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First question? My hair is really girlie and I really mean that! girls are so jeoulous of how nice it is... it is really shinie and straight.. so is there anything i can do to make it more manly?? oh and also its to girlie to wear out so i always have to pony tail it.....
Second question... I hear this alot " oh Josh you would be so good looking with short hair " and " man you'd get so much girls if you cut it" is that really the way girls think? If I ike my long hair I should be able to have it... but if it keeps me from having a girlfriend... I live in australia somaybe its different here.. but tell me what you think
Be proud of how good condition your hair is in, a lot of guys would kill to have hair as healthy and shiny as yours, myself included. Long hair wont prevent you from getting a girlfriend, there are a lot of girls that like long hair, although there are a lot that don't.
First answer. Be happy with your hair. But in order to make it appear more manly while keeping it in good health, just be less concerned about style. Wake up, shower, and quickly style it instead of paying close attention to exact appearances. I guess my avatar shows this "style" or lack of style. (I too have really nice hair) By not caring about your hair and still caring for it, you can achieve your goal. As for the ponytail, I do not exactly see that as more or less manly. Find a style you like for comfort and minimal fuss--this will make your hair just be hair instead of being special like a girl's hair. Personally, I see my hair as special and sometimes think about styles and such.
Second answer. There are girls who like long hair. You'll find them. Of course there are girls who have narrow criteria and you'll end up not fitting those criteria in some way forcing a change-or-leave choice. And so, you are not missing much by looking for a girl who likes or accepts your hair. A few pointers and suggestions though. Let it grow out some. I do not know its length now but the transition stages make every person look bad and now that mine is longer, no one comments anymore. And, take into account the girl you are dating/courting/looking for. If your hair is overshadowing her, there may be a problem. Guys are supposed to be easy compared to the complexity of girls. And so if on a date, your hair should not distract from her appearance. You may also want to keep your hair shorter than hers. And if both of you have a fancy hairstyle, hers should look better and more complex than yours.
First answer. Be happy with your hair. But in order to make it appear more manly while keeping it in good health, just be less concerned about style. Wake up, shower, and quickly style it instead of paying close attention to exact appearances. I guess my avatar shows this "style" or lack of style. (I too have really nice hair) By not caring about your hair and still caring for it, you can achieve your goal. As for the ponytail, I do not exactly see that as more or less manly. Find a style you like for comfort and minimal fuss--this will make your hair just be hair instead of being special like a girl's hair. Personally, I see my hair as special and sometimes think about styles and such.
Second answer. There are girls who like long hair. You'll find them. Of course there are girls who have narrow criteria and you'll end up not fitting those criteria in some way forcing a change-or-leave choice. And so, you are not missing much by looking for a girl who likes or accepts your hair. A few pointers and suggestions though. Let it grow out some. I do not know its length now but the transition stages make every person look bad and now that mine is longer, no one comments anymore. And, take into account the girl you are dating/courting/looking for. If your hair is overshadowing her, there may be a problem. Guys are supposed to be easy compared to the complexity of girls. And so if on a date, your hair should not distract from her appearance. You may also want to keep your hair shorter than hers. And if both of you have a fancy hairstyle, hers should look better and more complex than yours.
Hair is neither female or male, it's just hair. The ability to grow it as a male, means you were meant to wear it just as a girl would. You can't make it 'manly' because there is really no such thing as manly. As for the jealous girls, offer them some hairtips. If yours is shiney and straight, and theirs is not, it's most likely because you are not blowfrying, flatironing, perming, bleaching, dying, or do the numerous other things girls do to their hair as slaves to fashion. They are most likely jealous because your hair is HEALTHY, and theirs is not, because they damaged it.
If the girls are jealous, maybe they secretly like it! Take it from 'this girl', not all members of the fairer sex think that way (shorter hair is better). There is a minority out there of ladies who think long hair on males is natural, masculine, attractive and sexy. If you cut your hair to have a girlfriend, was she worth sacrificing your hair for? If a girl is going to be picky about how you wear your hair, is she going to be tolerant of other personal choices you make in expressing your individuality. I live in the US, but your worry about getting the girl is virtually universal.
