out (which I've done on 2 separate occasions), I averaged seeing a professional hairstylist somewhere between once a year and every 6 months at the most. Nowadays, though, I only trim off split ends on my own (it's been over 3 years since I last had a professional trim). But, that could explain how I got to belt-length now.
WHY DO THAT???
Do you or don't you want long hair????? If it comes down to it being a choice between what your parents insist upon for right now, and not having long hair at all.... I say: the joy of having at least SOME length to your hair is better than none at all!!
But, just an old geezer longhair's opinion...
- Ken in San Francisco
When I still lived under my parents' roof (a looooooong time ago - lol), my dad absolutely would not permit me or my brothers to grow our hair longer than a military-short style. I absolutely HATED short hair. When my parents divorced when I was 18, I decide to leave that house and join the job world. It cost me a college education; but it gave me the freedom and sanity I needed to get away from an abusive father.
Sounds like your parents are far mor reasonable than my dad, --- so, depending on whatever your age is, I totally appreciate the value of compromise, in order to keep household harmony. It won't be long, though, and before you know it, your parents will back off even more. They know you're growing up, and have a mind and goals of your own. By growing your hair out to whatever degree they currently allow right now, and maintaining it in good condition, they'll see that it means something important to you, --- and I bet anything they'll let you grow it even more then.
My best to you!!
- Ken
i completely understand what you mean but i would have liked my hair length to be even in every aspect.
and you also brought up some good points about when you were young and living with your dad. I have never had a buzzcut/shaved head but my hair was always short until last year. if you dont mind me asking, did your brother also lengthen his hair now?
i also think that if the back is long enough, i could even it out with the rest of the hair, etc.
TY anyway.
I have 4 brotheres, --- an older brother who is now deceased, and 3 step-brothers. All 3 of my step-brothers grew their hair long at some point in thir lives (but now have gone back to shorter). My older brother, when he was alive, never once grew his hair long (he had no interest in doing so).
Occasionally one of my step-brothers will grow their hair back to shaggy or "longISH"; but I'm the only true "die-hard longhair" in the family (lol).
- Ken
Very simple choice.
If you want long hair then do not cut it. FULL STOP, PERIOD, ETC, ETC.
Trimming is only ever needed if you have split ends (max 1/4") or if AFTER TWO YEARS of growing you need to balance it.
That is it. Follow this simple way forward or shave - you will not get long hair as defined here otherwise.
Otherwise forego the trims and your hair will get longer
Hair stylists always recommend maintenance trims every six weeks, but the ob ject of that is to keep their 'creation' looking exactly the same, i.e. zero growth. Two months is not much more than that, so it will ensure that you see very little growth.
As Ken said, you need to try to have less taken off and stretch the gaps between your hair appointments, and even then your hair will only grow very slowly.
Eventually you will go away to college or get a job in another town, or at least you should. If you never move out from under your parents' roof you will never have long hair.
I don't know how old you are, or how long you want your hair, so this makes it harder to give a good answer.