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Hi Guys. Today when I went to NYC to take my usual dance classes, I saw a guy on the subway who had great long brown hair the same length as mine. I wanted to compliment him on it, but felt kind of weird going up to a complete stranger and telling him that he had great hair, so I said nothing. When I got to the dance studio, I noticed this guy with shoulder length brown hair looking at me and he said, "I'm so beeping jealous. Your hair looks great. My hair was down to my waist and my girlfriend made me cut it because I had split ends. My parents said they were happy that I had finally cut it and I told them I was immediately growing it long again." I felt bad for the guy, but it was nice to get a compliment on my long hair. It made me feel that I should have complimented the guy I saw on the subway.
This story is in sharp contrast to 5 years ago, when I had let my hair grow for about 7 years and a bum with shoulder length, dirty brown hair shouted at me to get a hair cut. I told him that I would, when he washed his and just continued walking down Broadway.
Anything can happen in NYC.
Del
Great pictures Del, for some reason the cat looks slightly alarmed to me with that wide eyed expression!
I know what you mean about not always saying something to someone else with great hair because you don't want to be misunderstood, even though I wouldn't mind hearing something like that myself. Although all of us here are biased because talking about hair is now second nature, but it may not be to some longhairs.
Take it easy!
...you had walked by him the next day and he had washed his hair? then you'd have been in quite the sticky situation.
i've made it a point for years to compliment guys with long hair. you just never know when you're going to make someone's day. i've always hated hearing 'your friend would be cute if he cut his hair.' i guess that's why i joined up here... the world is so full of negative comments - it's nice to see the love of long hair so proudly supported!
as always, it's nice to see your bright smiling face. glad someone made it extra smiley for you!
peace,
nic
An older woman with short curly hair in a manhattan office building touched my hair hair and said I had such nice hair. She said guys always have the nicest long hair because they don't fuss with it, at which point her friend came and she did not get on the elevator with me.
Hi Del and as usual you look phenominal!!Actaully I can't wait to see you with waist length hair as even at its current length you look great already:)))) Well its always great to see your posts and I see even kitty got into the pic.I"d like to get maybe a group pic of my three cats so I'm working on them and hopefully they will be up for it sometime soon.LOL.Opal the longhaired kitty is quite the looker as she is my newest addition.
Sounds like you had a nice trip into the city but it must have been real hot today but at least the subway had to have been cool.I went in a few weeks ago on a Saturday and took a walk uptown eventually making it to Central Park and I did see several longhairs about but like you I was a bit too shy to make comments to them about their hair.Being New York and all you gotta be careful who you approach.Anyway Del I'm glad you had a good day and certainly I look forward to seeing you again.Mark
I would've done the same if I was in your shoes. He probably would've enjoyed the compliment however he could've gotten offended as well. You did the right thing, Especially living in NYC. By the way, Nice photos. Your cat seemed angry though. Maybe he was reluctant to take the photos because someone might use them for identity theft. Who knows, His face might be printed on a Friskies bag by now..................
I sometimes see a longhair at the local grocery here in hicktown, and I've been tempted to say something. But I don't, because I'm kinda shy, and because I don't know how complete strangers would react. Maybe someday I will sum up enough nerve...
Carol
PS Kitty has that "Let me out of here!" look.
Del, dont worry about it. I seem to have lost all sense of shame years ago. Today while playing a round of disc golf, a teenager walked by with his mom. His mom thought it was kinda weird but I stoped them and asked him what conditiner he uses. It apparently made his day to have his hair complimented.
Just go for it, it might be the one thing that person needed to hear
peace
I have the same problem Del. In my town I see more and more longhairs but we never say anything to one another. I, too feel odd about just blurting out that I think their hair looks great or at the very least that I'm happy that more of us are thumbing our noses at the fashion police. (maybe that would be too radical anyway) I'm basicly a shy person but I've learned to confront that inhibition over the years but not to this extent.
Keep on smiling,
Bruce
Nice stories there, del! As far as walking up to total strangers and saying a compliment or 2 about their hair, on occasion I've been known to do that. But, I have to feel in the right "mood" to be brave enough to do so, --- as well as I make sure the person I want to speak to appears, "approachable", & comes across friendly (as best as I can assess)... I also make it a point to keep the compliment as non-sexual sounding as possible (or maybe I should say, "generic" compliment), and that the person would feel safe and unthreatened in the setting as well, etc.
When I cut my hair back in Y2K, I underwent a rather odd behavioral period for a good year or more afterward, where I was WAAAY bolder than my usual self in approaching total strangers on the street, usually saying the following sentence (or something pretty similar to it, if not the exact words):
"Don't ever cut your hair short, man, --- I did, and I regret it!"
Or, here's another way I would sometimes say it:
"GREAT hair, guy! I used to have long hair, but am growing it back again now, --- hope you never make the same mistake I made, so don't cut it!"
I have NEVER had a negative response (so-far, at least); but, I do try to consistently listen to my "gut" (or intuition) before approaching anybody i don't really know.
- Ken