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I have an overwhelming pressure on myself to get my hair cut.
It's not about being different and peoples comments etc, but the fact that alot of girls like short hair more than longer hair. Obviously when i am older longer hair will look alot nicer on me, but for now i think it might be for the best if i cut it and wait to have longer hair when i look less young.
I've loved growing my hair and it feels great in the wind and putting my hands through it. But i'm not sure.
I could either just go back to an old style, or choose a different shorter style. Either that or just cut the back neat and get it evened up, so i can keep growing it longer on top.
What do you think?
DaPs.
if you let someone dictate what you do then it follows the same for other instances down the road.. first its your hair , then its to drink , then its to smoke ... you have to be a bigger person then to let someone else pressure you into something you dont want to do , but words are words. do what you wish , i cant tell you what to do. I can only give you advice , and how you take that advice is up to you , and you alone.
take care ,
Rob The Hitman
I would definitely NOT cut my hair if i were you, as you seem to have the perfect hair for growing it long.
I've made the mistake myself, and i learned myself a lesson after that.
And remember that growing out you hair takes a long time, i don't know exactly how old you are now but think how long your hair would be in about 2-3 years from now on if you let it grow.
I usually don't care too much about what people think about my appearance, as long as i feel good about myself, then that's what truly matters.
That's about all the advice i can give you.
Well, rest assured then that this "pressure" is all "self-imposed" (lol)!
Ahemmmm... In general, LONG HAIR LOOKS ITS VERY BEST WHEN A GUY IS IN HIS PRIME OF HIS YOUTH (and if you don't believe... look at all the men older than you who are bald, grey, thinning, or have receding hairlines (like me). OH, WHAT I WOULDN'T DO TO HAVE THE THICK, FULL, COLORFUL HAIR OF MY YOUTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(But, hey, don't listen to me: I'm just an old geezer!)
OK, so you're "not sure"... How about just a light trim and slight re-shaping then, instead of an all-out haircut?
Hey, now you're talking some sense!
I think if you truly are not happy with your current hair length and/or style, then you should consider a MODERATE "compromise" (in other words, try out some "medium-length" alternatives).
I realize that this is the "Men's LONG Hair Hyperboard"; but not every guy on the planet aspires to butt-length (like I do - lol), --- so please consider at least keeping SOME length to your hair... The world will be a more beautiful place because of it!
- Ken in San Francisco
I certainly wouldn't do it just for a shallow reason such as that. I always trust cowboys and he hasnt failed us yet, so listen to him.
If you do however decide to cut your hair, could we have a look at it as it is now?
Cutting your hair because you think it'll make women more attracted to you is a big mistake, especially if long hair is a part of who you are. Women are attracted to confidence and a guy who is secure with himself, who he is, and who doesn't seek approval from other people (especially women). If you have long hair and carry yourself well (dress well, keep clean, etc.) there shouldn't be a problem. As a matter of fact, you'll be setting yourself apart from other guys who sport the same short haircuts.
Besides, if someone -- male or female -- does throw a negative remark at you about your hair, let it bounce off of you, show them that you don't care, and THAT will be attractive to a woman.
Statistically that may be true, but those of us who like long hair are more fun. :-)
Seriously though, you need to do what YOU want to do. If that's a slight trim, a somewhat shorter style, or hair to your waist then DO IT. Echoing other comments, nothing attracts women like confidence. Be yourself. You may not get as many women saying they find you attractive, but the ones who show interest will be more genuine.
Mouse
this is so true, isn't it, mouse?
to daps: i certainly don't want to see you cut off your beautiful locks, but you must do what you feel is right. but think about this - if you are willig to change your hair to attract a girl, what else are you willing to change? clothing style? personality? it's so much better to be who you are and attract someone who likes that, then to attract someone under false pretenses. (for this same reason, i am anti-wonderbras).
peace,
nic
Oh nonononono! No scissors, no hair salons, no barber shops. Where's your confidence?
Carol
If you're tired of having long hair, you think it looks bad and taking care of it sucks, then knock yourself out and grab the scissors. If you like having long hair and you think it makes you look cool, then you'd be a fool to do so.
I'll say this much. I don't know jack about girls, and I'm 20. I've never dated, never been kissed or even hugged, and I've been told at school that a lot of people seem to be afraid of me. Even if I did, I doubt I'd ever have the ability to financially support a wife and kids, much less myself. It's a classic case of nice guys finish last, I suppose.
Changing your appearance for somebody else, that's outright imbecilic to be certain. Why would you look better with long hair when you're older? The younger the better, I wish I could've been one of those rare elementary school boys with hair down to my knees. Actually, I don't know what I looked like as a child, cameras were expensive back then.
You're right though, a lot of women like short hair more than long hair. So much so, that most females I see have much shorter hair than I do, the amount of women with long hair has decreased almost as much as women with skirts, dresses, and high-heels.
It's like they want to be like men or something. I should go out dressed like a princess as an act of defiance, I'd look more like a girl than most of the women. I think there's something oddly poetic about that statement...
So, aside from the fashion statement of trying to look more masculine than I do, they also seem to be more often than not more interested in women than men. Men are supposed to be hairy and buff, women are supposed to be sleek and slender. I've heard a lot of talk, such as on buses, from bisexuals and lesbians discussing that this is why they find women more attractive. XD
People are weird, and half the time they seem to like what they're supposed to like. I run around with long hair and a long black coat half the time, and I'd still be more eccentric than that if I actually owned the house I live at. Do what you want and be who you want to be, so you can join the other 20 people who live their own way.
Unless you live in a really conservative area, girls may *prefer* short hair, but that doesn't mean they don't like long hair. I live in Canada, true its a very Liberal area but that doesn't mean people can't be jackasses to people and things they don't understand. That being said, Longhair is not really taboo here. Girls like you if your good looking and for some, nice. Hair is just a mild preference. However I suppose if your in a Conservative area, people are a product of their enviroment etc, that would be different. In that case...your choice. Cant really say what I'd do, since I cant relate...
I would not cut my hair for the purpose of attracting girls. Some like it some don't, but in the end your the one who needs to like it. I dated a girl who hated long hair and kept bugging me to cut it. Now I'm dating a girl who loves long hair and I can be myself. Being young doesn't matter either, friends I surf with have long hair and nice girlfriends. Good luck with what you decide.
Males who keep effort to maintain long hair nowadays deserve admiration for many reasons: long hair is (still) not so common, its growth takes alot of labour and patience (especially if its semi-curly, like mine, so you'd think it is growing ten times slower than straight), everyone is nagging about your looks... And if anyone wants to beat you up in a fight, he only needs to pull your hair, it's as painful as hell!
Though it may seem I was giving you the reasons to cut your hair, it ain't so. I was counting the challenges we, the long-haired, have to face. I also have to listen to my father's constant critics: "You must have your hair cut! The well-mannered people have short hair". So what's a big deal!? I respect all the people, no matter which hair length they prefer. The long hair doesn't indicate agressiveness, primitivism and hooliganism... or, if I'm wrong, Jesus, Shakespeare, Goethe, George Washington or Johann Sebastian Bach were primitive hooligans (!?)
The point is- explain to your girlfriend you like your hair, it's a part of your entity- perhaps not so big, but still a part. You love your girlfriend not matter how you look like and no matter how she looks like, and THAT's the most important! All people have flaws and so do our partners. The problem is it's much more common to criticize them for their flaws then praise their good features.