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my mom keeps on saying how much she hates my hair. its a little past my ears, not to long yet, but everyday she keeps saying u should trim it or get it cut,
what should i say to her.
"Up yours biaaaaatch!"
Or something similar less aggressive and more contructive. :)
Just say that you have no intentions of doing such as you desire to have long hair. This is a typical type scene that all too many guys hear at 1st from parents and friends(?) when all of a sudden doing something different.
Funny thing, but as long as you can keep from giving in the better. "If" you give in to her pressure now you will lose most likely any attempts in the future while still living in that house. Once the hair has grown long, compliments are suddenly heard! :-)
Stand firm and state your business next time she attacks. And after that ignor her statements. For a mother to tell a son that she hates his hair I find to be rather cruel and certainly unrespective to yourself. Does this mean she would only love you as long as she molds you as to her own personal likes?
(No answer needed.)
Best of luck to you.
Yes, what kind of thoughtful parent does a thing like that?
James, surprise her an give her a compliment every time she nags. Remind her that she raised you well so that you can make your own choices and this is one of them. Of course if she is as disrespectful as she sounds that will go straight over her head. Sadly, so would any logic about you being the same good man you have always been.
Maybe something more direct would work with her. Perhaps you can head off every hair conversation with the same simple greeting every time you see her spoken with a smile and a twinkle in your eye- "I haven't forgotten you hate my hair. Now, what has been going on with you?"
Elizabeth
If it helps my "mum" always made comments about me and my sisters hair and how it always looked better short. Even this day and we have both grown up and left home she still makes comments, but we are both taller than here now...lol...and we have a good laugh about it.
Mums just like to be protective and think they can rule our lives and they always know that is best for us!
Cheers,
John.B
My mom doesn't really have a problem with my hair, but my dad and my aunts have plagued me about it for almost two full years now. I always get called a hippie, a drug addict, or even Jesus Christ by random strangers (the first two from my own family, also). I guess it really depends on the person. Some people will be persistent about it, while others might give up after like a year (I know, it's a nagging pain). I suggest simply stating that it's your individual style choice. If that doesn't work, you can name some other things that your parents should be glad that you're not doing. I told them "At least I'm not out committing crimes, doing drugs, dying my hair pink, or having a thousand piercings hanging off my skin." Haha...After all, I still don't understand where society gets the idea that long hair is bad. It makes no logical sense.
I'm sorry about that. My parents hated my hair until my school and myself got in a fight over it. Now they won't let me cut it.
I would try to explain to your mother that it it is your hair and that you have a right to wear it however you want.
sorry, I'm not much help.
Possible responses:
Mom: "I hate your hair."
Son: "Fine. I hate how you keep harping about my hair."
Mom: "You should trim it, or get it cut."
Son: "I'm sorry you feel that way, I happen to like it just as it is."
When you respond, keep walking past her, or leave her presence. Don't stop, don't argue, say nothing and ignore her. Besides, teenagers are supposed to be good at that 'tuning out the 'rents' type of thing. :-P
Carol
Mom,
This is me.
Be calm and make eye contact and tell her that it makes you feel good to have longer hair. You are really liking it etc. Really just have a conversation and be calm and even listen to her (even if you don't like or agree with what she has to say) and don't get all upset (or try not to). I think she would be more apt to listen and respect your decision more if you had a calm thorough conversation about it.
Another thing if comments still ensue, don't argue about it. Just smile and say something non confrontational. I don't know.. like "Yes, I know" (in response to her saying she doesnt like it etc) Or if she says something along the lines of you look like ___(example: raggamuffin)__ Just smile and say thank you. I'm sure she'll grow tired of complaining all the time. At least her complaints will most likely grow farther apart..
Hi SearMeCarefully,
Is that really you, from the LHC? (waving) It is GREAT to see you here! Hopefully, I will see you around the hyperboard more often, feel free to pop in ANYTIME!
My best to you,
David