Carol
Australia is no different from any place else on the planet that seems so brain-washed into thinking that men should all cut their hair short. That's the Fashion Police talking, --- they are here in North America, just as much as Down Under.
The answer to your 1st question is to simply add a beard and/or mustache to your look, --- and then you will be free to enjoy your beautiful hair without any question of it looking, "girlie"... especially considering I don't know of any bearded or mustacheoed women who are highly sought after by strait men!
The answer to your second question is told in a story about my grandfather, who was married all his life to a tiresome nag of a wife. Whenever my grnadmother would nag at him too much, he would simply turn off his hearing aide, and then sit with a big smile on his face, "What's that? I can't hear you, Nelle!" (her real name was "Ellen"; but he called her "Nelle", --- which is Ellen spelled backwards, and he pronounced like, "bell")...
I realize you are probably way too young to need a hearing aide; but, age has nothing to do with the fact that maybe it's time to PRETEND you're hard of hearing!
- Ken in San Francisco
Withoug a picture it's hard to suggest anything specific but facial hair is a good idea and nothing wrong with pony tails.
I know lts of longhaired guys who hae no problem getting girlfriends and in my opinion they aren't exactly worthy of some of the women in their life but oh well.
Well if the girls like your hair that's one way to start a conversation with them and from there they get to see the guy beneith the hair cause that's what gets them in the end. We get this question a lot and the answer is the same. Some girls I'm sure wont date you with the hair and maybe that's good maybe you really don't want to have them as girlfriends. The girlfriend you want is one that wants all of you not just whats on the outside. Besides you didn't grow your hair so other people would like it I assume you grew it cause you liked it. If you project that self confidence and dismiss their comments they'll stop saying that eventually.
Good luck
Kevin
I agree, facial hair helps . . . even scraggly. Or, you could give yourself a pep talk every time someone decides to make you feel bad about your decision to be what you want to be. Just chant in your mind, "I'm doing this because I want to...for me." and "I like it this way." and "My opinions about myself are the most important."
Thank you everyone for your help. I usually don't listen to girls anyway if they don't like it, I just turn off my imaginary hearing aid, or like one lady asked "why do you have long hair?" and I just repied "cos I like it" thats always the best answer. Good to see there is people on my side , wish there was more around me though!
Oh and also another thing I can't grow a beard and moustache yet i'm 19 and have a hairless baby face haha. But ponytail does't worry me that is my style!
Two answers:
Show us a picture.
Show us a picture.
Cal
they aint very good
I don't think your hair looks girly when it's down. It looks very nice actualy. I couldn't see your face, so I could be wrong but I think it would be fine. As for cutting it short, yes, more women will find you "classicaly" attractive. I know I will get alot of hassle from other members when I say this, but it's true. Women, just like men, have been convinced by our society that long hair on men is a bad thing. The point though, is that just becuase they find you attractive, doesn't mean you find them attractive. And you certainly won't date someone you arent attracted to. So in all honesty, if you cut your hair, your amount of potental mates may not increase at all. I wouldn't cut it short. However, if you're tired of tailing it, just get it styled. You have alot of hair, maybe try some layering. I myself am not a fan on just long hair. Once i get to my goal length (perhaps at a few stages in between) I will get mine styled. Just a personal choice.
well maybe you can't tell from just two pics... I've often thought of styling it, but i do not know what i can do with it? for starters becasue it is so soft its hard for it to stay in a styled position... ( wheter that makes sense?) yeah my hair is kinda boring.. different but boring? maybe a more fashion style
would look good?
maybe a more fashion style
Often times, I find that the men who have really good hair, one length and without a stlye, are unfortunately described as girly. I guess it just reminds people of the long flowing locks and pony tails of little girls. I think my favorite long (shoulder length) hair stlye is actualy one like David Spade's. His hair looks "girly" but it's fashionable. I think the point is that hair is unisex, and so are hairstyles. So regardless of gender, choose a style that you like, and makes you feel/look good. Just growing you hair out, no matter how nice it is, won't do that for everyone. Some look great, and some cut and style it. It's all up to you. Give a style a shot, what have you got to loose?