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Okay, honesty please. Yes, I know one should wear hair for one's own self and not for others. But let me know the feasibility while still being a member of polite civilization.
Here is my dilemma. I am nearly out of the awkward stage. My ponytail is getting long but a few chunks do not quite make it or get loose quickly and these few strands feel worse than everything loose. However, I can get pretty much all the hair into two pigtails at the neck (going straight down) and not have loose hair (or only have a few pieces instead of chunks). My question is if this is acceptible hairstyle. I've seen men pull off pigtails but often these men are few and seem to fit into different demographics. I am 21 and a graduate student living in the urban/suburban Midwest and one who is pursuing a girl who I would like to date.
Hey man,
I wear my hair in pigtails quite often with a bandana. I think the bandana give the look some justification. With it, it looks like im trying to copy Willy Nelson (altho Im not), just that I didnt take the time to actually do the braids. I dont think it looks right without the bandana. But thats just my opinion.
Also, Ive never put much time into chasing women. So looks arent that important to me. Not saying I want to look trashy, I m just not going to sacrafice who I am to look a certain way. The girls I do go out with know exactly who I am so wearing my hair in an unusual style and always wearing my tie-dye is what I do. So it is not a shock to anyone when I do something out of the ordinary.
Bottom line, if you want to wear your hair like that, I say do it. You will learn soon enough if she is going to put up with you being you. On the other hand, an relationship is give-and-take. If its worth not wearing pigtails to go out with her, then by all means, DONT WEAR THE PIGS!!!!!lol
sorry about the long response, Im feeling fiesty tonight! (lol)
peace
clayton
I have worn pigtails for a couple of years simple cause they are fun. And hair is what defines us and I would like to think of myself as fun.
I'm lucky to work in an office evironment where some of the other girls chose pigtails so big deal I'm a guy. More often then not and since my hair on longer I plait and then put them in tails but I guess that still makes them pigtails.
Yoour hair - do as you wish
M T
Hi Antese,
OK, you asked for honesty, now here it comes (lol)....
I liked reading Clayton's reply below mine, and have to say I agree with pretty much everything he said about the bandana / Willie Nelson look. But, his comment aside... even in San Francisco's gay community, of which I'm an active member of, I rarely, if EVER, see guys with pigtails (but, then again, there are very, very, very few gay longhairs)...
If I were a straight guy wanting to eventually pursue a particular girl, I definitely would NOT wear my hair in pigtails, --- a half-tail, yes; but not pigtails... Even for ME, the "Hair Tornado King" (uh, er... or, should I say, "Queen?"), pigtasils would just look too... ummmm... GOOFY!! Especially considering you mentioned living in the Midwest (which just so happens to be where I'm originally from, too)....
Just my old geezerly gay opinion, though!
- Ken in San Francisco
Old geerzerly gay opinion?....gay maybe, but geezerly I think not!!!!
Someday(sigh), when i graduate from this darn thing known a college, I want to pull a "DavidN" and make a states trip. And you are high on the list of have-to-see's.
After reading what you wrote I realized that I care too little about what I wear. So starting tomorrow im going to iron my tie-dye!!!!lol
peace
Lol, well, I'm VERY flattered by what you said her, Clayton, --- and it would be a great pleasure to meet you someday, too!! At the rate all these Westward road trips are being planned, though, California just might sink into the ocean afterall... but, not because of any religious-fanatic's prediction of a massive earthquake finally occuring; but rather because of all the extra weight of all the long hair visiting out West (lol)!!
Take care, Clayton, --- and thanks again for the nice comments!
- Ken
I have to agree with Ken (except about him being old and geezerly, opinionated . . . maybe hehehehe). I understand that going through the awkward stage is no fun and very frustrating when you want to do something with your hair so that you can dress to impress, but I don't think that wearing pigtails would be the best of ideas. I live in Anaheim, home of the mouse's tragic kingdome hehehe, and though not as liberal as San Francisco, the tolerance in this city I think would be a bit higher than the great midwest, and I would be ridiculed to no end, not to mention receiving the occasional threat, if I were to pull my hair into pigtails. Just keep doing what you've been doing, be yourself, if she is someone worth your time and affections, that will be all she needs. BTW, sorry for typing too much.
Hey thanks, Danny! Yes, I am indeed "opinionated"; but also include the description, "geezerly", because I was allowed to attend San Francisco's annual, "Geezer's Ball" (lol, --- it is a real event, though, believe it or not)!! And as far as what you said here...
I understand that going through the awkward stage is no fun and very frustrating when you want to do something with your hair so that you can dress to impress, but I don't think that wearing pigtails would be the best of ideas. I live in Anaheim, home of the mouse's tragic kingdome hehehe, and though not as liberal as San Francisco, the tolerance in this city I think would be a bit higher than the great midwest, and I would be ridiculed to no end, not to mention receiving the occasional threat, if I were to pull my hair into pigtails. Just keep doing what you've been doing, be yourself, if she is someone worth your time and affections, that will be all she needs. BTW, sorry for typing too much.
EXCELLENT advise there, Danny, --- I agree with everything you said, except for one thing: I don't think you typed "too much" at all!
- Ken
Geezerly? Nope.
Always respect your opinion and input--you're like that one uncle we all have who is always a little nuttier and little more fun who can think outside of the box. The one that will give the correct answer no one else will give.
Will I do pigtails? I don't know. They may not go with my Hawaiian shirt collection...
Occasionally, I will make my hair into pigtails to embarrass my friend, and I always get a laugh out of it. I don't think people would take any adult with pigtails seriously, male or female. I'm all for people doing whatever the hell they like, but I'll tell you that you'll likely be pretty powerless if you go with pigtails, especially something relating to relationships or employment.
