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Apparently, 7 months and 6 days of growth is 'frighteningly long' in her eyes and she wants me to cut it.
I told her I'd rather wait for January just to see the progress of a year but she would have none of it and called me 'gay' for trying to grow my hair out. Wow, now that's some kind, sweet loving words from my mom. -.-
Does she even realise how long I've waited to grow it out? Since 1998. When I was 7 years old. Yeah, that's how long it's been when I started realising how cool having longer hair was.
I believe she has MAJOR problems with me having long hair.
She nearly killed me (Well, not literally) when I didnt get a cut for 2 months. :S
And still, I didn't mention that in those seven months I've had 2 trims! Yes, the bangs and the back have never been touched but my sides don't even go over my ears due to me trimming it twice. I was forced and won't go into much detail... :S
So yeah, just a little rant as to how I'll never have long hair until I go to college or something. *sigh*
Also, don't start saying crap like 'it's your hair, you make your own decisions, etc'. Don't make me LOL. Well, not in this house I don't make decisions!
PS. My twin brother (not identical, thank god) is also being an ass. It got worse when he found out about this site. :S Constantly pulling my hair, calling me a f*gg*t whenever I try to push the bangs out of my eyes and whatnot.
Just a rant to, uh...let out my feelings, y'know? =(
Of course, her response is primitive and rediculous, but it would be a mistake for you to argue with her. Your best defense is to ask her to introduce you to a nice gay man, (and if you wish to push the envelope) who she might like as a son-in-law.
C.
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As someone who does have longhair and is gay tell your mom this. The majority of longhaired men are totally straight. And 99.9999% of gay men have very short treny hair, and don't want anything to do with longhair or those that have it. A gay longhaired men is a major minority.
My mom never had a clue about me until I told her, and then it came as a total shock.
Do what you want, and don't feel bad about it. Your old enough to make your own choices.
Just my thoughts
Maybe she is worried that you just might be gay? You should show her some pictures of gay pride events, and ask her how many longhairs she can indentify.
Aside from that, can you just ignore her? What is the worst she can do if you _don't_ comply with her wishes to cut it? Is she going to drag you to the hairdressers? Tie you down and start hacking with scissors? Make your life miserable in other ways? (You could do the same to her).
Or can you sit down and try communicating. If you are an otherwise good kid, perhaps you could point out the trouble you AREN'T getting into, and ask her to back off on this one thing, since you aren't causing trouble at school or elsewhere. ( assume, of course, that you aren't using/dealing drugs, getting high, drinking, driving irresponsibly, failing in school, or having constant run-ins with law enforcement.)
Carol
You are probably way too young to know any better; but truthfully, most gay men love love LOVE their hair ***SHORT***!!!!!!!!
I live in San Francisco, AKA the "Gay Mecca" of the USA, and also just so happen to belong to a non-profit organization of gay C&W dancers with a membership of over 300 people, --- and am one of only 2 guys in the entire group that have long hair (yes, you read my insinuation correctly: I am also gay).
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- Ken in San Francisco
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"www.sundancesaloon.org"
I'm seeing it now, just above where i re-typed it in quotes; but it was missing when I checked my reply... I guess there are just too many mysteries about computers that I don't understand!
- Ken
Again, to look at pics of the "average gay look" (in other words, those with SHORT hair styles), go to: www.sundancesaloon.org
Ken, you had it in between those arrow signs. Anything between arrows on the internet is automatically treated as HTML code. So if you aren't doing a proper HTML function, it simply hides the text and produces no result.
It's a shame to hear. For some reason my mum on the other hand SUPPORTS me, but my dad and brother are against it. Is there no one at all that supports it in your family?
Only my father. But he's always busy, travelling, etc. and really likes to see the progress of my hair whenever he's around. This is why I plan on keeping my hair as it is and let it grow.
Nothing at all. But I'm very close with people that smoke and drink but I don't see what that has to do with anything.
PS. I've known for quite a while that most homosexuals have short hair as I've read some topics on that matter here in the MLHH before. lol
Howdy.. figured I would share some of my knowledge
Not sure if I got this right... but short hair is considered a trait of men 'generally'. A gay man is attracted to a person with masculine features (usually men with short hair). If a gay man wants to be considered attractive amongst other gay men then obviously it would be wise to be as masculine as possible.. this doesn't mean men with long hair are unattractive but its all about what society considers attractive in a man - we are unique and we are an exception. I think members on here attract similar people in their lives.
On the other hand 'most' gay men do act very feminine and adapt some feministic behaviours which could be the reason why your mother called you gay. However, as Ken pointed out that growing long hair is a minority within the gay men community.
Take Ken's advice on this one - he has the knowledge.
Oh I think the real reason your mother called you gay was simply to control and manipulate you, I don't think she even considered you as being gay if she is aware of the fact that there are few gay men with long hair. You are a nonconformer and a powerful individual (like myself and others here). Do not let your family distort what you want out of life.
Peace and keep it growing bro
Ryan
I agree. Sometimes family members will say anything to get you to conform.
For example, one moment they will say that you are growing long hair to be 'in' and that you should cut it to be an individual, and then when that doesn't work they will change tack and say that long hair isn't in anymore and that you should cut it to be up to date with the in crowd. That actually happened to me when I was younger. It would be funny if only it weren't the absolute truth.
So, if your mum says that you look gay this week, be prepared for her to say that you look rough next week. Not that these two things are mutually exclusive, of course, but that's not the point.
Tricky trick to try.
Say there is this guy who really really likes you...with really short hair. However, he wants you to cut your hair short. And your response is you want to keep your hair long so he stops liking you...and that you want to have long hair because you do not want to be gay.
Thanks for your advice, Ryan.
Antesse: Trick her into thinking I have a gay stalker? No thanks... :S
Okay, so perhaps it is a bit risky. Instead try telling her that all the girls like guys with long hair and you want to grow your hair out so you can get a pretty girl. I guess that works well too.
Damn! Looks like you're in a tough situation, if it would've been someone in my family i would get so mad i don't know what i would do.
But you do seem to have a cool dad, seeing as he's the one who supports you rather than your mum, usually it's the other way around.
Marth, man, that was "low" of your mother. Interestingly enough (or not), lotsa the guys here are "gay", and personally I mean sexually variant, and I'm married, not dumb, or stupid, or tacky, or out-of-style, which are meanings that "gay" has come to connotate these 21st century dats. I'm sorry that you're up against opposition abt. your hair.
Yours in longhaired camaraderie,
Quenyan