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there's no one telling me i have to have long hair, i want it though, it would seem simple make the decision and stick with it, why do i have contrary thoughts, it's not the most intense goal in life to have long hair but it would be cool, i like this board cause i see guys with long hair now keeping it and maintaining it and talking about the subject, cause i would think im over the top for having so much nrg vested in this/ but since i bet some of the guys have had a couple intense feelings about thier hair through the growing it out process it s cool to vent also any guys get teased or wish thier long hair wasn'r such a big deal,,, really any guys ever get intense urge to get it cut.... how do decide not too?
Well, just think of it this way. Its hair, and if it doesn't look good, for $10-20 there's someone willing to cut it all off for you.
You've probably built it up into something that its not. Maintenance? Longer showers by 5 or 10 minutes and remembering to keep your head up around fans and food.
And being teased comes with the hair, especially in Middle School but also in High School. People just seem close minded at that age. Girls never had a problem with it, just the guys.
Oh, and the only intense feeling I've ever had for my hair is love, lol. Barring the awkward periods its been nothing but good times.
Basically I just grew it. I saw little need to cut it as it looked good each time I looked in the mirror. Before then, I just got a haircut because someone mentioned I "needed" one. And like eating vegetables and doing my homework, I did it because I was told to. Of course I eat veggies and do my work but I realized cutting hair was not a "need" and that I liked my hair the way it was and I liked it a little more each day and now I love it.
On a side note, and I may elaborate on this at some other time (and I owe the board my grass analogy as well, will get to work on it soon), but my hair also has a spiritual connection to me. When I started growing and making those decisions to grow it out, I was also making some significant changes in my faith and my religion, becoming more active and stronger. And so now, my hair is a reminder of how and when I started on a road of faith. When it is even longer I can look at it and see the years spent faithful and spiritual. That and I look like an apostle...or so people claim.
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Interestingly, I made the decision to let my hair grow when I left my lifelong religion to be an atheist. lol! Basically one way to let anyone and everyone know that my body belongs to ME. Well, to each his/her own, right?
To the original poster, I'd be lying if I said I never think about cutting my hair. Even in my fundamentalist days, I always thought long hair looked best on the young, not that I was ever permitted that option. Well, I'm not so young anymore and the hair on top ain't as thick as it used to be, but I'm going to do this thing anyway, because I can.
David
David
I think the issue is more than just one of hair: it is about one's identity. Often ,those of us who stay on the path long enough, come to be known AS someone with long hair, just as we all knew Alex Trebec from Jeopardy had a moustache. Going from being a longhair to short hair (or other way 'round) doens't necessarily change who you are as a person, but the expectations others have about what you're supposed to look like take time to adjust. The same is true for yourself when looking in the mirror and expecting a certain, shorter, more "clean cut" look but seeing the shaggy (or poofy) inbetween stage instead. (It takes a while - Heck, I think I am still a little off-put by Alex Trebec's hairless upper lip!)
While it can feel unstavle, try to stick with the decision you've made, givei it an honest efoort and assess at the end to see if it is what yo whant,
Good luck!
Shawn (Mr. Crow)
In order to get through the rough spots(awkward stage), you have to just wait it out. Right now my hair looks like a poofy helmet, but i know that if i wait a few months it will start to look better. Nice long hair comes with time. The hardest part is impatience, and the best way to eliminate the feeling of impatience is to not think about the length of your hair, or how fast it's growing. Time seems to go by slower when you watch the clock, and it's the same thing with hair growth. As for people teasing you and saying they don't like it and that you "need" a haircut. Ignore it. If you're growing your hair because it's something you want to do, then it shouldn't matter what other people think. It also depends on where you live on how people will react. But anyway, i've rambled enough, lol. good luck with your hair growing!