I like to do pigtails when I want to act cute (or disturbing, as my friends put it) or get a few laughs. I have a strong feeling that doing pigtails without disguising myself as a girl in a public place with a lacking sense of humor would probably result in acts of violence against me.
Lol, that gave me an idea, sounds like fun :)
Now I know how to embarass my friends when I get back from holidays, ha!
I wholeheartedly agree with Clayton's response below. If you have any desire to wear pigtails besides functionally keeping the hair off your face, then it's worth wearing them. If you're going to be wearing them during the relationship, then she should know. It's not fair to her to win her over with a suppressed, false image of you, then to disappoint her when she sees who you really are.
Still, I get the idea you don't care much about the hairstyle beyond keeping your hair neat, so it's probably better not to do it. Pigtails, even the braided/Willie Nelson/Viking types, carry a strong feminine connotation today, which the average girl will instantly dismiss in a guy. Note, however, that the average girl will also dismiss a guy with long hair. So, if she approves of your hair, it's possible she won't mind you wearing the pigtails once in a while.
Basically, I think you should go to her with your hair loose, so she knows what you like with hair down, so she's well aware you have long hair. Tying your hair back makes it neat, yes, but in your case, it'll likely give the impression you don't have very long hair, and she might get used to always seeing you with your hair tied up and "shorthair-like." If she's not going to accept you with your hair down, she's not worth it.
Unless you know she's open to these things, save the tails for when you're in the relationship.
Peace
You may be better off with bobbie/hair pins. For myself, I'm a few months behind you and when not in public will tie my hair up at the top of my head. In public, I just let it fly around and live with it.
For something completely different, I was watching "Zorro" with Anthony Hopkins and noticed that his hair was put into a ponytail by weaving the shorter bits on the side into the longer hairs. Unfortunately, I can't find a picture.
I'd say if you're comfortable with that, do it! Don't care what others think, though I never found lose hair annoying even when it's incredibly oily. But then again, everyone's different. Another chance is to bear and grin for a few months till all hair fits in the tail.
I would say go for it and if she hates the pigs but likes the hair then the give and take thing applies consider not wearing it. I've never been one to put too much into other peoples opinion of what I should look like / wear etc. That being said I will tone down a bit too make life a little easier under some circumstances if I don't feel like dealing with the hassle.
Hey you know maybe ask her this question as well, openess is a trait women like. It's also an opportunity to find out her tastes
and likes.
Kevin
Hello,
In my school, I've seen a guy with this hairstyle, with the same hair, i suppose. So he wore pigtails (Althought they seem to be mini-buns :p) with a hat (Never seen him without his hat...)
But, he didn't look feminine. So, if a hat can help...
Bye
Vivien
here's a girl's opinion:
i think pigtails on a guy are HOT!!i used to date a guy who did that with his hair quite a bit. i loved it! and i hit on a guy once simply because his hair was in pigtails. a big part of that is simply because it shows confidence. being happy with how your hair is = confidence = HOT!
peace,
nic
I am happy to hear that a girl thinks pigtails on a guy has some appeal. With all of the long haired men giving advice and opinion, sometimes I still wonder what the rest of the world would say, women included. So thanks. Perhaps I'll try it again and post a picture...in case it works on guys but not specifically on me.
oooh! please do post a pic! that would be awesome.
and - good luck on your date! hope all goes well!
peace,
nic
The front with pigtails in. (Keep in mind, this was very quick hairstyling and very quick photography)
i love it! i think they look really awesome! if this girl doesn't like them, then come to phoenix and take me on a date instead. ;)
peace,
nic
Okay, but if you're in the Milwaukee area, you have to let me know and I'll take you on a date.
The back with pigtails in. (Keep in mind, this was very quick hairstyling and very quick photography)
Now that doesn't look all that bad. I think if you keep them low, and towards the back, you'll be fine. I don't think if they were up higher, and more to the side, it would look right. That's how little girls wear them. The way you have them, is similar to how some adults wear braids. I have seen some guys (usually Africa American) wear low braids positioned where your pigtails are. I think you can pull off wearing them just fine. Go for it! See, ya get another chicks' opinion.
Carol
The side with pigtails in (and the other side should be mirror image. (Keep in mind, this was very quick hairstyling and very quick photography)
Now I have never personally seen a guy in pigtails, I'm trying to imagine the look. I agree that a guy willing to do the unconventional shows self-confidence, and that is a plus in my book.
BTW I like your avatar, you are a very pretty young lady.
Carol
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A broadcasted thanks to all who replied. I do not think I will do anything so drastic as pigtails any time soon while being out in public. Although, if I am in private or among close friends then perhaps I might put them in, especially if I am leaning over a table and the hair would want to hang over my eyes. The other option is the top and bottom double tail (half-tail and neck tail) which has worked in the past before.
As for the girl, tomorrow will be the second date. But not going to randomly pull out pigtails for it--going with a ponytail and hair gelled back look which I managed to make work in the past. But I am worried, like many people pursuing love, that a little thing she might see at some time (like pigtails, next Tuesday) might trigger something that would turn her away from a third date when she would otherwise be raring to go on said third date.
In all honesty, it was a late night thought. And sometimes late night thoughts are wise and sometimes they are foolish. Not sure which one this is.
If you're not sure, why don't you just ask her first. Let her know this is a new direction for you, you are interested in experimenting, and how would she feel about it. She might even be willing to help you with it or do them for you.
This way you find out how she feels, and show her you respect her opinion by asking. There should not be a downside.
George
I may bring up the idea of pigtails without saying I'll do them and see if that brings any thoughts to light. Now the thought of having a girl help me with my hair, that would be special.