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Don't worry though, I am not going to cut my hair off and start again. I will just continue growing my hair out, WITHOUT anymore trims.
The last trim I had was about a month ago, and my hair has grown a little since then, but I DO want long hair. Shoulder length to be exact.
I would like to apologise to people like Urban Cowboy, etc for doing it. I have now set my heart on being a long hair, and I will just grow it.
I have found a new way to get trough the awkward stage, I have bought myself a black stretchy hair band thing. Not an alice band, just a headband. It keeps the hair out of my face, and it makes it easy to dry.
I am really enjoying the way my hair looks with the band. It don't look too girly or anything like that. I like it.
And I promise to carry on growing without ANY more trims. I should be ok.
- Chris PhoeniX -
Hi Chris,
Well it's a familiar story we have read time and time again but that is human nature and we learn by our mistakes. So remember NO more trims lol and we now we know you are resolved to trim it anymore. I being positive here. If it helps I only had 2 trims during the initial 2 years I started growing my hair our and it's just being patient and keep positive during the awkward phase and let the band will really help.
Keep it growing.
Cheers,
John.B
yeah, the band is a life saver. I wish I discovered it before I trimmed my hair though..
- Chris PhoeniX -
Thing is buddy you still have short hair and you're finding a lot of problems already and resorting to cutting. What will happen once you get to nose length, or chin? I'm not discouraging you as we all go through it but you need to forget about the hair, your paying attention to too many small details far too early imho. Anyways good luck bro.
-animosity
I agree completely with animosity. It is a bit harsh, but true, thinking about your hair so much will only bring out its flaws......err, rather what you consider flaws and what the rest of us consider to be natural....
Aside from that, I am pleased to hear that you have given up trims. I would forgo the scissors for atleast 2 years then see where you are.
best of wishes
peace
clayton
yeah thats pretty much it, whenever I look at my hair and some is sticking out or whatever i just think , meh, less is doing it now.
it seems like you are going product mad on your hair already, maybe your styling gel is OK for what will possibly be long hair soon, but you already dyed it at like 2 months...
personally i dont worry about the style of my hair as much now.. that's one thing i like about the journey of growing, it's given me confidence to not care as much what i look like to others
That is very kind of you to apologize; but, I never felt I was really "owed" an apology from you (but hey, thanks, anyway - lol)!!
If anything, I should apologize to you for my sarcasm, --- but, I can't help it sometimes, though, as I'm just that way....
The only apology you really owe is to yourself, --- actually, to your HAIR (lol). It's your head of protein strands, of course, so you should always feel free to do whatever you wish with your own head of hair! But, since it does indeed sound like you'd like to have long hair someday, then this is why so many of us have spoken up and said things to try to guide you away from giving yourself so many trims, that's all....
Hey, we've all "been there" (myself included). This is why we say the things we do, --- because many of us have had to learn some very hard and disappointing lessons, which we are happy to share with others so they can be identified & avoided, if possible. But, the great, "School of Life" is really all about the learning, --- whether we learn the lessons through reading about it; or, whether we have to experience the lessons first-hand... as long as we don't repeat the same mistakes, we've learned whatever the lesson is that we've needed to learn (whether the lesson is about hair, or whether it be about something else... like maybe, hopefully CHOCOLATE - lol!)
Anyway, my best to you!!
- Ken
Thanks for the good words. :) Means alot to me.
- Chris PhoeniX -
No need to apologize in the slighest. What has happened to you has been played-out on this board for years by all kinds of guys, most of whom regret.
Sometimes learning the hard way (though the most painful) is the best lesson of all.
So now just let your hair grow and enjoy your journey into having long hair.
best of luck to you.
Hi Chris, listen mate, you dont have to apologise to anybody,but you do have to decide, do i want long hair?.I joined this great community back in january, and started up with a skinhead, a haircut i have had for over 20 years. So i understand how hard and frustrating the awkward stage can be, but you must perservere Chris. Dont even think about your hair, just let nature do its thing. ( you have a fast growth rate anyway).Chris i wish you luck on this journey, and people on this site would give you the upmost respect if you could stay away from scissors totally, and just let it grow. In 18 months from now you could have the hair you want, and also you would build so much character as well. Good luck dude, Jonny H uk
I'm not sure why, but this is meaningful to me. Thanks for the great words. And yes, I do want long hair. Short hair isn't for me, at all.
- Chris PhoeniX -
So far, your actions have proven otherwise.
True. But I really do want long hair now. To prove it, I WILL grow it long. No more trims. I promise.
- Chris PhoeniX -
Just don't grow it to prove anything to anyone else but yourself. I couldn't care less what you do with your hair, but I've grown weary of people like you who come here professing their desire to grow their's, only to keep cutting it when it becomes too unruly for them to maintain.
I didn't grow waist-length hair by cutting it. And I grew it because I was sick to death of wearing it short. I desperately wanted it long, but I had no idea what it would look like, least of all any idea what I was in store for with the awkward stage. Suffice it to say, I love the results, and haven't had it cut in 17 years. My hair has reached its terminal length, and I couldn't be happier. Now I plan on dying as an old man with waist-length hair.
If you want it long, then grow it long. But stop getting it cut and then coming here to apologize for doing so. This board is not your's or anyone else's Father Confessor.
you want to know the best way to get through growing your hair long, don't think about to much, just let it grow!! if it looks funny one day and fine another day thats ok. I have thick hair and when I first started growing my hair out it was huge and I got nothing but shit about from friends, family and co workers, I have learned to just sit back and enjoy the journey. Long hair rules!!
Yeah that's just what I did. after a while you get with it, and what once seemed crazy just seems ok. its all opinion anyway :P
Hi Chris,
No apologies necessary, and I am happy that you have found a solution that works for you to deal with the awkward phase. Now just avoid the scissors, and KEEP IT GROWING!
All the best,
David
Jesus will forgive you forever, but the church parishioners won't. You can only beg for forgiveness so many times. Eventually, they'll say, "Yeah, right."
You can say you're sorry for committing crimes only so many times; eventually the judge will say, "Yeah, right."
This is a supportive place, but some guys are starting to tease you a bit. This is their way of telling you that you're on the verge of crossing the line about which I speak. Your support if you don't "get with the plan" is about to end.
There is only one way to get long hair, and that is to put down the scissors for a few years. The guys are telling you that you should know that by now.
I'd sign this "Good luck with your growing," but your folicles are growing just fine. Instead, I'll say, "Good luck with your not trimming."
Bill
I know that i also made a mistake when i got my hair cut, but i think it was for the best seeing as it was dyed and damaged, but i've really learned from my mistake, and hope that you have as well, anyway i'm really lookin forward to your future progress Chris, i know that your hair will look kickass once it's long enough!:D
Simon
Right on. Keep it growing. Patience, young grasshopper.
Hey Chris, you don't need to apologise for what you do to your own hair, but just stay away from the trims. You want long hair, but you don't want to take forever!
Take care,
Bruce