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I posted a link to my site over at the b_zzboard and I'm being told that I'm too old to have long hair. Geez, I'm only 29. I agree if hair gets too thin or receded then it may not look as good but I don't think I'm to that stage yet.
If one has decent hair, why should age have to be a factor in how long it is?
Lol. Too old at 29? i'm only 23 now but i plan on having long hair for the rest of my life. Don't listen to what others say, do what makes you happy. Who cares if they don't like it as long as you do, and by the way, there are men much much older than you with really long hair.
I am 22 and don't want to cut my Hair in ne near future ! Maybe when i am really old, but this is now far away already !
I'm 53 now - sigh... and I am letting my hairs grow since close to 3 years. They are now midback (after a 4 inches trim lately) and I like them very very much - it is a great source of satisfaction for me and I have no intention to cut them (except for a little trim once in a while). I am lucky to have them all (well most of them) and almost no gray one so I feel lucky and see it as my chance to acouplish that dream.
I know that many people don't like that but we nned to learned to live with that as long as we like it and that are proud of our self image.
Keep on, it worth it if it is what you want.
Yours
Jean
When I read "too old for longer hair" I thought you were gonna say you were 80 or something. The definition of "old" seems to keep getting younger. If you like it thats all that matters.
delta9dude
When are you too old to have long hair? When you are dead.
Life is too short, if you want long hair, by all means go for it.
after 50 years of GI and Corporate hair I started letting my hair grow long at my mother's suggestion.
I'm nearly 57 now and my hair's down to my butt and I love it!
I'm the graying longhair whose part you can see. This was at a concert in Golden Gate Park near Haight Street. The event photographer took this great shot of me and two nearby graying longhairs. Never too old for long hair!
I'm 51 years old going on to 52!
Like so many other things, when people tell you what you cannot do just as you are about to do something differnt, they are really telling you about their own fears and wishes. Of course, they have laid it all over you. You have to recognize this, and then let it go.
A man recently, in a round about way admiring my long hair, told me that he was too gray and too old to let his hair grow out (interpretation: I would really like to grow my hair long, too!). I observed to him that we were the same age. That ended the conversation. Recently, a teacher colleauge approached me and told me that a teaching method I was using she would not tolerate (she's head of my department). She said that no one in the department taught that way. She was telling me that what I was doing was frightening her and she didn't know how to handle it. I persisted and told her she had to wait and see what the results would be. She was telling me about her, not about me. Fortunately, our adminnstrators supported me. When someone hands you a "rule" that comes from outside your own experience, they are showing your their own limits--and trying to make them yours. Now, what is your experience, your desire, your life's direction? Go do it.
Robert
Hey Stanley, I checked out your pix and your hair doesn't qualify, yet, for your claim to be a "longhair"...there are posts on this site for qualifying "stats". Your haircut looks conservative to say the least.
I don't claim to be a longhair. I said that I was told that I was too old to have longER hair. Since my bangs are almost 7 inches, I feel this qualifies as longer hair than the average man.
I'm almost 52, and my hair's solidly down to my waist; I've had it long since the 60's. The most common objection to it that I've received over the years is, "When are you going to grow up and cut your hair?" so I know how irritated you must feel. Both that question, and the comments you're getting, make the assumption that the possession of long hair is the prerogative of youth, which we can all tell you is patently ridiculous. BTW, women fall victim to this sort of thinking, as well; my wife, whose hair is exceedingly long, is often told that she should opt for a shorter and more "mature" hairdo, as "befits" her age <!!!!>.
The bottom line: It's *your* hair, on *your* head, so grow it to whatever length *you* like.
Cheers!
Kay
Consider the source... BUZZboard
I take it they don't like longer hair as a rule.
True, however, I think it would have been better for those guys to state why they didn't like the longer hair rather than claim I'm too old to have it. By the way, their comments don't affect me as far as making me want to cut it. I just found it irritating.
From the FidoNet back in 1990, I dug this up:
Jack Decker: Not o.k. (as in, no, I don't agree). You make the all too common mistake of thinking that everyone else thinks the same way that you do. As you have matured, you should have learned that this is seldom the case. Individuals tend to think INDIVIDUALLY. It may surprise you to learn that I am 38 years old, so I'm not a teenager anymore by any stretch of the imagination. But some of us don't lose ALL of our ideals as we grow older. Again, this is where people differ... some folks take the attitude that if everyone else is willing to compromise what they believe, they might as well do it, too. But there ARE others who feel that if a principle was worth standing up for at 18, it's still worth standing up for at 38, unless you get new information that causes you to reevaluate the principle.
Jack Decker: In any case, you should not presume to tell people what they will do as they mature... that is VERY presumptuous on your part, and will not cause you to be thought highly of by people of any age. If there is one universal truth that everyone should realize (and most will outwardly agree with this statement, but inwardly people just don't want to believe this), it is: THE REST OF THE WORLD DOES NOT THINK AS YOU DO. No two people have the same temprament, intensity of feeling, life experiences, or any of several other factors that might cause them to think differently than you do. In fact, one of the most common reasons for employer dissatisfaction with an employee (in my opinion) is that the employer has certain mental expectations of the employee but fails to communicate them to the employee, thinking that "any reasonably intelligent person (that is, anyone who thinks as I do!) would know what I want here." When the employee does not perform as expected (because his thinking patterns are different than that of his employer), the employer blames the employee rather than understanding that it is necessary to communicate your expectations to your employee (and to understand that in some cases, your employee may have his own thinking patterns that make it difficult for him to conform to your expectations, and that does not necessarily make him a bad person, although it may make him incompatible with your firm).
Jack Decker: One other observation... people who have compromised many of their principles seem to feel the need to denigrate those who are still holding fast to theirs. Just like the alcoholic who can't stand to be around folks who have gone "on the wagon"... it makes them look bad by comparison, so they seem to feel the need to make nasty cracks about such folks. By the same token, people who tend to be conformists for some reason just can't stand to leave a non-conformist alone (even when the non-conformity is not hurting anyone else). I remember having a high school teacher in the '60's who did not smoke (not common in his generation) and who was amazed at the number of people who put him down because he did not pass out cigars when his first child was born (even though he couldn't stand the smelly things). But I would really hate to be in a world where EVERYONE thought and acted just alike, wouldn't you? Sure would be boring...
I'am 52. From buzz 00 to 10 months of growth.
Took a lot of ribbing but just in the last couple
of weeks it seems to have cooled down and nobody
is asking how long I am going to let it grow
- cuz I tell them I don't know - cuz I want it
probably longer than they realize!
Similar situation. I'm 54. Last haircut was last April with a trim in the back to help the front/sides catch up. Pony tail is now at 5 1/2 inches.
Interesting, same "series" of comments from friends/family. But, folks are now starting to say they like it. Even at work - expecially the gals.
I personally belong to the people who always liked long hair, for males and females, and I always liked it on me. Currently I often think about hair care and what is to do to let it look healthy.
As a consequence I don't take care if people think long hair should only exist insite a certain age intervall, there exist a lot of different likings I don't share, but there exist also a lot of people who share my own thoughts.
I think many things are more important than hair and a lot of problems have to be solved to improve the living conditions for human beings, but why should I negate long hair likings if it can give so much joy?
wolfgang